to not understand why my son's school's safeguarding officer needs to speak to me... (since ds has broken his arm)

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DS is 9, he broke his wrist yesterday after playing a stair game with his brothers, he slipped fell and there we are, a bloody broken wrist. He has a cast, all fine.

He goes into school today, as normal, I get a phone call around lunch time from their safeguarding officer saying she would like a word with me regarding his wrist... now I'm stressed and don't know what it's for, but didn't get the message until I was home from work and now it's the weekend.

Does anyone know the reasons this may happen?

Yanbu op. I'm amazed at kids who've never injured themselves. I find it oddly sad that some people are so horrified about kids jumping on stairs.

I imagined his brothers would also be small children. It was a very irresponsible " game" to allow.

This thread wants me to go and see if I can still do twelve stairs, school are just checking he's ok it won't be a big deal.

Classiccost I agree this thread is asking for it to be tested out I'm seeing some of my siblings soon so I may challenge them to a rematch! Also might see if they fancy getting some bedding out to sledge down the stairs and whether we can order roller skates ... build ourselves ramps from bits of wood. We loved tree climbing too... I think I need to lose a few pounds first now mind!

Perfectly normal game as I recall

Having said that me and my sisters clearly knew what we were doing when my DS is old enough I suspect I'm going to be a complete hypocrite and tell him not to do it what he doesn't know about what I got up to wont hurt him

I was so glad, at A&E, to be able to answer the 'where did this happen?' questions with 'at school' ditto. one of my dds pretty much had her own accident book at nursery. Between the age of 7-18 I think the final tally for her was 3 broken wrists and two ankles, one of the ankles was while staying at a friends (sliding down a mud bank on a sledge and hit a tree!) the others were done at school. IIRC the first broken wrist was done at a school disco ! She is now 25 and is travelling the world alone. Her younger dsis told me the other day that one of their favourite games as young teens used to be climbing out of one bedroom window and along the ledge into the next one. We don't live in a bungalow . Youngest dd evidently refused to play that game. Like me she is risk averse. The older two take after their father I'm guessing this was generally done when I was working and he was "looking after them" .ironically we'd had locks put on the downstairs Windows when dd1 was 3 because she'd started to open them and climb out.

One of my strongest memories of their childhood was being at a birthday party when dd1 was not quite 5. Lovely summer's day, friend's garden. All DC playing happily. I was BF dd3. I suddenly heard "mummy, mummy, look at me" and saw dd1 was at the top of a tall tree . Some of the older boys had helped her get up into the lower branches and she'd decided she wanted to go to the top. The strategy for getting her down was to say "very clever, but I bet you can't get down on your own!" . I used to joke that getting Dd1 to 18 alive was my prime objective re her. The more these stories emerge the more I realise how sensible that objective was but how much was down to good luck., she had no fear as a child, none at all, a total thrill seeker, roller coaster addict (I hate them!). As an adult she fortunately has a lot of common sense to temper the bravery - but I know I'm destined for a lifetime of worry re her. She's currently somewhere in South America..

Re the stair game - because of an awkward bend in ours it was not possible - but my best friend's older dds taught them how to play it at their house. And how to surf downstairs on a mattress! I was grateful for our boring bendy staircase.

I think you need to relax about the phone call OP. Just doing their job and not accusing you of anything.

Re. The Stair Jumping Game, I just introduced it. nearly 2 year old can do 2, 5 year old 4. I did 6 and broke a chair in the entrance hall. DH thinks we're idiots. Perhaps he has a point.

I still think the stair game is very tame compared to the things I got up to (led astray by two brothers - I would have been perfect!). We lived an an old, quite large house where dorma windows from the loft opened up onto a fair sized flat roof. We made a zipline from the chimney to a tree in the front garden when we were aged 12-15 ish using a 'Y' shaped stick as the handle. I was just being egged on to try it when our mother spotted the rope and came screaming / sprinting into the garden.

No wonder the poor lady went grey so early!

They will be checking what happened that's all. I do find it really odd that you didn't go in with him and explain though.

Ha ha! I've memory of myself and friend climbing on top of her coal shed to.... Who knows what!!! The roof collapsed leaving us in midst of coal and having to scream for ages... Not cos we were hurt but cos the shed door was licked so we were trapped!!! Never tried climbing from one window to next but sitting out on first floor window sills was always good!!

Hope ur D's fine. Op

DS broke his arm and damaged his collar bone playing ice hockey about 3 months ago. I was out of the country at the time so DH dealt with it. I've just asked DH if he phoned the school (secondary) and he said no I asked if he got a phone call from a safeguarding officer and he said no. I asked why he didn't phone and he just said Jack is 15, he can explain what happened himself and it's not like he is in primary school.
I've just asked DS and he said the teachers just said things like 'only you lad!' 'Told you ice hockey was dangerous' etc.
It would seems a safeguarding policy isn't consistent across the board.