Who (if anybody) is being unreasonable here?

[DuvetDayEveryday]

Person A ordered an item worth £100 which went to the wrong address and was therefore lost. The company sent another one, and then typically the original one was located. So she has two items.

Her sister asked if she could have the spare one. She was told she could have it for £50. She declined, saying that it was wrong of her sister to be profiting from the mistake and unless she was happy to give it away for free she should send it back to the company.

Who IBU?

I am neither of the people involved but do have an opinion. I was interested to see if it's the majority opinion.

That was not right of your mum and it makes me wonder if there isn't a history of taking Bs side in things? Just have to hope now this doesn't blow a small disagreement into a big fight

AHellOfABird - I agree with vouchers and things, but if my sibling was in need of something and I had one I hadn't paid for, I would let them have it and would ask for minimal payment, if any. We do have a very good relationship, though, so I guess that makes a big difference.
Thinking about it, though, I wouldn't think they were BU if they didn't give me the bin even if I needed it (they would, but that's irrelevant), so I do actually agree with you.

Agree as well that feeling entitled to it would make a difference.

So your Mother has stolen her daughter's bin?

That is completely out of order!

Tbh sister A could easily have given it to sister B to eBay for a bit of extra money if she's broke. There's not much point in having a £100 bin if you've no money in your purse.

Didn't you read the OP's post where she said that the company told her she could keep the bin, Alasalas2?

Alas the company have told A she can keep the bin.

My sister and I have widely different incomes. In a million years she would never expect me to give her the bin and in a million years my mother would never take it upon herself to hand it over.

I still say it's "I want one too, give it to me wah, wah, wah"

They're adults the days if making sure everyone has the same pocket money are past. Would your Mum go to A's house and take spare shows, clothes out of her wardrobes and hand them over to B? Of course not.

Your mother and B have stolen A's bin.

I imagine A won't say very much about it poor thing but if I were her I'd seriously lose respect for my Mother and I'd find somewhere else to get my parcels delivered to.

Your mum is completely out of order to do that. It had nothing to do with her and assuming everyone is adult, she can no longer assume the 'mum's in charge' role. I would be furious at that.

I hope B isn't exile ting a birthday or Christmas present this year.

I'd post a card with a little picture of a bin in it

Sister B is very much the golden child at the moment. It used to be sister A but then she fucked up by leaving her husband and working full time (her poor children, you see).

I am and will always remain the scapegoat.

My family is fucked up

No one 'needs' a £100 bin Hagrid. And I wonder how sister B is going to afford the special bags that fit inside those bins? They cost ££. Perhaps the OP's mum will make sister A buy those too

But you have a lovely sense of humour and the ability to gain a wide perspective, Duvet. Those are strong scapegoat gifts.

I dont use special bags for mine. I just use black bin bags. Have I committed a mn sin?

Your mum is out of order as it was not hers to give to sister B. I think since the company has said to keep the item then she is well within her rights to want to sell the spare bin. If it was me and the company had said to keep the duplicate then I would want to sell it to recoup some of the initial large spend.

£100 on a bin does seen at bit excessive to me though.

Thank you TheCat. What a lovely thing to say.

I'd be very angry at B and DM if I was sister A.

What do you think will happen now op?

Yes, I get that, Lynda, but if it were my brother, and his bin had broken and he was going to get a new one, I would give him my spare £100 bin (that I haven't paid for) without thinking about it and the most I would ask for is £20. Regardless of price, I would help him out, especially as I earn more money than him.

Hmm ... you've made me think Hagrid. Would I give my sister my spare £100 bin? No. Would she give hers to me? No.

We're not as nice as you are :o

It wouldn't have been illegal to keep both bins even if the company hadn't said to keep it. Sister A ordered an item that didn't arrive. She complained, they sent another. They could easily have said it was their policy to wait X days before sending another. It was their incompetence that caused the mistake.

I have a Brabantia bin.
I used a plastic supermarket bin for years until one day I decided to treat myself and buy a stylish one. Let's face it, you use it a dozen times a day!
What's the point in spending £100 on an outfit for a wedding, wear it once, then leave it hanging in the wardrobe, but making do with boring everyday items because they're cheap?

Ha! My brother and I are really close, and have always looked out for each other and helped out where we could. It's not like I'd be out of pocket, and tbh selling stuff online is far more effort than I can usually be bothered with