Cheeky requests that make you want to scream

[MeMySonAndl]

What is wrong with people?

This morning, a friend I have not seen in almost 2 years called me. I didn't see the call until lunch time, rang her back and send her a text but didn't reply.

She has just texted back saying that she needed me to give her a lift to the mechanic (WTF?)

Had another one this week, when I had to tell "no" to another mum 14 times as I couldn't have her kid around and take them to an activity because I was working.

She took offence that I couldn't understand that she couldn't take him herself because she was working. Why on earth does she think that I should take time off and earn less money to entertain her kid???

Oh and DH is a very talented car painter, has won awards in car shows etc. People always say "ooh good to know, I'll let you paint mine" like they are doing him a favour!! Haha. When he says yes, that will be 2k plus paint and materials they soon change their minds

You were a good friend Sami and can I just say thankyou so much for finding that dog a good home

Tell them to all F off! Have you got 'doormat' tattooed on your forehead?
Smile sweetly and say NO. Without any explanation. It feels powerful!

I always find these cheeky threads highly entertaining and never cease to be amazed by the front of some people.

I have a few of my own. Quite a few years ago now, not long after splitting from DS Dad I was looking out for other single mum friends and befriended someone from another popular parenting site, which shall remain nameless.

At first we got on great then odd behaviour started slipping in, such as her being unable to feed her DC and needing to borrow sums of money (not huge amounts but I was a low paud working single mum myself and couldn't really afford it)which never got paid back, suggesting trips out to eat where she would forget her purse. On one occasion we went out and she pulled the 'whoops I've forgotten' trick AND was appallingly rude to the waitress serving us. I was mortified and very apologetic.

Oh, she also had a habit of falling out with any friends (people who didn't put up with her bullshit more like) she made on a regular basis and alienated pretty much everyone she came in contact with .

More fool me I know, but I was soft hearted and felt sorry for her. However, after a few months I wised up and tried to end the friendship. Not very easy, but after a while she went quiet and I thought that was that. Not so. She'd run off abroad and called me out of the blue to demand I go round her old flat and start moving stuff out! Er, no.

Thankfully I managed to shake her off have not come across anyone quite like this since.

Thanks grays, I would have kept him myself but it was upsetting my old dog, real shame as he got on like a house on fire with the younger one! One of the girls from my work has him now and he has so fell on his feet! I get regular updates and TBH he is far better behaved! I put it down to him feeling secure, I think he never knew where he was with her. Terrible to think I would never ever offer to help someone the way I did her, but I won't, never let myself be used like that again.

Ripeberry, it took me a while but when I told her to get out it was really empowering, I felt so much better!! I would definately recommend it!! x

Another one, but this time it wasn't me who was on the receiving end of bare faced cheek. Well, it kind of was.

A couple of years ago, one of our group of school friends thought it would be fun to organise a jointfamily do during the summer holidays, when a couple of us had a special birthday. One person very kindly did the organising and paid for the self catering accomodation, with the understanding that people coming would make a contribution for food and pitch in with cooking, clearing up, entertaining the kids and so on. Entirely reasonable in the circumstances.

Except for one couple who arrived and sat there being waited on like lord and lady muck for the entire duration of their visit. Didn't make so much as a cup of tea or wash up a mug during the entire time they stayed - despite getting a free holiday.

I work 4 days a week, although I do not totally switch off on day 5. This gives me flexibility to catchup on day 5 if I've had to go to a school event, sick child etc, so gives me room for some flexibility.

The CEO has just sent me an email asking me to provide some "professional guidance and help" to his mate who runs his own business. It's obvious to me he has already told said friend I will do this. I replied that I cannot take any more work on ( I'm a contractor not even an employee) even paid but happy to point him in the direction of my professional peers, someone would be glad of the work. He's replied oh I'm sure you can do it, won't take much of your time. I am gob smacked . Cheeky moose! I have a very long daily commute and a young family, he clearly thinks I have a day free to sit on my arse, which would be none of his concern even if I did!! I actually already have a very small 2nd consultancy job for 2 days a month, but he doesn't know that. I won't be doing it. Awkward!

GOOD for you, aga. He has a fucking cheek. Just keep politely and firmly refusing. What a dickhead. 'Unfortunately, as previously stated, I am entirely unavailable to take on any more work. I hope he can find assistance with X, Y or Z. Kind Regards, '

I once drive a 4 hour round trip after work to pick up a friend from the airport. She then stayed overnight at mine and I drove us both to a friends hen do in the Peak District, 5 hours away. No money towards fuel etc. Then when I was 6 months pregnant with DS we went on a weekend away as a group of 6. I flew up as I was farthest away, had to get a taxi from the airport despite said friend having driven. I was then dropped at the station to get another taxi back to the airport a whole 15 minute drive away on the journey back.........

IHopeYouStepOnALegoPiece - Do you have link to the TCM thread (just tried to find it with no luck)?

greyponcho
He took the whole cake what a greedy sod! I would of been furious

Lego I remember your thread and TCM really was an über cunt.

DH is a chef at a decent large hotel chain who have hotels around the world - I've lost track of the amount of people who've tracked me down on FB (sensibly he isn't on it) to ask him to get them mates rates on a room. These are people I haven't seen in years. One ex-friend took such offense to me telling her no that she randomly posted on FB minutes later what a shit hotel it is and how she's sooo glad she doesn't have to stay there anyway - people are just fecking odd !!!

I also get lots of calls random calls at odd hours asking if I can ring DH at work to ask him a cooking/recipe question - yes, he would be so happy to receive a call mid-service for a banquet for 300 guests to tell me, so i can tell them, which cheese goes with quince. Do these people not have google???

Not me but a work mate ( bus driver ) was stunned by cheek. Large do for a distant relative of his wife 6 hours drive away. Her dad rang him and told him to book a mini bus and they'd pay. Mate said you can drive a 12 seater on your car licence, he wouldn't be guaranteed time off anyway to go. FIL said, " well you need to go sick then, I'm not driving as I need to be home by 12 for a Cub Scouts do, and I'm not staying sober to drive back early, you can though as you're used to it!" Mate told him to fuck off in no uncertain terms

A 'friend' years ago invited herself to come with me on a shopping trip I was making into central London. I picked her up and half way through the 90 minute drive and passing Wimbledon, she announced that she had made arrangements to visit her ex boyfriend and would I drop her and wait around for a few hours while she saw him! I was taken aback and ' the penny dropped' that yet again she was using me. I refused and said I had to be at a certain shop to collect something at a certain time. She went very quiet and hardly spoke to me the whole day. She also didn't speak to me for almost a year and when she did call again it was to ask if she could have I painting I have of an area of Bath, where her mother works!! Strange people. Guess we have all allowed ourselves to be treated like this in the first place so requests just get bigger and cheekier.

Pam why did she want the painting and did you give it to her?

I'm reading this thread with this face -->

I don't struggle to understand those posting I do struggle to understand the cheeky feckers! Yes they get short term gain but the lack of true friendships is surely not worth this?

As for HOW we are duped and how they operate those asking should look up reciprocity and obligation.

"but gradually she stopped reciprocating" is a quote from OP

These people don't start off only taking usually, they start doing small favours for you themselves, you then feel you can't say no.

I had someone like this in my life, it's even harder when it's a relative. They have been helped financially I suspect to the time of up to £100k all told (money, cars, holidays, nights out), that's not including free childcare where them turning up mere hours rather than days later to collect the dc is actually them being good!

They make friends with people according to how useful they'll be, the friendship then falters (but of course it's never cheeky feckers fault) when the friend starts to wise up, usually culminating in a huge row where the useful friend has 'let me down at the last minute' (what's usually actually happened is cheeky fecker has made an assumption and useful friend has finally had enough and said no!). Then cheeky fecker moves onto someone else and slates previous useful friend, usually claiming THEY WERE the cheeky feckers.

It's got to the point when this person tells you the sun came up this morning...you go to the window to check!

*to the tune of

Not the time of

Yes I remember TCM but I think Minty has it, an upgrade to terrible über cunt mum. You poor thing Leg really not nice.

DH had 2 good friends, one he'd known at school and one who was a bit older but he knew him from living in the same street. He introduced them both a few years ago. The first friend has no luck at all and his cooker was on the blink before Christmas, he has a wife and her 3 DCs. We lent him the money for a cooker, turns out there was £50 spare so him and his wife spent it on shit tattoos the next day - no thank yous or anything and we haven't had a penny. He must have mentioned this to friend 2 as DH was dripfed for months how friend 2 was going to lose his house, £10k in debt, waiting on a PPI payout (!!). He recently asked DH for a loan, DH said 'no'. The pair of then haven't spoken to DH since. I hope friend 1's cooker blows up and friend 2's wife finds out about his extra marital affairs.

DH let a bus driver out the other day who waved thanks, DH said, 'see, I can make friends!' Gutted for him.

Woman in the same lane as us had a DS a couple of years younger than my youngest DS. We used to nod hello and pass the time of day but we weren't friends and had never socialised.

Her DS had a medical condition that required instant hospitalisation and a lot of home care to keep him on an even keel. He was waiting for an operation which he couldn't have until he was older.

She was claiming a benefit (not sure which) and the job centre said she had to attend a week's course in order to still qualify. She knocked on our door and asked me to have her 2 DSs 8am - 6pm for half term week because that's when she had to do the course. I'm a teacher so she knew I'd be "free".

I was taken aback to say the least and said I was sorry but I didn't feel qualified to take care of her older DS in view of his condition. She said it would only take an hour or so to show me what to do. I said no, not happy with that. She explained she would lose here benefit - so I said her DH should take the week off but she said he wouldn't because he didn't know how to look after DS and they couldn't afford for him to do that.

I had to be really firm in the end and she was furious. She told me that if they lost their house because her DH had to have the week off and got sacked it would be my fault. And if he wouldn't have the week off she'd lose her benefit and the house anyway.

We never spoke again.

I once had a close friend who I'm really only realising now was a bit of a user. She had a nasty relationship breakdown and was really struggling. I used to drive 30 miles to her house to bring her to mine because I was worried about her (she couldn't drive, and 'didn't feel strong enough to face public transport'). She spent countless weekends at my house, eating my food, drinking my wine (and asking me to buy things that she liked, next time I did a grocery shop). She never offered me petrol money, or bought a bottle of wine or food or anything.

When I had my first child she visited once with some other friends, then asked if she could come for some overnight stays and boozy chats midweek, as she didn't want to 'waste' her weekends. When I explained that with a newborn I was currently only interested in sleep, not sitting up until 2am chatting I never heard from her again. She never replied to a single email or text. Have heard from various people over the years that she complains that I abandoned her when I had my children. It really hurt when the penny dropped that she was using me all along.

Does Gluezilla fit? I think Gluezilla fits? This is thread 4 there are 3 more lovely parts to this somewhere