To just want to be able to buy my dd some age appropriate clothing?

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My dd is 10yo so she's tricky to buy clothes for as she's in between kiddy and more teenage clothes. She likes to be comfortable whisky playing in our street with her friends so tends to wear jogging bottoms t shirts, shorts etc but she also likes her dresses, skirts and jump suits for when we are going out and about.

So today I'm shopping for her some summer clothes. Usually she comes with me but we go away in a weeks time and she's in school so I need to get her some stuff. Anyway I went into every shop imaginable ie Next, New Look, H+M, Tammy, Zara and all I came across were cut off belly tops, shorts that were that short they could only be described as hot pants, bra halter neck tops and tops with inappropriate slogans.

I do not want my dd who is only in year 5 to be walking round with her belly and backside hanging out simple as that but clearly a lot of parents do not mind as they wouldn't sell these kind of clothes. I realise my dd is growing up and pretty soon she won't even let me chose anything for her and that's absolutely fine but for now I buy and shop for her clothes and I just want to be able to go into a shop and buy something nice but ahe appropriate.

I see it all the time, girls my dd age, sometimes younger wearing clothes that quite frankly look to small for them ie bums practically hanging out of their shorts/leggings. Belly tops that show their crop tops/bras etc and I think it's awful. I don't except my dd to want to wear Minnie Mouse jumpers or anything like that but I expect with all the shops on the high street these days to be able to go in and not come out empty handed. So am I somehow being unreasonable about this or does anyone else with dd's feel the same?

I don't understand what's so offensive about a child's stomach

I don't think anyone said its offensive

Neither of my DD want to bare their midriff - hence the issue -

I don't think kids stomachs are offensive it's some of the clothes that expose their stomachs unnecessarily at such a young age that is offensive.

Yes, offensive was the wrong word.

It not being a style of clothing that your dd likes is a different thing to all the angst about belly tops from adults.

I'm not trying to be a gf, sorry.

Asda, tesco and gap are worth a try. I dont use boden but might be worth a look as lots of people do for their kids.

Sports shops may also be worth a try. As a pp said i dont usually see anything wrong with next.

I don't get why it's offensive or inappropriate either. Clothing can't be inappropriate. As a pp said up thread, I'm more concerned about perceived body fat and raising self esteem in my dd(11). She's got teeny weeny shorts and crop tops, though she soesnt tend to wear them together unless on holiday somewhere really really hot. I think a lot of the clothing aimed at her age is really babyish. But horses for courses

Verbaudet do really nice clothes for children of all ages. They are online.

Verbaudet is really nice and I have used it before to get cotton tops with ok logos/prints which fit in a not tight style.

It's just frustrating because I like to pick stuff up when I wander around town, or when I'm in the supermarket and I don't have heaps of money- it's a bit annoying ordering everything online or waiting til a sale just to get fairly plain not babyish age appropriate clothing for a 10 year old.

I do click and collect for Sainsbury's men's clothing so might try that.

I brought 10yr old dd several nice bits in primark last Saturday. Pretty kimono style jackets, denim shorts, dungarees, plain vest tops in a multitude of colours, pretty cotton dresses and t-shirts for £1.90!

We usually shop in Boden, joules, gap, Zara, John Lewis, next, sainsburys, asda, fat face and m&s. Tend to avoid h&m due to the amount of black and grey.

Found the odd bit in river island or new look. Have also brought hoodies from hollister or Superdry. The xs fits as a big baggy top over leggings or jeggings.

Debenhams have had a couple of hits in as wel in the biue zoo range and manta ray.

Online shopping is definitely better though. Stores are very hit and miss.

YANBU OP. My dd is a very tall, pubescent 9 year old, and her school doesn't have a uniform. All the shops you mention were our go tos until she was about 7, when she grew into the older size ranges, but we've had the same problem in store that you have: even when the clothes aren't out and out teen inappropriate, there just seem to be sparkles and slogans all over them. I do just buy a lot more online now, but we also just buy in the boys' section: H&M, Next, Asda etc do really great tops and even trousers that she's really happy in. Gap girls jeans are great though.

I feel your pain op, high street shops will cater to the demographic. So Liverpool stores will carry different stock to say London or York. In our area crop tops and hot pants are popular in summer, however my dd11 with the body of a ruler wearing shorts and a crop top is totally different to my dd12 who is 5'4 with 30 inch legs and a 28dd chest !! I think this is what the op is talking about luckily the older DD seems to be going goth so no worries with shorts would have to knock unconscious before I got in shorts or belly showing top

My DD is the same age, and I usually get her clothes from Gap / Zara / JohnnyB. I don't think it's true that you can't buy clothes for girls their age, but it is true that there is a load of tat about that I wouldn't really want her to wear. I assumed that was because there is a market for it. Girls vary in size a lot at this kind of age, and I'm sure there are teen girls who are the same size as a 9 year old. Most girls I know of this age are keen on skinnies or leggings with t-shirts or tops and I think that's a good thing - they can be quite fashionable but comfortable too.

What I have a massive beef about is school shoes. My DD is a size 5 (same as me) now, she's quite tall, and getting her appropriate school shoes was such a head ache. She's too young to appreciate the kind of brogue style I would have liked to get her and just wants a simple pair of Mary Jane type thing, but all the shoes in her size were either brogues or ballet slippers - and I'm not happy with her wearing those when she still likes tearing around the playground. Adult ranges don't seem to fit her properly yet either, although they are fine for trainers and things. I really don't get it, she's not abnormally big.

Ladyme I found the same we buy them from sports direct now, they are fire trap lace ups with pretty quilted effect and patent leather toe and heel. after last years 6 pairs in 5 months they last a whole year.

My 11 year old daughter is 5 foot 5 and an adult size 10 or children's 14/ 15. It is harder to find age appropriate clothes but we manage ok. Boden and Next are the only children's retailers we've found that do nice age appropriate clothes. We also buy from adult stores such as Holister, Crew, Fat face and even Primark have some childish adult clothes like Disney t-shirts.

*You have the internet at your fingertips.

Of course you can find clothes that you/your dd will like*

This ^^

It's like the 'why can't I ever find superhero clothes my daughter and pink pony pyjamas for my son??' It's sooooo stereotypical to have pink princesses…..etc.'

Everyone replies with about 300 different links for the OP to buy from that would have taken 10 seconds to find.

If you want to say that you don't like 10 year olds dressing a certain way, then own it. Don't dress it up as 'it's impossible to find' when it patently isn't.

And I'll be honest with you I do judge really young kids (or should I say their parents) who are allowed to leave their house dressed in the clothes I've described. They look far too young to be dressing like this and to be honest we all judge, anyone who says they don't are lying

Ah, there we go.

You are not being unreasonable.
It is a shame if little girls are being made to copy 'hot' dressing styles.

But I had a quick look at M&S and Boden and saw some straightforward summer dresses for little girls there so there must be others too.

I have a 10 yr old DD who wears age 12 clothes.

I have never had a problem dressing her in appropriate clothing.

I think you need to go back and look again

we did a huge summer shop last weekend - H+M, Primark, Next, River Island, etc - 3 girls 7,11, 13 - found lots of lovely stuff

Including the dress pictured above!

OP don't give up! Our local h & m is dire, very grown up skimpy clothes everywhere. But have recently been in the Durham store and they had lovely clothes Dd was delighted! Came away with a few pairs of leggings, plain ish t-shirts, a funky summer dress etc etc. Completely different range...
Dd hates shopping online, she's very particular about the feel of the clothes and wants to touch everything before she'll consider trying it on ...

Of course it's possible to buy decent clothes.My DD is 15 and can easily find clothes that are not "hot pants, bra halter neck tops and tops with inappropriate slogans. "

You are not looking hard enough.

Oh and BTW Minnie Mouse, in fact all disney type clothing are deeply popular with many older teenage girls- just have a look in Primark- a complete Disney section lots of sizes up to age 16.

a complete Disney section lots of sizes up to age 16

Yep - always a third of the price in the sale ....

How old are your daughters cody?

When my DD and her friends (15/16) go shopping the disney section of H&M is near the top of the list. Many of the girls in her year wear a lot of disney stuff.

I wonder why Primark stock so much disney stuff if no-one buys it.

Ive managed to find a lot in Next for DD1 (10) and none of it shows her belly or bum!
Also Primark for scruffing around clothes and I'm an eBay shopper - look at the clothing bundles.