Sister has 3 sons. I have DD and DS. She has never come to terms with not having a daughter and there have been about four occasions when she has had a jealous outburst (only once directly to me) but usually to our mum.
My relationship with DD is very close; she is very easy going, we share interests and she has always been an easy child. I have trodden carefully trying not to rub my sister's nose in it but she is sensitive about the time I spend with DD and the activities we share. Commitments mean that we can't always involve my sister but they have done the odd thing together. Generally sister doesn't like DD being involved in things we do though.
It came to a head again last week when she had a go at me about DD being overweight, inactive and unhealthy. DD is a size 12, 5'7" and has big boobs. She isn't sporty but walks to and from school. I have addressed eating habits with her in the past as she has a large appetite and will eat for the sake of it. I have been conscious of treading carefully and going at it from a health perspective. But I am upset about the attack from my sister. We argued; I told her she had gone too far but she said she was entitled to be honest because she is my sister.I suspect this could be about her not having a daughter but I have been licking my wounds and reflecting on it this week and I now feel that I don't want her to see DD for fear of her being judged. Just need a bit of help to process my feelings and the situation.