To feel so ashamed

[Nerdygalwithabook]

Mental health problems. Do they make you feel ashamed?

Some days.

But talking on MN and realising its NORMAL to have problems at some point in your life helps.

Some of my problems I would say, I am no longer ashamed of, more or less BECAUSE of the existence of MN. I am proud of the fact that I think I've helped others to realise this too.

Keep talking. It gets easier. Promise.

Thank you. You should be proud to help people.
I wish there was a Mums net Facebook chat.
It gets easier? I guess it will it's just believing and remembering that.

I don't feel ashamed, but it's not something I shout from the roof tops either, but I'd be the same if I had cancer. I don't fuss or pity.

Yes - I feel ashamed. And it's ridiculous because whenever I see someone else getting help for MH problems, I think that's great, and I'm pleased they're looking after themselves. I don't feel ashamed in front of DH or my GP or my best friend, but nobody else knows that I'm on ADs, and I wouldn't feel at all comfortable telling them. I think it is because shame is already such a big part of the anxiety and depression in my case - maybe it's the same for you? Sympathies in any case - it's horrible having MH issues, and I recognise what you say about the way in which they take over everything. Hope things get easier for you xx

Thank you all for your kind words. :)
It's just so hard.

It is hard. It's horrible - it sucks the life and pleasure out of everything. But it will get easier - I had a lovely counsellor who helped. CBT is very helpful, not least because it helps you to recognise patterns of negative thinking, so that it becomes possible to break them. Keep posting on MN, in any case - there are a lot of lovely and wise people who can be very helpful xx

Nerdygal I am really sorry to hear you are so down. Don't feel ashamed, there really is no need to.

Hi, don't be ashamed! I'm not. I have health anxiety, it's horrible. I've been like it since 16 years old, I'm now 32. I'm on medication and have tried counselling and CBT xxx

flowers back to you all!

*I don't like fuss or pity

It's no difference to a broken leg really. Bless you. Please don't feel ashamed. Does it help repeating to yourself that everyone you tell - including everyone on mumsnet- means that you are helping to others to feel comfortable talking about it. The more you open up, the more others will.

I had a miscarriage and was open about it, then loads of people said "oh I had one too" etc. I would never have known it was so common without telling of my own experience. MH problems are exactly the same. So many people have experience of them at some point in their life. You just wouldn't know.

I'm deeply ashamed of all my health problems. I know it's ridiculous and I don't judge other people but I judge myself harshly. I loathe getting any help too as I feel humiliated.

I have had quite severe MH problesm in the past and carry it like a deep dark secret. I will avoid any doctors if I can.

I've had therapy for it but can't seem to get past it.

Sorry you are feeling the same way OP.

I do, I feel ashamed.

Thank you.
I hope this thread stays active. It's hard to keep coming back on the site. I wish it had a chat lol. But it's still so useful.
I really want to get the train down to see my Mum tomorrow but I'm so worried because I don't have any Buccastem. Anyone wanna bring me some? Lol

To all those feelings ashamed. You shouldn't. Depression isn't anything be ashamed of

Phobias (in most cases) respond really well to talking therapies. No need to be ashamed at all but not seeking help won't get you anywhere.

Seeking help means going outside etc which stalls me.
Anyone wanna be my therapist? Lol

Nerdy are you completely house-bound? If you can possibly get out and talk to your doc for a therapy referral, I feel strongly this could help.

Just about yes. I can't do this anymore!! I'm so done!

When people recover from cancer they understandably get praise. The reaction to recovering from a mh disorder is very different, and I'm not quite sure why.

Because when something is physically wrong there is a reason to act the way you do. When you can't see what's wrong your actions seems irrational

I have felt great shame for a mental health problem, in my case PND. I know it's crazy to feel shame but I did and do when I think back to it. When someone else tells me that they are ashamed I know they shouldn't be.

Have you tried Rob Kelly's Cure Your Emetophobia and Thrive? You can buy the book. I have emetophobia too, although not as severely as you, and found it helpful. It's not an instant cure but might help you take the first step.

Then I'm sorry for making a daft, impractical suggestion.

Wonder if anyone can help with what to do in that case? If you can't get to the doc or therapist.

Hang on in there and keep chatting on here, people are fab with ideas and experience.

You absolutely have nothing to be ashamed of! I wish mental health was talked about more - I think it's easier to understand what it's like if you have a physical health condition more as everyone gets ill from time to time but I know I personally find it hard to understand mental illnesses and I presume I'm not the only one.

Nerdy you can get a phone appointment with gp. Also they do cbt online (through NHS) and there will be a local crisis team that come and visit you if you are on the very edge