To think something is wrong here?

[seeingflags]

I recently began a relationship with a man overseas (within Europe). Things were seemingly fine at first, and aside from a few small issues that needed clearing up my first visit went swimmingly,
In the time between my first and second visit a lot of discrepancies in stories I had been told and information available popped up and it has been difficult to get to the bottom of situations. After some online snooping to try and find the truth I thought I had the full story. fast forward to my second visit and he wasn't as emotionally available as he'd previously been, he seemed withdrawn and was hiding his phone away.
Since I've come back to the UK more lies and arguments have been happening and every time I have been promised honesty from now on there has been yet another problem.
Breaking point came today when he messaged me telling me he thinks we should break up, and when I agreed and gave no fight he turned the tables on me and told me I needed to forgive him while he changed for the better and once again promised me complete honesty.
Sorry for the super long post but I'm at a loss for what to do. I want to believe there may be hope, as there is love on my side, but I'd like some opinions of others to gauge whether I'm wearing rose tinted glasses or whether my concern that there will be no change is well placed.

Sorry for the essay.

Katie0705
Thank you.
Also missing point I haven't heard toe rag since I was a kid. Thank you for making my day.

The hard decision in the short term but good for you, and it'll hopefully feel it soon too.
You deserve much better treatment than crumbs today on the promise of jam tomorrow, especially as it looks like you'd be paying for the bloody jam.
Unfortunately love itself is not enough. Top marks for looking after yourself, treat yourself well and expect others to treat you well, you will only benefit from believing in your worth.
A lesson I wish I had learned a fair few years before I did. A few years and a couple of miserable relationships. I'm glad you've got the sense I didn't have

That good that you have got shot of the toe-rag (I love that word too!)

Make sure you delete any means of you being able to contact him and him being able to contact you.

There is no need to have any more discussions with him whatsoever. and he will probably be onto his next victim/conquest soon enough anyway

Give yourself some time and don't rush into another relationship too soon if ever .

sounds like a visa, or british passport job, poss already married/in a relationship. cut loose and don't be played for a mug, you deserve better.

Seeingflags...you did make me laugh, and you are most welcome 😄 It's one of my 'more polite' sayings!!