to not want relatives smoking around my baby

[Peterspan]

Due to go to family party round someone's house in a couple of weeks. Most of my relatives smoke (indoors) which usually I have no problem with. This time I am due to take four month old baby and feel uncomfortable with people smoking around her. Don't want to not go as it is a celebration for a milestone birthday and everyone looking forward to meeting baby. Am I being pfb?

Think Valentine is both self confessing and exemplifying the melodrama there...
It's perfectly possible to reach agreement whereby smokers and non smokers can attend the same venues without smokers being vilified/ostracised/strung up for being (the crime of) smelly and without non smokers having to breath their smoke. But asking people to change tshirts is fucking ridiculous.

YANBU.

Anyone who even contemplates smoking around a baby or child is a selfish, disgusting, stupid idiot.

YANBU. I just wouldn't go. The house will stink. I wouldn't even let anyone smoke in the same room as my dog!

YANBU, it's not right to smoke around a baby.
I wouldn't go personally even if they smoke outside while you are there the house will still stink of smoke.

It's perfectly possible to reach agreement whereby smokers and non smokers can attend the same venues without smokers being vilified/ostracised/strung up for being (the crime of) smelly and without non smokers having to breath their smoke. But asking people to change tshirts is fucking ridiculous.

Of course that's possible, it only requires smokers to be aware of the dangers of second hand smoke, especially for young children, and agree to limit children's exposure to smoke. It's not about smoke smelling unpleasant, it's a real health risk for children to be exposed to tobacco smoke. Nobody should feel they are being ostracised or vilified just because a parent asks them not to behave in a way that puts their child at risk.

On the point about changing clothes, there's increasingly evidence that 'third hand smoke' (ie residue on clothes or furniture etc) could also be a health risk. If you google it there are some interesting and reputable studies on the subject. So asking a smoker to change clothes and wash their hands before touching a child may not be an unreasonable idea after all.

I wouldn't go either. My father is a doctor and is very serious on smoking around a baby or holding babies after having smoked. As you could imagine I was a nightmare when my first was born.

The person who smokes and the adults who chose to me around them has made that decision themselves. The baby can not make that choice.
YANBU
I don't think anyone should smoke around a baby at all