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To think that people now treat me different from what they used to.

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midlifehope · 04/05/2016 20:38

People in my local village and town used to be very friendly with me, often chatting etc. Of late, people seem to avoid me suddenly, or just give me a few brief moments of their time. I can't seem to get on the 'inside' of any group. Am I paranoid? Has the social climate changed. Is there some odd rumour or gossip that has spread about me (I don't live a remotely outrageous or scandalous life). Is it that I'm older and more grey and not as girly looking so not as approachable?. When I go to another town or village, people treat me more normally. It makes me think that a rumour has spread or something. I'm very happy in my life, with two ds's which I adore, a rough diamond partner, and a house I love. Are people envious. I wish I knew what was going on?

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PPie10 · 04/05/2016 20:40

Is it every single person? If so that's very odd.

frumpet · 04/05/2016 20:40

The words that jumped out at me here are 'rough diamond partner ', might not be you as such !

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midlifehope · 04/05/2016 20:42

Yeah, more or less every person. Either I'm paranoid and imagining it, or something odd is going on, or my behaviour has changed (less open or approachable or something) I've literally NO idea....

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Vardyparty · 04/05/2016 20:42

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Cryingwithlaughter91 · 04/05/2016 20:42

Sometimes I think people are just afraid of the Unknown. Many People in villages and even towns like to be in with each other and if they don't know much about someone they can gossip and speculate. It's absolutely ridiculous. I get treated the same way at the School gates lol, the only real stipulation people might have about me is that I'm exceedingly quiet and never draw attention to myself.

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midlifehope · 04/05/2016 20:44

You think it could be dp frumpet. In what way? We're pretty independent so not often out together in public. When we are people are more friendly - oddly! Shock

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midlifehope · 04/05/2016 20:46

Crying, you think It might be a small town mentality....... interesting, but that wouldn't explain why they used to be more friendly. School gates are ODD places aren't they?

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Cryingwithlaughter91 · 04/05/2016 20:51

Midlifehope - I said nothing about mentality. I also said 'many' not referring to 'all' because you can't categorise anyone.
Perhaps you can tell me how such. quiet person as myself is treated differently then? Cause I definitely haven't done anything wrong 😂

Cryingwithlaughter91 · 04/05/2016 20:52

Oooh I just read that back and that looks so narky I do apologise! I mean it all in good humour :-) X

sunnydayinmay · 04/05/2016 20:53

Do you have a friend you could ask? If there is a rumour circulating, you ought to know.

frumpet · 04/05/2016 20:57

Have you upset anyone at school then ?

Cryingwithlaughter91 · 04/05/2016 20:59

No, I just get on with my day and say a nice hello and a how are you etc.

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midlifehope · 04/05/2016 21:01

No I haven't upset anyone at school. I'm almost afraid to ask a friend!!

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Backpfeifengesicht · 04/05/2016 21:04

I don't know how old your Ds's are, could they be a stage when they're getting into trouble at school or teenage delinquent type stuff? Perhaps they are developing a bit of a reputation that you are unaware of? Sorry I'm not suggesting that's the case but trying to think of something that could make people treat you differently.

LaConnerie · 04/05/2016 21:09

Hm that's a strange one. Do you have a friend you trust in your village who you could ask to tell you if she knows anything?

Otherwise, is your partner a new partner? And how rough a diamond is he? Are we talking ex-con rough or just a bit of dirt under his fingernails?

WriteforFun1 · 04/05/2016 21:09

Has your partner pissed anyone off?

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midlifehope · 04/05/2016 21:10

back, no they're 4 and just started. The other is a baby

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mummyto2monkeys · 04/05/2016 21:11

My worry would be that your husband has been up to something he shouldn't and they are too embarrassed to look you in the eye.

Tiggeryoubastard · 04/05/2016 21:12

What do you mean by 'rough diamond'?

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midlifehope · 04/05/2016 21:13

haha dp definitely. not a criminal, dirt under fingernails more like. i wonder if hes inadvertently said something about me that has spread to a rumor. He's a bit aspergersy - says what he thinks without social mores iykwim.

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JewryMember · 04/05/2016 21:15

By rough diamond do you mean he's been in the slammer? He's a cage fighter with a donor card? He has no teeth? What?

JewryMember · 04/05/2016 21:16

Aspergersy??? Shock

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midlifehope · 04/05/2016 21:16

jewry - salty non pc sailor type - no criminal background Wink

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midlifehope · 04/05/2016 21:17

on the specrum a little, sorry aspergersy sounds clumsy.

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JewryMember · 04/05/2016 21:18

salty non pc sailor type

Oh blimey. This isn't going to go well...