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WIBU to think that this comment from a colleague was jerkish?

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WhoseBadgerIsThis · 25/04/2016 20:23

This is really not much compared with many of the horrible work situations I've read about on here, but I'm doubting myself and would like the collective wisdom and bluntness of mumsnet to tell me if I over-reacted or not. Thanks!

So, I got new and very different specs at the weekend (old ones were thin metal half frames; new ones are thick brown plastic ones). I am told they suit me, and they certainly seem similar to ones that look good on other people. I have zero sense of style though, so a) I wouldn't have a clue if they look ok and b) I am quite sensitive about my not-exactly stylish persona.

Colleague in question is a work-friend, but has form for blunt/dickish comments (depending on how charitably you want to read them), such as joking that I'm "pathetic" whenever I catch the latest cold doing the rounds, or laughing at some item I'm wearing (twice - not all the time). So, first thing today he walks past and comments that I have new specs, and that they look "[dramatic pause]... interesting [dramatic pause]". If you can imagine someone saying "interesting" as in "fashion disaster" that's how I read his comment. I nod and smile and get on with my day. Later on he asks if these are the glasses I am wearing permanently now (he knows I always wear glasses all the time, so I have no idea what that question was getting at), and then when I say yes, he repeats the "interesting" comment. I reply that if he has nothing nice to say, then to say nothing at all, and I walk away.

So, WIBU to take his comment as a jibe? If I wasn't BU, how could I have handled it better? Should I have said something the first time he did it, on the grounds that it's better to say something first off, rather than say nothing for ages then explode when the last straw is one too many (I do this, and need to learn not to).

Blimey that was long, sorry!

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KurriKurri · 26/04/2016 18:53

I'm glad he's apologised though I'd be tempted to e-mail back 'you've confused me with someone who gives a fuck what you think' - but you are probably much nicer and more grown up than me Grin

Honestly some people can't help themselves commenting on others.
A woman I worked with once said to me 'if you wear that awful frumpy cardigan again K I shall steal it and burn it'

I told her that now I knew she hated it so much I'd wear it even more often just to annoy her. She claimed she was being kind by giving me fashion advice - but there was nothing wrong with my cardi and I liked it - I still like it.

Just because other people have an opinion on how you look, it doesn't mean they are right Smile

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SurroMummy13 · 26/04/2016 18:54

He may think you're hot in your new glasses. Just wink at him next time you see him saying "you like them, eh?"

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