It's my birthday, and I'm at home this morning when I hear the postbox clatter. The postman has already been, so I go to see what it is. It's a birthday card from Mil and Fil, just popped through the letter box. There was no sign of their car, so they must have parked out of sight, run up to the door and posted the card, without ringing the bell, but walking right past my car so knowing I was in the house. It's a 40 minute drive from their house so it's not as if it didn't take some sort of effort to get here.
I felt hurt, angry and insulted (despite £50 in the card!) that they wouldn't even ring the bell to say hello. Husband came home about 10 minutes later, and I told him I was sorely tempted to ring them and tell them how I felt, but he asked me not to and said he would text his dad to ask them why they didn't ring. They've tried to call me but I haven't picked up. I don't want to rock the boat, as it was pointed out that they do this with other members of the family, so not to take it personally.
But should they know that by doing this they are upsetting and offending us?