Is this rude or my fault?

[Wanderingwondering]

Dd's party yesterday. I sent out invitations a while ago including one to a girl who's mum I don't know very well-only to say hi to at school gate.

This mum replied to the invitation by text saying that her daughter would love to come.

Stupidly, I didn't reply to the message.

Said girl didn't turn up yesterday which was a shame as there were only a few invited so it stood out. The other girls asked where she was and dd said she must have got lost on the way

I know I probably should have replied to her message with a 'great, see you then' but the message must have come through when I was distracted.

Awkwardly we have another party to go to today-what do I say if this mum and girl are there?

I now have visions of an endless stream of text acknowlding the acknowledgement of the acknowledgement of the acknowledgement of the acknowledgement of the acknowledgement .... ad infinitum

No one will have time to actually attend the parties

She probably just forgot. Nothing to do with you not replying to her acceptance text. Some people do, some people don't. You are overthinking it.

Yes if you see her today you say sone variation of "you were missed yesterday, was everything ok?".
If she's remembered she'll be the one feeling awkward not you.

I recently did that - I completely got the date wrong and stood at the party venue a day too late, kid excited, present in hand, no friends there. Staff remembered the name and I got a 'oh no, so-and-so's party was yesterday. Wailing kid, red faced mum. Luckily a very gracious other mum when I explained what had happened and dropped the present round later that day
. Felt like such an idiot though as I know how expensive parties are...

Nosireebob glad I'm not the only one that's made that mistake. I remember my oldest ds saying "I'm not cross mum, just disappointed" gah

I always try to reply but DS was at a party yesterday and the parent hadn't replied to say she had received my RSVP. It wouldn't have occurred to me not to take him just because she hadn't replied, so I don't think you were being unreasonable.

She wasn't there-phew! Mentioned it to another parent and apparently she has form for not showing up.
It's a shame for the girl as I guess she won't get many invites next year.
I'll still make sure I do the confirmation thing in future though

Glad it was ok in the end- was going to say don't assume it's you. We've had no shows which are annoying when you have catered for that child or paid for an organised party etc. The only one where I approached the mum she said they were out enjoying themselves so decided to stay out! 😕

apparently she has form for not showing up

so just rude then

Seems that way yes. But hey ho. Dd hasn't mentioned it again but I'm still a bit cross as it would have been nice to invite one of her other friends instead.