to be annoyed at school teachers?

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I'll try to keep a long story short...my daughter(13) has come home on a few occasions over the past couple of weeks telling me that her new English supply teacher hates her. The teacher has mis-spelled a word on the whiteboard and my daughter corrected her (which I can understand would be miffing and embarrassing.) A couple of times when another child has asked for help with spelling the teacher has said something like "Oh why don't you ask her, since she's a walking dictionary" and called her to the front to write on the whiteboard. She now comes home and tells me all the words the techer has misspelled but doesn't mention it to the teacher, she is, however convinced that the teacher hates her. On Thursday the class was asked by the form teacher to write about how she feels about some of her lessons/subjects and was encouraged to include her thoughts on English. She said she wasn't enjoying it because the teacher didn't like her because she's corrected her on her spelling. Today she has been pulled to one side by the form teacher and called arrogant and told to worry about her own education, not the teacher's spelling. She's now saying she wants to miss school and doesn't want to go to her English classes, which she used to enjoy. The supply teacher is covering for maternity leave so will be around for a while. I'm not happy with either teacher, aibu, and is my child an arrogant little shit? Or is it fair enough to question a teacher?

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I completely disagree that bright kids need to be put in their place. They need proper teaching, encouragement and intellectual challenge in a psychologically safe environment. Just like any other children in school.

Teachers don't need to be genii to do this. They fail when their own I securities let them down, not because the children are smarter than them. There will always be a few children with higher IQs than the teacher, but none will be wiser than a good teacher.

Emotional abuse of very bright children who are seen as a "problem" does happen in schools.

Worcs you've having a random wee conversation there with yourself.

Someone who tries to re-establish authority by reminding the class of an unfortunate incident that took place days ago and showing them how undermined she felt is, quite frankly, not terribly good at the job.

And as for putting bright kids in their place: yes, of course they have to be taught manners. And kindness and empathy with other people, even adults. But not at the expense of trying to forget what they know or thinking they have no right to know more than the teacher. Lookingagain is spot on: "There will always be a few children with higher IQs than the teacher [you could add "who know more than the teacher"], but none will be wiser than a good teacher."

When I was a year or two older than the OP's dd, English was introduced as the first MFL in a younger year than had previously been happening, meaning that my teacher had had no training in teaching the language, but only had distant memories of her own GCSE -equivalent to draw on. I had been studying English at home since the age of 6 (parents language teachers) and had turned out to have a natural gift for it: there was absolutely no doubt that I knew more of the language than she did. But because of the gracious and empathetic way she handled this, it never became a problem in class: she understood that I needed ways to develop what I knew and suggested ways of doing this, she never made me feel small or uppity or wrong about what I had learnt. I still remember her, over 40 years later, as a wonderful teacher. She had that wisdom Looking was talking about. I try to remember her whenever I am faced with a student who is clearly set to be one of those high-flyers I never became...

Rain and there was me thinking I was responding to your comment. Ah well, no matter.

Teachers are human. Sometimes they misinterpret pupils intentions - but that doesn't mean it should be lefty to stand. My earlier advise still stands to OP - find out the teachers points of view.

A few months ago my DS school had a different homework system (it didn't work and they do 'normal' HW now). Basically they did tasks that were meant to take so long and pojnts were awarded for task/length of time and what was produced.
Ds maths teacher gave them all a task to do or they could choose their own. Ds did what was given and did it so quickly I questioned him whether he'd done it properly as surely it should've taken longer than 5 minutes.
Next lesson the teacher went through the register asking pupils how long task took to allocate them the points. Most said half hour or hour (they aren't daft and know they'll get more points). DS being DS piped up 5 minutes. It was the truth. He was hailed aside and told off for making other students feel bad as it took him less time and to consider what answer he gave in future.
Ds has ASD and this was way beyond what he could cope with. I spoke to teacher who tried to defend her actions until she couldn't actually answer why she thought it acceptable to teach a child to lie for gain. Then she said she knew HW was easy for DS - so I told her perhaps she shouldn't set my son up to fail in further rather than make him take responsibility for pretending the work was a challenge for him.

She's actually a lovely teacher and I really respect her - she's been great with ds - it was just one incident.