AIBU in the 1970s

[cleaty]

I grew up in the 1970s, the age of relaxed and free range parenting. If mumsnet had existed then, what do you think mums would have asked in AIBU?

Aibu to think it's perfectly acceptable to be hit by the ruler at primary school if your child is naughty ?

The equal pay act came into force in 1970 - was I BU to ask my boss when it might apply to our firm and a little upset when I was laughed at?

AIBU to think other mothers are slatterns who don't work hard enough?

I make all DD1's clothes myself, aged 6 she's never worn anything that isn't white, hand-smocked or hand-crotcheted and hand-embroidered by me. i'm so proud of myself that I can fit into some of DD1's clothes, it means i'm not fat like other people. I also hand-wash everything because washing machines and dryers are for lazy people, and I prefer scrubbing floors to using a mop or a vacuum cleaner, they're for lazy types who can't get down on their knees. I cook a 4-course meal from scratch every night for when DH comes home from work. The doctor says I need to put on weight and that I should dress the baby in things that can be washed in a machine, that DD1 should be allowed to wear school uniform rather than special dresses, and I should relax more. He's just stupid and doesn't understand proper standards.

What a thread!

Soooo many kids in cars with a bottle of coke, like me and my Dsis were because "adults like to go to places without children"

I wanted a "texan" bar ("you can't rush a texan") but mum didn't want us to have one. Surely she was BU?

That's fine Mother because when your ds does smoke and everyone does he needs to know how he can make rolleis it's much cheaper than normal ciggies that we all smoke .

Rollys*

DD is bringing a friend round for tea tomorrow. Her friends mum has told me that her DD is allergic to bread . AIBU to think this must be a load of nonsense?

My 4 DCs all have colds, how many bottles of Lucozade will I need to see them through, do you think? Also WIBU to leave them at home with the black & white portable in their bedroom to watch programming for schools while I'm out at work?

DD hates going to the grocery store with me. AIBU to let her stay in the car if I roll the window down?

Yes you are. DD should do as she is told.

Dd hsd her room decorated, red white and grey, wibu to get the matching bed, bed sheets, lamp shade, curtains, carpet, wardrobe, waste bin, desk set, wallpaper, border/frieze and bean bag. I'm sure it will look nice and it's got to last at least 20 years.

You'll need 3 bottles a day for 4 sick children, mlame. Give them Haliborange squash in between, for the vitamin C. It's a great idea to let them watch the schools programmes while you're out, wouldn't want them to miss their education.

AIBU to allow my kids to go up the woods with matches, sausages and a frying pan?

How old are they?

WIbu to allow my kids to watch whatever wee are watching on TV ads there is very few children's programmes , I was watching all the soap opera ,s etc and all manner of unsuitable programmes at a very a early age

AIBU to leave the milk in the cups overnight on the bedside table for my morning cuppa from the Teasmade?

AIBU to keep my hostess trolley in the hall?

AIBU to send my 6 year old out to play in the park after tea? She and her friends like to play hide-and-seek in the bushes there, but they always come home at dusk. *

• I used to do this

Ah teas maids my grandma used to have one nostalgia !

@cleaty: 10 and 8 years old.

AIBU to share with my daughter the slimming pills my GP prescribed me? They fill me with energy and make my heart race a bit, so I'm sure they would help to keep her moving and slim down those beefy thighs of hers! The Mayo diet didn't work, even though we had two eggs three times a day for two weeks, and drinking half a cup of cider vinegar on an empty stomach every morning is making her gag. At 14 years of age she shouldn't still have puppy fat!

Aibu to think I really am as stupid as my husband thinks?

He works very hard in a manual job so the least I can do when he gets home is make sure he has a decent hot meal I know, but I followed a friends advice and tried a new recipe (spaghetti bolognese). He was understandably not impressed, threw it at the wall (I loved that dinner set ) and slapped me telling me (quite rightly) not to feed him foreign muck again.

I made him chops potatoes and carrots but of course this took a while and so he went to the pub early and it was too late to eat when he got home after closing so that was more food wasted (again stupid of me I know). To make the housekeeping stretch I better just have toast the next 2 nights as it was my fault. Even though I'll be starving myselfmdue to working myself and doing all the housework and childcare (but then that is my responsibility not his, he works really hard).

True story I'd have thrown the damn dinner including plate straight back at my father!

Nobody who lives in our house smokes. I'm allergic to cigarette smoke. AIBU not to have ashtrays, and to ask guests not to smoke in our house? (My parents, who AFAIK have never smoked, had ashtrays that they would put out when they had parties, up until sometime in the 80's)

DD lives in an older house with her new baby, and she threw a FIT when DH proposed to do some DIY work. He offered to sand down the nursery closet door so it will actually close. She spouted some hysteria about how the door has lead paint and the lead will hurt her baby. We had lead paint in our houses, our parents did DIY jobs, and we were fine! I don't know what she's so worried about.

My husband is useless with our dc, he has no interest in them, spends more money on himself than he gives me in housekeep, smokes my cigarrettes, and won't even let me fiddle the electric meter like all the neighbours are doing. I work part time in a factory to afford clothes and shoes for us all. Don't get me wrong I love dh, and of course would never dream of getting a divorce. I still fufill my wifely duties, but am afraid of getting caught out again (my cycle isn't regular). I feel that we shouldn't have any more dc's, so I went to the doctor to ask about a coil. He wanted my dh's permission first! What if dh had said no?! aibu for shouting at the dr (who was younger than myself) that after 5 births, trying to raise 3 children and keeping a house and job more or less on my own, who the hell was he to tell me I needed any mans permission to prevent myself having more dc's? I know I shouldn't have resorted to foul language, but I think I had a point. He was very embarrassed, mumbled it was standard practice but agreed to book me in, more to get rid of me than anything else I think. Should I go back and apologise? It's not really his fault, is it?

a casual nibbles evening

Sweetie it's cheese and wine now, all modern. One bottle of red, one of white a brie (French cheese but you can get it in Harrods) cut all fancy and that's it.

Of course never on the same day as a coffee morning or next to a tupperware party.