AIBU to send ds to school today?

[Watchingnetflix]

Ds1 (15) was away with army cadets all weekend, very tiring weekend, back about 4 yesterday and had an early night. He was shattered this morning and achey but I sent him to school anyway. He's messaged to say none of the others went to school today and I'm feeling super mean and guilty and don't know if I should offer to get him?

Thing is he's missed 4 days this year already with dental appointments as orthodontics is in a town 1.5 hrs away and he's in his first year of GCSEs and has some exams coming up.

I feel so mean now!

[crazywriter]

He'll be fine. During college and uni I'd have numerous weekends with military exercises. Lots of walking, running around with heavy packs and very little sleep. I would always have to go into classes on the Monday, no matter what time I got back on the Sunday.

You did the right thing sending him in, and he'll be better for it in the long run. If he really struggles with that, he'll have to decide whether army cadets is worth it (IMO it is) or not. A hobby doesn't stop him from going to school.

[whois]

You totally did the right thing and he'll be fine. He can have a lazy evening after school, a nice big tea and an early night tonight.

[LittleLionMansMummy]

I'd have done the same op, it's the kind of character building the army cadets would be proud of. I remember having 3 days doing a 50 mile DoE expedition in the Brecon Beacons. My mum was dead proud, ran me a nice hot bath upon my return, cooked me my favourite dinner.... and remarked how much I'd have to tell my school friends about the adventure the following day!

[Ameliablue]

I would have sent him if it was me.

[Janecc]

I take it your ds is otherwise fit and healthy. If so yanbu or mean. My DD (7) did 6 dances in four 3 hr dance shows one weekend. She had to be on site fully made up and hair done by 12.30pm. The second show finished st 9.30pm. By the time I'd taken her hair and makeup off/fed her, it was 10.30pm Sunday. She still went to school the next day. I was a bit surprised that one mother had decided her DD wouldn't be going to school because she wouldn't cope - she did 11 dances. I didn't consider myself mean. All the other girls went to school the next day. Had my DD been really tired, I would have kept her off but only because she has a medical condition more easily triggered by illness or tiredness where her heart stops beating or slows to an imperceptible pace and she falls instantly to the ground, if it happens when she's standing, she can bang her head very hard. (Reflex Anoxic Seizure). Luckily she has only had a few.

[RaskolnikovsGarret]

DD is going on DofE shortly, and will be home at 7ish. No option of not going to school on Monday, and none of the girls would want to. I can't believe the whole of your DS's class was off, I'm shocked!

[Watchingnetflix]

Well he came home totally fine, he nodded off in one lesson but said he was fine by lunchtime although still sore, and I think he's quite proud he was the only one of his cadet mates to go to school.

To be fair he didn't even ask not to go to school (he knows he basically has to have a limb hanging off to avoid school ) it was only when he said his mates didn't go to school that the parental guilt kicked in!

[Jeeves93]

As a cadet instructor I have never known any cadet take a day off school after a weekend unless they had sustained some kind of injury, which in itself is extremely rare. I am often shattered after a weekend but have to go to work the next day.