People who only use the landline

[DorothyL]

Aibu this is ever so slightly tedious? In the evening I'm shattered and want to make arrangements via text/message, but some people just don't respond to any communication other than a phone call.

Well things evolve.

YANBU

I have to have a landline to make an essential gadget work, but I hate it. Anyone who calls me on it is trying to flog me something, or donate to charity, or bloody PPI I even had a phishing scheme I had ro report to action fraud, and the line rental charge is a joke.

I have registered with TPS did it years ago hasn't made a damn difference

Before I get a post saying Song you need to register with TPS

Are you sure you want to meet these people if you "don't want to have a coversation" with them?

"It seems to be a relatively recent phenomenon that people just won't talk to people over the phone even if they know them well."

Mainly on MN I find. My friends and family still like to talk to each other, preferably face to face.

"Well things evolve."

Not always in a good way - global warming anyone?

You don't have to be glued to your phone, just check it say once in an evening for any new messages?

Why should I? Anyone who wants to get hold of me urgently would ring me. Sometimes the old way is the best.

Happy to talk at a get together when I'm ready for it, not after 14 hours of work

This is relevant to your post in that people who want me can get me on mobile, text, WhatsApp, Facebook, Twitter, email, Mumsnet I'm very easily contactable, I literally don't pick up my landline if it rings. The cleaner answers it at times and hands it to me, it is always some cold caller. Irksome

I think it's just stubborn

It's like people in the past insisting on letters, not wanting calls

People who only have landlines/have a mobile phone but never use it are an enormous pain in the arse.

You have specially call the fuckers on their stupid special phone because they're so special they can't bring themselves to not be a pain in the arse to contact. Grrrrr. Really pisses me off. And being old is not an excuse!

You have specially call the fuckers on their stupid special phone because they're so special they can't bring themselves to not be a pain in the arse to contact. Grrrrr. Really pisses me off. And being old is not an excuse!

Gosh, I wonder why they avoid you?

I always preferred written communication to spoken - I just used to write proper letters (still do sometimes.) I do speak to people on the phone, but only as the last option. They have to call my mobile, though - I don't use my landlines. I do have family members in various parts of the country where the mobile signal is diabolical, unless you hang out of the second bedroom's left window by one foot or similar. WiFi doesn't work well through thick cob or flint walls, either. Not everyone cares -if you only check email every few days, why would it bother you enough to check via your phone?

I'm 29, I have no idea where my mobile is, but I love our landline. But then, I have four people who ring me, 3 of them are blood related and the other is my Dh.

I will charge my mobile and WhatsApp my few two mates, but there's no plans to be made as they live hundreds of miles away so I doubt I'm annoying anyone!

As a caller, I don't see what difference it makes to call someone on their landline or mobile - I just have the one they're most likely to answer as their main number.

I hate mobiles and people who want to speak via text all the time, the very reason I refuse to have a mobile. If you want to speak to me pick up a phone and speak.

Maybe other people are shattered & don't want to piss about with awful predictive text & messaging ping pong that goes on for ages when a 2 min call would work....

We'ré all different. When I'm shattered, I can't cope with speech. I can usually manage to type, though - not to the point of an essay on existentialism or something, but I could probably manage something like, "can't do Tuesday, what about Weds after 7pm?" I struggle with that sort of negotiation by phone when I'm really tired, though.

It's probably better to wait till everyone is less tired, or if it's that urgent and you're that desperate for an answer, you have to go for the medium most likely to get a response. For some people that's phone, some FB, some text... It's the same at work - some people won't reply to email until you chase them by phone, others only reply to email, and some are easier to get hold of on instant messenger. This doesn't always match my choice, but such is life - other times it does go my way.

See, when I'm tired I'd much rather have a two minute conversation (which is surely all it takes - if that - to make arrangements) than a back and forward 'person sends a text, I wait for text, they wait for me to text back, I text back, they write a text, I wait for a text, I read the text, I write the text' etc etc until I'm practically shitting myself with boredom, frustration and endless pinging that can easily take all fucking night.

And don't even get me started on the fuckers who respond to you ringing them and leaving a voicemail for them with a text. Which you then ring them to respond to because it's quicker and they don't answer and instead send you another text. Which you then ring them to answer and so on and so on and so on ...

I hate my mobile phone. I think it is a huge imposition that people expect me to have it with me at all times. I hate the way that I perpetually have to fiddle with the volume, because I'm not allowed to have it ring at work but if it is in my bag or coat then I don't feel the vibrations. I am always missing calls and having to do that complicated call to voicemail (find voicemail number, call it, put phone on speaker phone make sure I'm not in public so I can operate the keypad at the same time). And then, just when I want to use it the thing has run out of charge and my children have nicked all the charging leads.

I love my landline. People call. Sometimes I answer at one, sometimes they leave me a message. A light flashes. I listen to the message and call them back. FFS they can even txt my landline if they want to. It never runs out of charge or fails to ring.

I realise I sound about a millionty and one years old.

And people who leave weird little PA messages on my mobile when they called while I was driving/tutoring/working - like I should be instantly available to respond to their dull call. I was at the cinema the other day and there were adults popping in and out throughout the film so they could answer their telephones. Just switch it off for 2 hours. You can't all be expecting life and death calls - and if you are why the hell did you think a cinema was a good place to go while you waited?

I am most often at home, and have a landline with 3 handsets, so I'm more likely to hear that than my mobile which a)I hate talking on - the feel and sound of it and b)is often inaccessible in my handbag or upstairs so I don't hear it or don't find it in time. (Then I ring straight back and the blooming person doesn't answer, in spite of just having rung me )

DD spent ages training me to have my mobile on me (obv the training didn't work v well), then doesn't answer when I ring. She tries to make complicated arrangements by text, which is no good as she can text about 10x faster than me. Much easier to do by actually speaking ime.

If you're trying to organise a big group of people, it is rude of them to not answer your what's app messages. It's much easier for you than having to ring around every single person.

I'd give them one more chance by messaging again then presume they dont want to come. That'll teach them

I have a mobile and don't mind texting but hate having to speak on it because it is not clear at all. Love my landline.