AIBU.. Mother REFUSING to change her son's Nappy.

[CraigN24]

Would just like to start off and say I am. Full time daddy to a beautiful 7 year old little boy who has a wide range of learning difficulties and that his birth mother can only see him if she is supervised!

Today I am Best man at my very good friends Wedding and the plan is to go to the church for the wedding then go to celebrate with a few drinks. My son will only attend the Church service.

My son will not be going to the party after because struggle with lots of people( 300 people going to the party!) and it will be very late and loud. The plan is to leave him at home with his mother and Auntie ( so he will be supervised) so I can go and celebrate and give speeches etc. This is my first night out this year and I have been looking forwarding to celebrating with my best friend... HOWEVER his birth Mother has got in contact to say if he needs his nappy changing she will NOT change it because she cannot stomach nappies and poo and wee!

AIBU to think tough?! It's her son and she is lucky to be able to see him ( she has only just came into his life after not wanting him due to her life choices consisting of drink - she is now clean) This means that if he needs changing I will need to come away from the party to change him or his Auntie will need to do it..

I don't plan to return home until tomorrow so it's likely he will do a poo and will need changing in the morning ! Before hand she didn't mention the nappies and has just mentioned it ( before hand she hasn't needed to change him)

This is the only night I can properly let my hair down and enjoy a drink but I got a feeling it won't happen because of her not taking her role seriously!

[KittensandKnitting]

Bloody hell penguin! Why immediately on the attack!

Firstly some women are exactly like this. Just as there are useless self centered fathers, there are useless self centered mothers. So I get this and no if as described she really wouldn't just change a nappy she really would call him, expect him to drop everything run to look after what she considers "his" child - change shit for sick and I've seen the situation happen.

And secondly why the hell shouldn't he get told what a good job he is doing, it's bloody hard for any single parent, many question if they are doing a good enough job and leaving a DC with a parent who has been absent and is also useless is petrifying, because you are torn between doing what you think is right for the child/what is possibly right for the child and what isn't at all right for the child and you smile through gritted teeth when they are excited seeing the NRP - and then also you really want a break.

Nobody mentioned anything about the fact his penis made him some form of hero, I expect the PP your pointing fingers at would say exactly the same if it was a woman, you would possibly have ten pages of "well done your doing a good job"from various people.

I should imagine for the OP it is nice to here someone say your doing a good job, hang in there and yes you bloody deserve a night out.

Love to hear how it went OP.

[CraigN24]

Thankyou very much everyone for your kind messages and support, it really does mean a lot.. I am far from perfect but I try my best, like any other parent would ( well most)

It was a bit of a mixed night, many smiles but alot of tears..

I left little man with his Auntie and his Mum and Auntie managed to change him ... Which was brilliant!

My (was ex) partner ( Gay daddy) and I managed to sort out our differences and we decided to try again .. My son loves him and missed him terribly

However during the night I got a phone call saying I needed to get to the hospital quickly because our grandad was seriously ill..: was absolutely heart broken, but my partner has been so supportive and has been brilliant with little man during this hard time.

[KittensandKnitting]

I'm glad you managed to have your night :)

And very sorry to hear about your grandad, I hope everything is ok now