Missing fiancé

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I'm working away from home, missing my fiancé and can't see him for another month. Really struggling to cope as missing him so much. I know that sounds pathetic but I feel so miserable. Have any of you had to be apart from your partners for an extended period of time and if so how do you cope?

If i'm away with work, I'm either working super fucking hard with no time to do anything other than work eat sleep work eat sleep, or if I have a bit more time I try and treat it a little bit like a holiday and get out and see local sights at the weekend. That holds true for crappy trading estates in industrial England as it does for more glamorous locations like LA!

Facebook helps me feel in contact with friends, which reduces homesickness for me.

Oh something else DP and I do is if we are watching a TV series together, we will watch it together at the same time when I am away and then facetime afterwards.

We watch TV series (he's takes them on a USB) too and we read the same books.

DP and I spent the first 5.5 years of our relationship long distance, would see each other once a month for a day or so if that!

The Long Distance survival guide:

Hobbies, hobbies and more hobbies - make yourself stupidly busy!

Trust - If a bit of distance changes your relationship that much and he starts acting like he's single, be thankful you haven't married him yet!

Don't focus on him, focus on you. Use the time away to strengthen yourself emotionally. Become emotionally independent and work out who you are on your own. Your relationship will be much better for it!

... and batteries... lots and lots of batteries....

Not sure it's entirely gender difference: dh and I lived in different countries for several years before we married so that I could do a degree/postgraduate degree. Only met up in the holidays, no money for the phone in those days, so we just wrote letters. At times it was very hard, especially as our financial situation was so uncertain that it was difficult to see how we could every live together, but mostly I found I could get by by compartmentalising my life and living in the moment- that and writing letters.

I can sympathise OP. I am currently in a LDR. He lives in Belgium. Counting down the days till the next visit in May, at which point it will have been a month since I last saw him. It is really hard but when you do see each other you appreciate each other all the more. Especially I do as he will only be here for 2 nights.

Keeping busy and building a life separate from him being there is a good plan.

Facebook, whatsapp.
Wish I'd had them in my day when OH or I were away weeks at a time with no mobiles in those days.
We just got on with it, but yes there were times when I missed home or him.

going to be very old fashioned here....write each other letters....I used to do this when separated for weeks at a time(before internet and mobiles!)...loved receiving them and then they were lovely to read back ...much better than a text or brief Skype..found I could express myself better this way too!..throw in a bit of poetry of song lyrics..it won't be for ever and I think it makes you a stronger more resilient person...makes you appreciate each other and forces you to find interests/hobbies too

I agree re letters - I write to OH while he's away and he reads them all when he gets back before he rings me - it's quite romantic.

The other day I found a whole pile of them i bathe back of the wardrobe that he had kept bless him