...to not have immediately congratulated best friend on engagement?

[GreenBaizePacker]

Best friend was in Paris with relatively new boyfriend - 6 months. Got a text from her saying "[BF] proposed under the Eiffel Tower". No exclamation mark or smiley face or anything. I replied "Was it a yes?" because I had no idea they were even at that stage and wanted to be supportive in case it was a no, but equally prepared to be happy and congratulatory if it was a yes. She replied that of course it was a yes and then had a big rant that there's no such thing as too quick when you're in love. She's back now and she is FURIOUS with me that I questioned her. Obviously I was very apologetic and congratulated her when I found out. New boyfriend, well, fiancé now, is lovely btw so I don't have anything against him.

[Tiopyn]

YANBU - I'd have asked the same. You could have immediately congratulated her and got back "erm actually, I'm not sure yet/I turned him down".
Explain that you intended to congratulate her once you knew it was a yes, and havent't made any judgements. If she is sill upset just give her some space til she calms down.

[Janecc]

She sounds very defensive. It's not about you. You did nothing wrong. Agree with Lemonade

[larry5]

Dh and I got engaged three months after we started going out together although I had known him for longer and then we married after another 14 months. We have been married for 44 years.

Dd got engaged after nearly 4 years together but it was that long as she had told her fiance that he didn't want to get engaged until she had finished uni so she got engaged on her 21st birthday 3 days before the graduation ceremony.

[suspiciousofgoldfish]

I am really looking forward to your next thread about her hen do OP.

Massive overreaction. She sounds exhausting.

[WhereYouLeftIt]

The lady doth protest too much.

"She replied that of course it was a yes and then had a big rant that there's no such thing as too quick when you're in love."
Except of course that she's never mentioned to her best friend that she is in love. Which I think would come up in normal best friend behaviour.

She got swept away in the moment, and your question was realistic.

I'll give it a year.

[daisychain01]

What is it these days that people feel they have to be so much the the centre of attention that everyone in their friendship group should get the fireworks out just because they're engaged, getting married, having a baby etc.

High maintenance or what!

[GreenBaizePacker]

I had a pretty quick metmarriage soon so am absolutely but judging that aspect of things.

Unsure whether I'll be BM. She's another close friend from a different group as well as 3 sisters. I'm sure other threads will be forthcoming.

[SilverBirchWithout]

I would have replied with something positive and non-committal like "Wow. How romantic!" And left it for her to confirm. I imagine it could seem a bit judgy to say "and did you accept?." if you are a bit sensitive.