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To wish our neighbours wouldn't smoke on their balcony?

130 replies

WanderingNotLost · 11/05/2016 22:37

Now I know people have the right to smoke on their own balcony if they want to. But here's the thing.
My and DP's flat has entirely south-facing windows, so when it's warm and sunny the place turns into a furnace. The thermostat read 35° when we got home today. Our building is an L-shape, so there's a flat on the floor below us whose living room balcony is below and to a right angle from our bedroom window, and the people who live in it have been smoking out there- presumably so their flat won't smell. We had our bedroom window open to try and cool the room down, and now it stinks, and I mean really stinks of cigarette smoke. I won't be able to sleep in there tonight.
Again, I know they can smoke on their balcony. But would it be so hard to show some consideration, when they can see that our bedroom window is open and their smoke is going right for it?!
Aargh.

OP posts:
exLtEveDallas · 12/05/2016 19:56

You phoned NHS Direct and got the police to come out? I'm impressed Grin Grin

ChardonnayKnickertonSmythe · 12/05/2016 19:56

WTF would anyone ring 111 for this?
What fresh madness is that?

PaulAnkaTheDog · 12/05/2016 20:03

It's mumsnet madness.

NeedsAsockamnesty · 12/05/2016 20:10

mint

If the police also knocked in your door them they were not doing your bidding by asking your neighbours to stop smoking.

They were doing a welfare check on the strange lady who rang them telling them how desperate she was because her neighbours were smoking

AerithEarling · 12/05/2016 20:11

YANBU I had an upstairs neighbour who used to smoke 24/7 in her flat and it used to come into mine, was annoying but did not say anything because it is her flat she can do as she pleases even though we did have a garden.
Sometimes smokers don't get the affects on non smokers. Your neighbour is not doing it purposely to upset you just remember that.

AerithEarling · 12/05/2016 20:22

I can't believe police came round for someone smoking a fag but my neighbour who has been smoking weed and dealing from his flat and his tantrum stomping if he doesn't have a joint, nobody has done anything. Still waiting for the police raid....
Guess that is what I get for living in london!

But OP I have read your replies and I honestly would not say anything, I understand your concern but you don't know if your neighbours are like my neighbour and will kick off if you politely ask them to be a neighbour.
Just leave it and buy a fan please.

PlentyOfPubeGardens · 12/05/2016 21:21

Yay, must be summer Grin

WanderingNotLost · 12/05/2016 22:21

Well... this has escalated!
I won't be calling 5-0 on their ass, nobody panic!

OP posts:
maxmaxdress · 12/05/2016 22:33

I wouldnt. Your more likely to be done for wasting police time than anything.

And it isnt "madness". Its bullshit. I could barely get my local bobby (very small quiet non troubling town) to come out for a burglary, I doubt I could get them to come over and talk to my neighbour about smoking Confused

ChardonnayKnickertonSmythe · 12/05/2016 22:37

Or you could have a spa day, OP.

From the same school of good advice.

EweAreHere · 12/05/2016 22:48

I feel for you OP. It sucks.

And I find it, well, interesting, about the number of people who are insistent upon not smoking inside near their children, their pets and their* furnishings so they and their walls, etc don't reek of smoke, but find it perfectly acceptable to affect other people's lives and homes negatively in this manner.

Just because it's legal, doesn't make it right.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 12/05/2016 23:02

They're smoking outside. It's different to smoking inside. Hence the nhs adverts about taking it 'right outside'.

lurked101 · 13/05/2016 08:01

The just because it's legal doesn't make it right point is the worst kind of pearl clutching.

Just because it's illegal doesn't make it wrong.

sandrabedminster · 13/05/2016 09:07

Yanbu.

But most people in this country ignore the no smoking perimiters so asking to change how they smoke on their own balcony is unlikely to Go well.

likeaboss · 13/05/2016 11:45

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AppleSetsSail · 13/05/2016 11:54

The OP is not pearl-clutching at all. I'm stressed out on her behalf.

Truffles04 · 13/05/2016 13:37

Am I the only one who read this wondering why anyone would phone the NHS on 111 and manage to get a police officer sent out?

111 = NHS
101 = police

AppleSetsSail · 13/05/2016 13:49

Obviously a typo. I'm not wondering about it.

Truffles04 · 13/05/2016 17:01

Well I wasn't....until I was repeated 10 times by no less than 6 individuals.

Truffles04 · 13/05/2016 17:02

*it

Just struck me as odd no one seemed to pick up on it and were repeating it without realising

PaulAnkaTheDog · 13/05/2016 17:09

It was already picked up on. Tbh, it would be petty to keep commenting on it because we knew what the poster meant.

sweetkitty · 13/05/2016 17:17

I used to have fag ash waft in our flat in the summer from upstairs hanging out the window, didn't even have a balcony.

I would bite the bullet and buy a nice quiet fan

Truffles04 · 14/05/2016 14:47

PaulAnkaTheDog I wasn't commenting from a typo perspective - not one to be a stickler for that especially online. Was commenting more that people still don't know what number they should be calling (the reason quoted for getting rid of 01/02 police numbers and bringing in 101 in the first place). In other words, a dig at wasteful expenditure when people are having essential services/benefits cut.

Tbh we all find different things petty. I try to avoid being insulting towards other posters though.

chanice · 14/05/2016 15:07

When they are smoking I would hang out of the window and spray air freshener without saying anything to them then go back in.

My neighbours would smoke strong skunk all day long you could smell it up the round as you were approaching my flat. My husband told him to be careful because he had seen police pointing at his flat a few times. A lie, but it worked and we didn't look like we were complaining.

expatinscotland · 14/05/2016 15:16

Good grief. Go buy a fan. All this donate to my leccy bill, buy me a fan, call the police is ridiculous. I wish I had your 'problem'. This HA flat is a fucking shithole and our downstairs neighbour smokes weed like a lum, puts in fake noise complaints about us all the time and we're stuck here.

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