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To hate this time of year, or rather my neighbours at this time if year

103 replies

ConfuciousSayWhat · 07/05/2016 17:24

One has a bonfire on the go, one a barbecue, two have trampolines, and they all have various music playing at full volume. Is it too much to ask that I be able to sit in my garden in the sun in reasonable peace without stinking of smoke?

OP posts:
expatinscotland · 07/05/2016 18:51

YABU

SoupDragon · 07/05/2016 18:52

Anyone who has a bonfire on a glorious afternoon is a wanker. The other things are to be expected.

peppajay · 07/05/2016 18:54

My DH hates the kids playing in the garden at this time of year as it disturbs the peace and quiet of the neighbours. He refuses to have BBQ's as well as isn't nice for the neighbours to be smoked out. He is far too considerate of everyone else to the detriment of his own family. Just because he is a boring sod doesn't mean everyone else is!!

TheFairyCaravan · 07/05/2016 18:54

YANBU

We've had to listen to banging music all afternoon. It's been ramped up now. It's great that some of my neighbours can enjoy their gardens how they want, it's just a shame they're preventing others from doing the same!

paxillin · 07/05/2016 18:55

I love the smell of barbecues. The sound of kids on trampolines, music blaring out and people gathering in gardens is just the soundtrack of summer for me.

I miss the sound of the football blaring from a thousand car radios as a thousand daddies washed their cars when I was a child.

CigarsofthePharoahs · 07/05/2016 18:57

Can I tell you a tale of neighbourhood noisy oddity?
On Thursday evening, to cheer my boys up about the fact dh had to work late, I did a little picnic in the garden for them. They loved it!
However, two minutes in we were disturbed by a continual graunching and rattling noise. It was quite loud.
Next to our garden (we are the end of the row) are the garages, fronted by a wide gravely area. One of the neighbours had got out his pressing bench and was taking it for a walk on the end of a rope with all the weights on it. Eventually, having dragged it to the middle of the gravelled area, he then dragged it back again, making a hideous amount of noise in the process.
In the midst of this, one of my other neighbours started banging on the door of the house he lives in and berating the woman inside.
It got loud.
I have never seen anyone take a pressing bench for a walk before. He didn't even use it. Weird.

Sparrowlegs248 · 07/05/2016 18:58

Yanbu. I am trying to put the baby to bed. The neighbours fucking kids are outside my house, in the road, screaming and shouting. They've woken him twice and it's taking me fucking ages to get him back to sleep.

I do live in the country. We all have gardens. Fuck off and play outside your own house.

I'm pissed off. In case you hadn't noticed.

Pinkheart5915 · 07/05/2016 19:03

I think your being a bit unreasonable. There just enjoying summer in there own garden,

Bbq and music- fine
Bonfire- I'm confused why do they need one.

So glad my closest neighbours are a mile in each direction.

Palomb · 07/05/2016 19:08

I don't mind any of those things except music.
Outside music is so incredibly antisocial it can really ruin a lovely day.. Especially if I'd Justin Beiber like my neighbour 😡

ifcatscouldtalk · 07/05/2016 19:11

I can see it both ways tbh. Today I commented on how lovely it was to enjoy the garden as all the neighbours weren't in theirs. I do though appreciate that we live in a mid terrace with gardens at the back also and I dont expect people to not enjoy themselves. Theres people who are inconsiderate though, i'm sure dd's trampoline sounds a bit annoying but i think the times she is on it is reasonable, we have one lot at the back of ours that have been known to sit under the gazebo yapping & shouting till the small hours night after night after night. The argument about living in the middle of nowhere is ok but unless you have zero neighbours it only takes one bad lot to spoil your peace. I have waffled but I really can see both sides to this one. Luckily my neighbours either side are reasonable people so occasional we all have a moan about the people at the back from time to time but could be worse.

homeiswheretheginis · 07/05/2016 19:12

Yanbu. I'm in my garden and my neighbour five doors down is blaring drum and bass music at a ridiculous volume meaning that everyone on our street is subjected to it. It's ill-mannered in the extreme. But I'm afraid manners appear to have gone out of fashion. The idea of not doing exactly what one wants to do, exactly when and how one feels like doing it just because it might inconvenience other people is apparently hidebound and old-fashioned Hmm.

Hate away, I am with you in spirit!

RiverTam · 07/05/2016 19:16

Bonfires on lovely sunny days irritate the shit out of me. Bonfire smoke is really pervasive, far more so than BBQ smoke, and it clearly never occurs to the selfish fuckers who have them that people have their windows open and their washing out. Bonfires are for autumnal evenings.

I'm not keen on BBQs as I hate the smell of burnt meat but I accept that they need to happen on warmer days. But I wish that, if you have a nice long garden, that you position your BBQ at the end of the garden, not just outside the back door, unless you live in a detached house with a lot of space between you and next door. Our old neighbours would have a BBQ at the merest hint of sunshine, right outside their back door which was right under our window. They had a 70 foot garden at their disposal but presumably them shifting their lazy arses to the back of the garden never occurred to the, the selfish twats.

IceRoadDucker · 07/05/2016 19:17

Your right to do what you want ends at my fence.

So true. Enjoying your garden does not require music loud enough for other people to hear.

red333 · 07/05/2016 19:20

I have a load of wood burning right now in my garden. And I have a trampoline. Suck it up op!!

LuciaInFurs · 07/05/2016 19:22

Yanbu. Last night my neighbours sat outside my bedroom window until 1am talking, just sat on a bench talking. Why they couldn't sit inside their house talking is beyond me. Whilst they were sat outside they left their tv on with an external door open so they could hear their television. I've just ordered a 2000 earplugs, that seems to be the only way I'm going to survive the summer.

That same neighbour is letting their child use the wall of our house as some sort of jungle gym and their bins as an assault course. She says he's too energetic to keep indoors. The houses are so small you can hear every crash and bang. Little Theo scraped his hand against a fence and I then had to listening to his screaming for 10 minutes.

I can't wait for winter.

Cinderbloom · 07/05/2016 19:24

YANBU. Sleep headphones purchased yesterday as there was not one room, front or back that I could read or sleep in. Neither was there one for DD (who has never been allowed to shriek outside, that's what parks and play centres are for) to do GCSE revision in. Trampolining and the constant thump of basketball on concrete from six a.m today and thumping music is still going.

If you can't catch up on sleep or even read quietly in your own house, which affects nobody, why should you go to the trouble and expense of moving, plus throw away all the money you've spent improving your house and garden.

Cunts.

seastargirl · 07/05/2016 19:24

I'd happily trade all that for the kid next door who is playing basketball, the hoop is just above their garage door so it hits that about every 4 seconds, if they miss they hit my car, but if we go out and say anything we get told very aggressively that there children can do what they want on their drive. We move on Friday, I can't wait!

dementedma · 07/05/2016 19:26

Person 3 doors away has a massive trampoline which is packed with kids the minute the sun shines. Counted 6 of the buggers on there last week. The constant fucking screaming and shrieking does my head in,and it goes on right through the evening. YANBU

notamummy10 · 07/05/2016 19:27

I half agree with your point... Your neighbours are entitled to do whatever they wish to do but they should be considerate towards other neighbours.

My right side next door neighbours used to have parties every time the warm weather made an appearance, their BBQs smelt rank and they would play music (with heavy bass notes) until the early hours of the morning at the maximum volume.

Fanakapan · 07/05/2016 19:28

This is exactly why I love living in the arse end of nowhere. I've paid my dues on cheek by jowl living.

These days, I can have dozens of noisy, excitable, food-burning, music-loving people round that I like and not be subjected to a solitary stranger.

Bliss.

BlueberrySky · 07/05/2016 19:33

All I can hear in my back garden, is kids from three or four houses playing and shouting. BBQ's are on and music playing. We live in detached houses with big gardens.

When these kids have all gone in, that is when my teenagers surface. They will sit in the garden till the early hours chatting and drinking. I do make the music go off at 11 though.

When we moved in, both sides apologised in advance for their noisy kids in the gardens. I also apologised for my teens staying up late and drinking with their friends in the garden. We all get on and I tolerate young kids and they tolerate teens.

Trumpette · 07/05/2016 19:36

YANBU. Everyone has the right to enjoy the Summer but not at everyone else's expense and for hours on end!

My children play in the garden with their friends for an hour and then they come in doors.

Most reasonable people enjoy the sun; trampoline, BBQ, mow their lawn, play some music etc

However when this goes on for hours that is not fair and reasonable. Don't worry it will be raining next week.......

foursillybeans · 07/05/2016 19:38

YANBU. But only with the music and the smoke. I think bonfires should be after 8pm in the summer/spring months at least although I doubt many would agree with me. Loud music drives me crazy as it's just so inconsiderate. Why do people think it's ok to force their music choices on other people. I am not really talking about one off parties like birthday parties just general 'I'm in the garden blaring my stereo out from the lounge' type music.

BennyTheBall · 07/05/2016 19:39

I wish bonfires were illegal.

I have told off anyone in our village that has had one and now nobody dares Grin

RiverTam · 07/05/2016 19:44

red333 well, unless you have no near neighbours, what an arsehole you are, have a fucking medal. Really, are you that inconsiderate? The smoke from your burning wood will be filling all the houses near you, kids will be forced to go to bed on a warm evening with the windows shut, just because there's an entitled wankspangle nearby. Presumably bringing their DC up to be selfish entitled wankspangles too.

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