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Absolutely livid!! DD, DH and I we're in the garden having a lovely little BBQ that btw I paid for, when DD decided to go inside and get her watering can. She proceeded to start to pour over me, I said please don't do that, I have my contact lenses in which can be dangerous with water, have my phone next to me and quite frankly I don't want to be wet. DD backed off but DH was constantly trying to splash me then ever tidally DH pours the whole thing over me, blinded by the bloody water in my eye I grabbed what I thought was DH wrist and unfortunately got DD in the eye, big scratch crying her eyes out. DH proceeds to scream come here please you've seriously hurt her eye and then make me feel entirely shit about it. DD went downstairs after she calmed down and I asked DH to help me tidy uk to which he replied I want to relax right now I'll help you after to which I said well I wanted to relax in the garden and I wasn't allowed to which he continued to scream that I'm boring, miserable etc. AIBU to fucking hate him right now?!

I'm surprised by some responses on here. Op I think your husband sounds like a bellend.

WhereInTheWorldToNext Sat 07-May-16 17:52:05
Had you been drinking?
Seems like a weird overreaction to family horseplay

Horseplay? OP said she didn't want to be splashed so her DH pours water over her. I absolutely hate the feel of wet clothing, and having water poured over me would have me raging, so no, I don't think the OP is overreacting at all. Her DH sounds like an arsehole for ignoring her when she said no.

Whereintheworld are you serious? I would say majority of posters have agreed that they would not find his funny at all and would get annoyed

Quite serious - of course it's fine to be annoyed but the lashing out because you have water in your eye seems rather an overreaction

How did I lash out? I had water in my eyes so my eyes were shut and was shocked so put my arm out to stop it which resulted in an accident. I don't think that anyone lashed out, I was annoyed and aggravated.

I don't think you overrated or lashed out. I would not have appreciated having anything done to me that I had already said I didn't want done to me. I absolutely hate water being poured on my face so this would have got the same shocked reaction from me and DH shouldn't have been such a twat.

It's really unfortunate that DD was caught up in it, hope she's alright.

I'd be especially annoyed if I'd done my makeup and hair #uptight

So your husband kicks off because you don't think someone pouring water all over you is fun? What a twat. An immature twat too.

You sound very uptight

It seems that people either agree with me or him, I suppose it depends on sense of humour.

DD is fine, I took her to the chemist yesterday and he said it was fine, not an actual scratch and today she woke up and looked like nothing had ever happened thankfully.

DH ended up apologising as i said before for being a knob, in the end totally saw that he wasnt being playful from my perspective but undermining and disrespectful and today when him and DD were playing with water outside again and I was also relaxing he and DD respected my wishes and left me out of it. So all resolved on my end

Yes difference in sense of humour but also no one should force their idea of fun on anyone!

Anyway glad it's all sorted.

To those calling you uptight... I find it funny to call DP 'names', he also does this to me, it's our SOH. But what if one of us didn't want to be called a "smelly wanker" (always said in jest) then they would be totally within their rights to say no and I'd respect that. Sometimes after a hard day I'll say "can you not just for tonight as I'm feeling sensitive" and DP utterly respects that. I'm appalled that the OP is being called anything along the lines of uptight You're clearly like her DP and I can garuntee you annoy some people IRL

Wait until he's relaxed and chilled out and pour a pint of ice cold water over him. If he tries to say anything - scream at him he's boring and needs to take a joke. He might learn his lesson

Glad it's sorted op.

Bottom line, if someone tells you to stop doing something, then you stop. It's about respect, innit!