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AIBU?

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AIBU to think that having a newborn is a doddle...

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WordGetsAround · 23/04/2016 17:09

...compared to the first trimester of pregnancy?

I'm having my best first trimester so far (DC3) and yet I still feel absolutely shocking. I keep thinking, well soon I'll have a whole new human to look after as well but having a newborn is much easier then this, isn't it?

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WordGetsAround · 23/04/2016 17:31

Good point likeasoul - I'm probably screwed now! I've had two easy newborns so far so my luck is probably about to run out...

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WordGetsAround · 23/04/2016 17:32

And definitely getting the message that this doesn't apply to twins!!!!

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Pinkheart5915 · 23/04/2016 17:32

Also, having a newborn and toddler is infinitely preferable to being pregnant with toddler
I hope so I'm going to have a newborn and a one year old

cricketqueen · 23/04/2016 17:34

I had a horrible pregnancy with hyperemisis and then a newborn who had horrible reflux and would only sleep when held for the first 4 months. I don't remember what it feels like to not be tired. Different babies and different pregnancies for everyone I imagine.

Arfarfanarf · 23/04/2016 17:34

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OhtoblazeswithElvira · 23/04/2016 17:34

Yanbu, I had hyperemesis with my first. Couldn't feel the sleep deprivation and the stitches healing my massive tear as I was too thrilled, elated at the miracle that was being able to eat without throwing up

SueTrinder · 23/04/2016 17:34

I didn't get morning sickness with any of mine which probably affects how I view the first trimester, for me it was tiring but not hideous. But it really depends on the child. DD1 was hard work both in and out of the womb. DD2 I was phenomenally exhausted throughout pregnancy (small age gap between the DDs) but she was a very easy newborn so I look back quite fondly at those days. DS was the easiest pregnancy but he was premature and his first few months were very stressful.

allegretto · 23/04/2016 17:35

YABU but that's subjective! I had no symptoms for my first trimester with twins (and a toddler) - was a tad harder after they were born!!

Absofrigginlootly · 23/04/2016 17:38

Nope! DD was 75% tongue tied, had silent reflux, dairy protein/soya allergies, fed 24/7, screamed, did not sleep (even when held!), I had a traumatic birth and birth injuries that meant I couldn't really walk....... Didn't come out the other side until about 5 months!!!

She's 18 months and still a high needs stroppy Madame, but also funny, lovely, clever, shy, curious, wonderful.........

Lonecatwithkitten · 23/04/2016 17:39

YABU barely knew I was pregnant till 36 weeks in fact I calved cows until 24 weeks. Had terrible 40 hour labor, forceps delivery, undiagnosed anaemia ( hospital 'lost' blood results for 6 weeks), baby with failure to thrive.
Every pregnancy and every is baby is different.

BabyDubsEverywhere · 23/04/2016 17:40

I had horrendous pregnancies and births, all 4 dc were dream newborns in comparison, even with constant feeding, colic, crying, no sleep, and carrying in slings all day every day as I couldn't put them down - compared to the pregnancies, babies were so much easier! Toddlers though, the toddler stage brings on a cold sweat just thinking of it... thank god I am nearly out of the toddler stage forever!

foxessocks · 23/04/2016 17:40

I'd rather have a newborn to look after plus my toddler than pregnancy sickness plus toddler which I had for about 20 weeks of this pregnancy. I'm 22 weeks now and just about feeling human again.

WeeHelena · 23/04/2016 17:42

Yabu to me, easiest pregnancy ever expected until pre eclampsia and delivery but it was nothing compared to constant colic screaming baby for up to a year.

MakeItRain · 23/04/2016 17:46

Ya definitely bu! Another one who suffered severe sleep deprivation with my dd, who had silent reflux and only slept for about 45 minutes at a time until she was 4 or 5 months old, and very broken nights for a couple of years after! Ds had breathing probs and I went through many a scary night with him. Pregnancy was a complete doddle in comparison. I was the ultimate "smug, pregnant for the first time" bore with dd, who had NO idea of the hell that was coming up!!! That was 10 years ago now. The great thing about going through that was that every stage seems easier now by comparison, and I never suffer from broodiness!

bakeoffcake · 23/04/2016 17:53

Yabu

Every pregnancy, birth and newborn is different so YABVU to assume everyone's experience is the same.

I had horrific "morning sickness" which lasted all day, right up until the day I went into labour. I then had a traumatic labour which ended up in an emcs, then a newborn who never seemed to sleep. The first three months were a nightmare and thought I never wanted to have another child. It took me until she was 2 to start trying for another!

Onthedowns · 23/04/2016 17:56

No my second child DS born 35 weeks in scbu for 3 weeks , home but reflux doesn't like being put down won't sleep unless upright on someone, sleeping 3-4 hours a night horrendous he's only 7 weeks old. Dd was an angel compared

GrouchyKiwi · 23/04/2016 17:57

YABU. For me, early pregnancy is easy. I get tired and that's about it.

Both of my babies have been colicky newborns. DD1 would vomit entire feeds all over me just after I finished feeding her. I ended up combi feeding because she wouldn't breastfeed properly and that gave me PND.

DD2 fed every hour. Every single hour. Day and night. She would only sleep on me. Exhausted doesn't begin to cover it.

DC3 is due in 4 weeks. I really hope I get an easier baby this time. I doubt I will.

QforCucumber · 23/04/2016 18:01

Lies lies lies! Other than daily 1 hour naps the 1st trimester was a doddle, so were 2nd and 3rd.
Currently have a 5 week old with colic, reflux, the highest pitched scream and who only let me sleep for 3.5 hours last night and so far I haven't managed a nap yet today. Also trying to express anything more than 2 ounces is impossible and he will drink 5 in 1 feed now. He weighs just short of 11 lbs and my back is killing me.
I want wine, lots and lots of wine, and to sleep for 8 hours, but I don't want anyone to look after him as he's mine and he's perfect and amazing and I grew him and I don't want to be away from him.

crazywriter · 23/04/2016 18:01

Depends on the pregnancy and babs the first DD was better as a newborn than as a bump (the whole way through) now she's a nightmare again.y second DD was better asoon a bump than she is as a newborn right now. She sleeps on a night but during the day is super hard work.

But I love them both and never want to pawn them off ;)

AdoraKiora · 23/04/2016 18:03

No with DC1. Bit sick in first trimester, hellish newborn stage.
Yes with DC2. Hyperemesis for most of pregnancy. Dream newborn stage .

insan1tyscartching · 23/04/2016 18:03

I had horrendous morning sickness/hyperemesis with all my pregnancies and then had babies who slept through from six weeks and only ever got up once a night for the first six weeks so having a newborn was infinitely easier. In fact I found having newborns pretty boring tbh, enjoyed them much more once they were toddlers.

Bigfam · 23/04/2016 18:04

Yep, in my case completely true. Currently pregnant with no5 (1st trimester) and sat here asking myself WHY?!?! I've been on the sofa nearly all day, only got up to be sick, do breakfast dinner and tea, be sick, tidy up, be sick, play with the adorable 16 month old and... Oh yes BE SICK

EllenDegenerate · 23/04/2016 18:05

I'm seven weeks pregnant with number five, frankly I feel like tepid shit.

I've had colicky screaming, nocturnal babies and the Angel babies and I agree that newborns are easier to deal with than constant nausea/vomiting/aversion to my own sense of smell/abject exhaustion.

At least you can hand the offending infant to your partner and get some time to yourself where you feel relatively normal and healthy

If I could pass the first trimester to my partner I willingly would. Then I'd get out of this sickbed and piss off down the pub with my friends.

(Sighs) if only.....

I will concede that my opinion is mainly informed by my present condition but in fairness I've always detested the first trimester. It's a bag of crap.

middlings · 23/04/2016 18:05

God yes. Also, having a newborn and toddler is infinitely preferable to being pregnant with toddler.

A thousand times this.

That said, DD2 was a cling-on and it did get pretty wearing!!

FindoGask · 23/04/2016 18:05

surely it depends on, well, pretty much every factor that affects pregnancy, birth, and the first three months?

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