So, me and my DH were falling asleep on the sofa the other night, him because he'd just done his last of four night shifts in a row and me because I can't remember what sleep is (9week old baby), when a little ping came from his phone, signalling a Facebook message.
It was his Sisters SO And they were very angry with myself and DH.
Here is my little back story; I have four DC's. 3 primary school age and two DC's have ASD and so we are plagued with various appointments and therapies always, daily life with work and kids and obviously a baby keeps you busy, DH works 12 hour nights every weekend for shit wages and generally, life is hectic. On top of this DH and I were both dumbshits silly with credit when we were younger so we're broke as hell, which we have been for a few years now and it's no secret to DH's family.
Anyway, DSIL is a bit precious, MIL's favourite, and a few weeks ago had a DD... Here's why They were mad:
DH didn't comment "congratulations" or like the Facebook announcement of her DD's birth.
Come to think of it, DH doesn't like or comment on any of the pictures of their DS or DD! And he doesn't make the 70 odd mile trip regularly to go visit them in their home they decided to move to away from the rest of their family! He should have been down there to visit their DD and-her words-they don't care that our DC's have ASD and that DH works or that the DC's have to be dropped off and picked up from school at set times when DH is off-or even that we can't afford to go back and too via train to them every week, we should damn well go and see the new baby! And of course, they like and comment on all the pictures of our DC's that I put on Facebook, and I'm on Facebook all the time! Why can't we just like and comment!!!
Yep, everything kept coming back to likes and comments on Facebook.
Now, I'll give them one thing, DH hasn't texted or facebooked his sis about her DD's arrival. But I did from both of us after the last time she pulled this shit when her DS was younger. They never even told us the kid was borne. I found out the day after when MIL called to inform gloat about it. because this isn't the first time this argument has come up and I'm not a people person, but DH asked me not to be a twat to leave it alone to keep the peace last time.
I only just ooh and aah over my own children, I'm not arsed about other peoples. Sorry not sorry but I'm just not at all a maternal person outside my own DC's and DH is a real life interacted rather than an Internet socialiser.
They work part time off and on between them and live mostly on benefits, and of course they only had one child until a few weeks ago so they pass our own struggles off as unimportant.
MIL reckons DH needs to get his shit together and step up as an uncle because it's upsetting, don't you know, for a new mum to be stressed like this (
hi there, I just had a baby a few weeks previous to your precious) and take money we don't have to buy a train ticket ( ) on a Monday after he finishes work to go visit SIL and come back ready for his night shift () and only take baby DD who is EBF, without me though because I'm not invited, so I can handle the school runs and the two baby cousins can be BFF's
So, AIBU to want to tell DSIL to get a grip and shove Facebook where the son don't shine? And tell MIL to get buggered?
I have a bunch of sisters who I talk to once a month at a busy time and I have 16 nephew a and nieces between them lot who I don't like or comment on every picture of on blooming Facebook either.