To hide my toilet paper and other stuff my flatmates keeps using?!

[Nonotmenori]

I recently moved into a flat share with two strangers. When I moved in I brought with me a wholesale amount of toilet paper. 50 rolls. I also bought pots and pans and a panini grill. (Everyone used their own pots and pans and there is no toaster) I have also replaced the kettle as the last one was full of lime scale and frankly just disgusting.

Flatmate B was away on holiday to her home country when I moved in. I met her when I was living there 3-4 weeks already. Flatmate A and I get on really well. When bins need emptying we both just do it. Same with cleaning. If something looks dirty we just get on with it. It's more a case of wherever sees it first will do it.

Flatmate B came back about 4 weeks ago. She is apparently starting a new job since she moved into here, but hasn't worked as she says she is working for the government and its taking some time for security clearance. So she is always here. And never goes out...

Flatmate A has taken a month off work to return to her home country. She's been gone 2 weeks now.

In the time Flatmate A has been gone. B hasn't emptied the bins even though they're overflowing with her crap. She has used my panini grill to toast her bread. And leaves behind crumbs every. Single. Time. When she asked about it I said yes please help yourselves just clean up after please. She has used one of my saucepans (it's cheap at £3 sainsburys basics) but has used a knife or spoon on it and scratched it. The toilet paper I brought ran out about 2 weeks ago. She knows i bought so much. As when I took her shopping she told me to buy a massive pack of bounty and I said no it's ok I'm only needing a two pack as its for my use only. I said to B her and A need to make sure about the toilet paper as I've bought over 50 rolls and its between the two of them for a while. She said nothing.

Fast forward to this week. She has put into the toilet 3 rolls over the course of the week. Never takes out the empty holders. Thursday the roll has ran out again.  It is still there now (Sunday) and she has not replaced it. I have gotten really annoyed so have taken to bringing my toilet paper in with me and removing when I leave. I have also replaced the washing up liquid. She has her own but is using mine. I have since taken that out of the kitchen. I have also had to top up the electricity and gas and she's done nothing whilst always being here. I work full time.


I honestly feel like she's taking the piss now. AIBU to stand my ground and not share anymore? I've done enough. I've even lent her a full length mirror as she didn't have one. I've taken her to the shops to do shopping as I'm the only one with a car. I'm not a mean person. I share with anyone, but I am feeling like I'm being taken advantage of and yet I'm feeling like being a petty bitch. QWhat's everyone's thoughts?

[IonaNE]

What she does with her free time has nothing to do with this, she is entitled to do as she wishes, even to stay at home all day if she wants. She is not entitled to do the things you describe, OP. Yes, I'd lock everything away. Pls let us know what she will use for loo paper when there is no more communal paper?

[DontMindMe1]

what she does with her free time DOES have something to do with this.......especially when others are using their free time to shop for household stuff and doing their share of chores and she doesn't.

when you ask someone why they're not doing their share of chores/picking up after themself etc, you are asking them indirectly what they're doing with their time.

[Nonotmenori]

Dontmindme it's A who needs to have the chat really. It's her place not mine. I'm the newest Flatmate. I'm going to carry on locking my stuff up and will leave the overflowing bins as they are. She's been slamming the kitchen door again it's across from my room. At leas she's closed it so whatever she's cooking isn't stinking out my room for a change. I'll speak to A see if she can talk to her again or ask her to leave. She's annoying us both the last time I spoke to her. Before she went on holiday she spoke to her. That was about the cleaning and being fair. Next thing for me to lock away is my panini grill.

[DontMindMe1]

i had to keep all my stuff in my room, including my soap and shampoo, dirty housemate left her pubes stuck in my soap once, i told her if she wants to be disgusting like that she can do it to her own stuff. yuck!

[Gide]

Pull her up on it, Jesus, she's an adult, not a teenager away from home for the first time. Is she expecting stuff to miraculously appear? Dumbass.

A flat mate used to hide his coffee under the floorboards, used our stuff and never shared. He didn't last long, fortunately.

[DontMindMe1]

under the floor boards?!!!!!

was he scared you were after his blood as well?

crazy people - and they roam among us!

[GlitterNails]

I had this problem when I had housemates. I took to buying my own loo roll and taking it in and out with me.

Also had stuff stolen from the fridge/freezer, etc.

So when I next did a houseshare was very upfront with the costs. We put in £10 each into a kitty (4 of us) and we bought cleaning supplies and loo roll from it, and put the receipt in. When it was empty, we all put in £10 again. That worked really well - because it was easier for myself and my other housemate to get the stuff, as we had a car, but the other two housemates didn't then always skip out on the cost.

There will always be battled, sadly. Ours was over heating. Their bedrooms were all upstairs, mine was downstairs and a garage conversion. It was freezing, mouldy and damp. They said their rooms were always hot, so wanted to heating off. I had icicles on my windows. And the living room was unusable, as it was also freezing. I bought an electric heater secretly in the end. Obviously it cost more, but I was having chest infection after chest infection and being really ill.