Even as I typed that , I think I must be mad to even ask your opinions. It's so bloody obvious that anyone in their right mind would be freaked out.
This is my first post here though a long time lurker.
The background is : became engaged recently to my lovely man who lives in another UK country to where I am. We plan for me to move there with him in October , marrying summer 2017. In the meantime, he's with me half the month and.I've been visiting him at his home every two months, which is all my work commitments allow. He is semi retired.
I knew his lodger was a part time.self.employed masseuse and thought nothing of it until it occurred to me during the last visit I'd never seen a woman coming for a massage. Also- one of the men that came sort of looked sleazy . So I said to DP "have you noticed G never seem.to have women clients ? " to which he said -I thought a tad defensively- "well , a woman came once " so.I.followed that with " what type of massages does G give ? ? To which he quietly replied " I don't know ". So I told him of my suspicions and he's since told her she needs to move out by October before I move in "because we are going to.need our own space when you move in "being the reason he gave .
I have a gut feeling he knows exactly what she does.for a living and is therefore colluding with and.supporting a form of prostitution. After a bit of digging this evening, I have found her advertising her services on bloody Facebook , complete with his address and postcode , also on LinkedIn.
I'd like to believe he's naive enough not to realise what she's doing but find that hard to swallow.
He's also a devotee of Tantra and I can't believe that in the year she's been living there , this mutual "interest" hasn't been mentioned as I know ( because he's told me) they have discussed their views on sex.
AIBU to feel totally freaked out by what I've discovered tonight and.do I tell him about it ? Or should I just ignore it on the.grounds she'll be living elsewhere anytime.between now and October ?