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Original poster

To hate this time of year, or rather my neighbours at this time if year

103 replies

ConfuciousSayWhat · 07/05/2016 17:24

One has a bonfire on the go, one a barbecue, two have trampolines, and they all have various music playing at full volume. Is it too much to ask that I be able to sit in my garden in the sun in reasonable peace without stinking of smoke?

OP posts:
RiverTam · 07/05/2016 22:56

That is hardcore, Sweetie. Wind chimes are absolutely the devil's own instrument.

OohMavis · 07/05/2016 22:58

Bonfires are the bane of my asthmatic life.

schbittery · 07/05/2016 22:58

dogs being dumped out in the garden and being left to bark for hours from early morning = total wankers

GingerMerkin · 07/05/2016 23:21

I haven't been able to have a window open for four years in the summer because of the people who live behind us. If their son isn't kicking a football against a wall from dawn to dusk the daughter is having a 'gathering' for her foul mouthed friends. They put pseudo apologetic notes through doors after each party. Oh so sorry got out of hand, all having such fun etc etc.

I get up very early for work some days and have an urge to walk up their road and kick their dustbins over on the way - I'm a right rebel I am.

Cinderbloom · 07/05/2016 23:33

Wind chimes! What a brilliant idea. Do you have a link to some particularly loud and annoying ones?

SweetieDrops · 07/05/2016 23:44

Mine were just from the pound shop.

Original poster
ConfuciousSayWhat · 07/05/2016 23:49

Oh I'm doing that! Between letting the kids loose with the hose and vengeance via windchime I may have summer sorted

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Cinderbloom · 07/05/2016 23:53

Thanks SweetieDrops.

(I've been tempted by the hose too OP)

SweetieDrops · 08/05/2016 00:09

Will windchimes in the garden be the next MN scarf? Grin

PaniWahine · 08/05/2016 00:38

We live in an apartment block; ground floor apartments have private gardens (yay us!).

We have BBQs once a month, but will BBQ our own dinner for two three or four times a week. We use gas rather than charcoal. When we have a BBQ with guests, we nudge them inside after 9ish, conscious that the homes on either side in several directions and upstairs all have kids aged 8+ (we don't). The two families on either side, as well as above us are very, very religious, so while we do play music, we are careful not to play anything too racy (no limp biskit / offspring /ACDC). We also keep it low enough that one of the neighbours kids asked us to turn it up so she could sing along :)

The upstairs neighbours keep us awake most nights running back and forth until midnight, banging doors from dawn, the father refurbishes furniture nightly as a hobby (shabby chic anyone?), two of the kids are cheerleaders, and the mother has OCD cleaning issues... You'd think there was an entire village living in there, not a family of four. We like our other neighbours a lot or we'd be a lot less considerate in our musical choices.

WanderingNotLost · 08/05/2016 00:43

YANBU, I can sympathise. The housing association in all their wisdom put a 'play area' behind our block of flats, and such as soon as summer comes all we hear is the children screaming from first thing in the morning til 9 or later at night. I don't mean playing loudly... they literally scream. And there's no break from it. It's not fun having to close your windows in the baking heat because it's the only way to block out the noise...

Cinderbloom · 08/05/2016 00:56

I'm starting to think it's in the HA's interest to not do anything about problem neighbours. Much better that decent tenants give up and move having spent several thousand pounds improving the houses and gardens. When the noisy fuckers want to move, their wrecked and decoratively destroyed houses are taken on by someone like us and so on. Each time I've moved I'd had to accept the expense of fixing things as a condition of the exchange. Makes sense.

MagnifiMad · 08/05/2016 01:30

Our newly-married neighbours are a bit bothersome- she speaks to him like shit 99% of the time, always complaining and whinging at him. One time I thought I heard her speaking to him affectionately/in a nice tone...turned out she was taking to the dog.

IHeartKingThistle · 08/05/2016 02:03

YANBU. My DC have a trampoline but if they scream or do horrible high-pitched shrieking they come off. The trampoline is quite near to lovely neighbours' fence. They say they don't mind the DC making noise but I draw the line at screaming. I explain the rule to all children who come over too. It's just a respect thing.

RockMeMomma · 08/05/2016 02:12

YANBU but neither are they! When my neighbours first lit their bbq, I thought there was a chimney fire because of all the smoke. I wouldn't have minded so much, if all my clean laundry wasn't hanging out on the line Angry

Wagglebees · 08/05/2016 02:19

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Wagglebees · 08/05/2016 02:31

Read the thread now. It isn't actually the never ending squeak of the trampoline, it isn't loud and only mildly irritating after a longtine has passed. It's the shrieking and very loud yelling that does get on my nerves. There's just no need for it. General playing noise, the occasional excited shriek and laughter all total fine. Hours of shouting isn't.

RockMeMomma · 08/05/2016 03:18

Grin Waggle my mind went elsewhere for a moment the gutter
Is it the trampoline is squeaking?!

AerithEarthling · 08/05/2016 03:29

Everybody had differences with annoyance, i lived next to someone who played music 24/7 even in the winter, constant parties and on the other side a woman who had a baby who cried constantly and a toddler who was forever having trantrums.
These noises never bothered me the slightest but stomping above my head makes my blood boil.

So whilst to me yabu to you it is annoying so yanbu

AerithEarthling · 08/05/2016 03:32

Cinder yep thats right even when they break the tenancy agreement. All HA want is rent they dont give a fuck if you live in peace or not.

Italiangreyhound · 08/05/2016 03:58

YANBU, bonfires are awful and should be out-lawed!

www.gov.uk/garden-bonfires-rules

PeaOp · 08/05/2016 07:31

Downstairs neighbour starting strimming the edges of his lawn on the dot of 7am this morning and is now mowing the grass....

LittleHouseOnTheShelf · 08/05/2016 08:00

We live out in the sticks and have a field as our garden, as do the neighbours. We have a large trampoline in ours and they have a cow in theirs. I think the noise is about equal. We both have a BBQ one day that cow is doomed

Blu · 08/05/2016 08:09

I am surprised so many people think it is Ok to play / endure loud music in the garden.

I am a BBQ offender, we cook outside often I'm good weather. But today it will be with the lid on.

dementedma · 08/05/2016 09:04

Well, given that today's heatwave is currently mist and rain, don't think I will have worries about being disturbed in the garden.
Bloody Scotland