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AIBU to be pissed off by this comment?

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toolonglurking · 27/04/2016 15:39

I had a baby three weeks ago, my first. MIL (who is staying for a week) has just shrieked ' My goodness girl, haven't you got an appetite! You better not weigh yourself for a while!' because I ate the last slice of banana loaf.
I want to tell her to fuck off, but realise I'm probably being touchy because I'm tired.
Do I need to just let it go, and if yes, then can someone please tell me how to?

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YoureAllABunchOfBastards · 27/04/2016 17:35

I think there is a simple two word answer to the food comments and the burping.

Fuck. Off.

The cheeky cow!

YoureAllABunchOfBastards · 27/04/2016 17:36

I ate my own weight in shortbread when BFing. One good thing about having babies near Christmas...

Spudlet · 27/04/2016 17:37

Oy vey. She sounds like fun.... As for coming into the room at 3am - nooooo!

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 27/04/2016 17:46

No you're not being touchy. She just has to much to say. Don't be making your feelings an excuse for her to say what she pleases. Fucking rude people.

loosechange · 27/04/2016 17:49

Pretend you are having sex when she comes in at 3 am.

Then say"Ooh, thank you. I've worked up quite an appetite. I don't suppose you get me a cup of tea and a slice of cake.

DartmoorDoughnut · 27/04/2016 17:55

Put a chair behind the door tonight!! I cannot believe she thinks that is an ok thing to do?!

Oysterbabe · 27/04/2016 17:58

I would go batshit if MIL walked into my room.
I must give off vibes as she won't touch DD unless I offer and pass her over.

AdvocateNotAdvocat · 27/04/2016 18:01

Just read update. Pack her off home with a large slice of banana cake.

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toolonglurking · 27/04/2016 18:03

As daft as this may sound - I'm glad you all think it's too much too, I was worried I was just being a hormonal arse, but I feel much more confident that I'm being normal and she's being a bit of a monster.
I'll be speaking to DH about it tonight, he was walking out of the room when she said it, so I don't think he quite heard her (benefit of the doubt, he is a wonderful man), but I know he finds the 'help'at 3am too much.
She's leaving tomorrow, I'm counting down the minutes.

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diddl · 27/04/2016 18:09

Can't believe that she walks in at 3am!

If she wanted to be helpful, she'd have baby in with her & bring them in just to be fed!

Patapouf · 27/04/2016 20:32

You are not being touchy, she needs to be told to fuck off

ZigZagIntoTheBlue · 27/04/2016 21:33

I hope DH speaks to her and doesn't just leave it as 'oh well she's leaving tomorrow lets not rock the boat' - more the 3am thing than the rude comments, but next time tell her to do one!

StrawberryMouse · 27/04/2016 21:38

How rude! You have licence to eat whatever you want when you have a small baby, especially when feeding. When I was in hospital after having ds2 a midwife marched up to me and declared "You are not Victoria Beckhan Strawberry, eat your breakfast!" DH and I often repeat this to each other.

Falling270 · 27/04/2016 21:40

She is SO RUDE!

I probably would have gone red and looked at the floor too! If she does it again say: "Sorry what was that, I didn't catch it." When she repeats it she'll hopefully realise how rude she sounded. And then you can respond: "I thought that's what you said but had assumed I was mistaken as its a bit of a funny thing to say to a woman who's only recently given birth!"

EweAreHere · 27/04/2016 22:11

Having someone other than my DH or children walking into my room at 3am would happen exactly ONCE (if that) in my lifetime. I wouldn't hesitate to put anyone foolish enough to do that in their place pronto.

The nerve!

SilentlyScreamingAgain · 27/04/2016 22:46

She an arse. Did she actually make the cake? I'd tend to go a bit easier than has been suggested on anyone who can make a banana loaf that I'd actually want to eat.

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toolonglurking · 28/04/2016 05:44

SilentlyScreaming - no she didn't make the cake, MY friend made the cake an brought it over for ME!
DH said he's going to miss having her around but he agrees she's got the tact of a wet fart, and she shouldn't be bustling into our room to 'help' and he'll speak to get before she goes. She's already announced her planned return in June. I think I might just sell the house and live somewhere else.

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WhatchaMaCalllit · 28/04/2016 08:53

O. M. G!!!!!!!!

Your DH has to have a word with his mother. She has gone soooo far over the line that she can't even see it in her rear-view mirror!!!

If she is planning on visiting in June, you absolutely must without a shadow of a doubt, have house rules for the next visit. She is visiting. Only that. She is not taking over. I'd even go so far as to agree the rules with DH before the next visit, make sure the visit is for no longer than 3 days (preferably not over the bank holiday weekend in June as you'll want that for yourselves), and get the rules laminates and put up in numerous places around your house so there is no escape from them!

diddl · 28/04/2016 09:06

He's going to miss having her around.

Bloody hell.

Is she doing all the cleaning, cooking & washing or something??

Why would you miss someone who walks in at 3am?

Falling270 · 28/04/2016 10:51

I can't get over her coming into your room at 3am... I just don't even know how anyone could ever think that was acceptable!

ZigZagIntoTheBlue · 01/05/2016 21:16

Did he talk to her? How did it go down?

lulucappuccino · 01/05/2016 21:28

WHY would you have your MIL staying with you for a week when you have a newborn??

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