Who (if anybody) is being unreasonable here?

[DuvetDayEveryday]

Person A ordered an item worth £100 which went to the wrong address and was therefore lost. The company sent another one, and then typically the original one was located. So she has two items.

Her sister asked if she could have the spare one. She was told she could have it for £50. She declined, saying that it was wrong of her sister to be profiting from the mistake and unless she was happy to give it away for free she should send it back to the company.

Who IBU?

I am neither of the people involved but do have an opinion. I was interested to see if it's the majority opinion.

[plimsolls]

smurfnoff I think one has been put in to the bin

[lougle]

B is unreasonable. A had no obligation to give it to anyone. She's offered it for half of its value to B. That way they both get it for half price. If B doesn't feel it's worth half price,she can reject it, but she has no right to demand it free of charge.

[FutureGadgetsLab]

I think if you got it for free you should give it if it's family members.

[Okay377]

Both ABU. A should call the company explain what's happened and ask them to collect the extra. Should they decline and leave her with two, I would give it to my sister for free.

[PastaLaFeasta]

I'd rather have a £100 duvet than a £100 bin. I don't even think I'd want a free £100 bin, I'd rather the sister sold it to make a profit.

[Winifredgoose]

They are both equally unreasonable.

A should not be trying to profit from company's mistake. She should contact them and offer the duvet back.

B shouldn't be so entitled to think she 'deserves' a free duvet, even if she is less well off.

If the company has agreed for a to keep the duvet, it would be reasonable for b to ask for the duvet, but only on the basis of paying half the cost. If there is a true disparity of wealth, and b genuinely can't afford 50, while 100 is nothing to a, it would be kind (but certainly not expected) of a to give her sister the duvet.

[DontBuyANewMumCuntingDailyMail]

Has she cancelled the duvet OP?

[Winifredgoose]

just read through thread and realised it's definitely not a duvet.
If I was your wealthy sister, I would find any generous urge to give someone the bin extinguished by that person 'expecting' to be given it.

[thecatfromjapan]

Poor OP. It'll blow over. Hope they make up soon. I'm guessing there is long-term sister stuff going on.

Have to say, the duvet thread detail has been very, very mumsnet. Bet you wanted to scream: "it's not a duvet!"

[BeYourselfUnlessUCanBeAUnicorn]

I wouldn't pay £50 for a bin! If sister B won't buy it, and I wouldn't blame her, nor do I blame sister A for not just handing it over, she should sell it. But it's a bin, A doesn't need 2, it wouldn't hurt her to give it to her sister.

[Toddzoid]

Person A is. She needs to return it but if she's fine with effectively stealing she should at least give an item she doesn't need that cost her nothing to her sister for free and not try to profit from it. I hate tight arses

[gamerchick]

Who the fuck pays 100 quid for a bin?

[TheGoodEnoughWife]

If you read the thread then you would see the company has said to keep the bin.

Surely the 'tight arse' is the sister who wants a bin for free!

[Justbeingnosey123]

Now the company have agreed A can keep it she is within her rights to put item on eBay and money for the item no one would expect her to split that with b so I still think B is unreasonable. We're it an item B desperately needed then it would be different as it stands half price is still a reasonable deal.

[DecaffCoffeeAndRollupsPlease]

I agree with Milk, person B should pay £50 so they both end up with the item for £50.

[AHellOfABird]

Why did B say that A should send it back if she wasn't going to give it away, when the company said keep it (which they almost certainly said owing to the cost if collection, at this point they'd probably prefer A to keep it or evenjust "bin" it)

[AHellOfABird]

A is not being unreasonable, B is by calling A names.

If I was A, I'd be pleased to save myself the hassle of storing or ebaying so I probably would give to B, but I wouldn't if I was being taken for granted or if, say, another mate was prepared to give me money.

[cansu]

If person a doesn't need or really want the extra one she should give it to her sister as that is what you do with family especially if sister is poor. Person a sounds a bit mean tbh to be trying to make money out of the mistake particularly if they are wealthy anyway, but really that is quite typical in my experience.

[Backpfeifengesichto]

By rights, Person A should return spare item. Although, if it's a very big company, holding onto it is not doing much harm, despite being dishonest. If it's smaller company I'd say it's more firmly 'wrong' (others may disagree). But in case of passing it on, sister is BU, although I can understand her annoyance that person A would charge her for something she didn't pay for herself. Hmm actually as I'm thinking about it more, it does seem pretty tight fisted of person A. They're both being unreasonable. If person A wants to charge £50 to sell it then sister can take it or leave it and has no right to complain. However person A is also being pretty stingy by trying to get money out of her sister for it. Ultimately, Person A should really send it back though shouldn't she. All sounds pretty grubby.

[Backpfeifengesichto]

So - sister has right to be quietly annoyed but it's not like it's her right to have free item and she shouldn't complain.

Person A should really send it back (although holding onto it isn't exactly most heinous crime). She's being a bit stingy by asking her sister to give her money for it, but she is offering it cheaper than face value, and sister can take it or leave it.

If I was sister I would probably find it a bit off.

[MyLocal]

I want yo know why sister C, the OP, wasn't offered the bin?

[cosmicglittergirl]

I was going to say why can't sister C have the bin! Love how mother is getting involved too.

[Bravada]

B is unreasonable.

A had the hassle of chasing up the lost item. For her trouble, she has now got an extra bin. So the cost of 2 bins is now 100 GBP. Splitting the cost of it 50/50 seems pretty fair to me.

[AugustaFinkNottle]

t's morally sketchy to keep it

No it isn't, it's theft. They're both in the wrong.

[friggingnora]

Brabantia bins are amazing. I love mine far more than anyone should love a bin, and am currently on (free) lid number three, 15 years after I bought it.

So sister C should get in on the action and enter into a bidding war with sister B.