to feel a bit... rejected?

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not sure its rejection, rejection seems quite strong... But anyhow.
Oh and I are moving to the other side of the world, to where the in laws emigrated to.
IL's left when OH was barely an adult, tried to sort of hem him into going, but when he refused in an over the top shouty 'why won't you just fucking respect my wishes' kind of fashion, let it go (after nearly a year of attempting to push)
at least 2-3x per year since MIL has brought it up and again tried to push.
OH's response is always a flat out no, until the last time she asked and I sat OH down and thought maybe its worth thinking about, we decided upon a visit.
we visited and quite liked it and decided to move out for a year or so and if we hated it by then, come back, if we love it, then stay.
MIL was quite cold toward me, but I assumed she was the same with everyone (Seeing as OH has said that she wasn't a very loving/feelingsy mother to him). before we decided to move out she sort of glazed over the move when it came to me (My family, who're all in south wales where OH and I live, My job, my career as a whole, OUR plans..) and just kept pushing. this has not changed since deciding to move out...
Now we've agreed to, she doesn't make an effort to talk to me and never has (I have her on all social media sites) when I message her, she often doesn't reply (I message her maybe 1-2 times a week) this went on at one point for 3 consecutive weeks.. like ffs you could well be my main social interaction for a little while, you're the only 'expat' (i think thats what they're called) that I know and i'll be moving into your home yet you don't want to even really communicate with me... I'm just feeling a bit fucked off really? I feel like she expected/expects OH to leave me here... we've been together for years....

Lots of good reasons to go. Don't spoil it by doing it via living with ILs - it sounds like a disaster waiting to happen. There has to be another way.

1. Better economy,

For now. It's most likely going to go the same way as the U.K as the housing boom and spending is unsustainable.

1. Better standard of living

I'd agree. But depending where you're moving to it's very expensive. Food and utilities are costly.

1. Both me and OH's job are in far higher demand. Which isn't difficult. At the moment 4 jobs for OH that he fits the requirements for are listed on Reed.co.uk. Each one was posted under 3 days ago. Each one has over 100 applicants.

Make sure your qualifications match the Australian requirements. You'd be surprised how many people can't get work.

1. We'd actually have the chance to buy a house, even taking into account the general rise of cost of living there ok you've probably guessed by now its australia

Again don't bank on it. Some housing is cheap but it's usually miles out of town. Again depends on your job and budget/commute requirements.

1. Healthcare is better (we all know the NHS is on its knees)

It's not better. You have to pay subsidies for things not covered by medicare. Pay for obstetric appointments or xrays etc.

1. The commonly done activities vs Activities in UK fit us better as people.

The weather is better and so outdoor activities are more available.

1. when we visited and went out together we both agreed we just 'felt' at ease and at home. Its hard to explain but something just clicked if you know what I mean?

Being on holiday isn't like living the daily grind. Are you OK with heat? Bush fires? Humidity?

1. this ones a bit more personal and I don't really want to mention it for public viewing...

I get that this must be stressful but don't think living with your Mil will work. Perhaps a different city.

1. I'm just bored of the UK, and even if we don't stay forever/permanently we can come back.

As long as you don't have kids. If your dh wants to stay are you willing to leave without him?

I wouldn't minimise the impact of living in a foreign country with a potentially very unhelpful in law and no family or friends.

MIL wants her son to move out to her. Once he is there you will be surplus to requirements and I bet she will do everything she can to drive you away back to your family.

^^ This.

Have you considered moving within UK - EU ? If you want to move it doesn't have to be where the IL are now. Or try saving for longer and researching other areas of Australia further away from IL?

You would be foolish to live with your inlaws. Really, really, really foolish. Other than that it sounds like you have good reasons for giving it a try.

I actually think it would be unfair and sort of 'dishonest' of you if you stayed with your in-laws, you would be only using them for cheap accommodation and I don't think that's fair.

MWIT- it was them that suggested that, for the purpose of saving money
I didn't post here to be argued with about the fact we're moving there, was just wondering if I was right in feeling a bit rejected/Disliked. Thanks for that answer but I really don't feel the need to further discuss whether or not its a good idea for us to move..

Yes, you are right to feel rejected. Rethink.

When you want to come home, and have a baby you're not allowed to bring home, then you'll wonder why you didn't listen to all the well meaning advice about going in the first place.

Well of course you're not unreasonable to feel rejected or disliked. They are your feelings. I apologise about answering your list and only did so to state that they are not facts and will need thorough investigation.

I, having done the move to be near hideous in-laws, would urge you to be very cautious. If you're feeling this way now then listen to yourself and those warning bells. If I had then I'd have saved myself a few years of misery. Trying to please the unable to be pleased.

Go with eyes open and escape plan ready.

I didn't post here to be argued with about the fact we're moving there
Ok, now you're probably feeling attacked? We're not attacking you, but it can be hard to hear the brutal truth....think about what has been said because you know it makes a lot of sense. Sorry that it might not be what you want to hear, but it will likely save you serious hardship ahead....

I think that it's blindingly obvious to us all that it's completely normal for you to feel rejected in these circumstances.

So do you not think your feelings then have implications for what you do about it?

If you are set on moving, do you see any way of tackling her before you move there? I think it has to be led by your DP

Could there be another reason she's not responded? Internet problems (or has she been active on social media since you messaged)? Are you asking questions about going that she possible wants to avoid answering - ie you're asking about what certain things are like over there and the answer could be negative so she avoids answering so not to put you off? - if none of these things or any other possible reason then YANBU. Personally though I'd go and put up with her, I'd love to live in Australia and would bite her arm off for the opportunity, wouldn't give a shit if she liked me or not, short term discomfort is worth it if it brings you closer to a goal like this IMO.

OP MWIT- it was them that suggested that, for the purpose of saving money

I understand that but it would be disingenuous of you to accept when you don't like them. You would only be pretending to like them so you get somewhere free or cheap to stay. You already feel fucked off with her?