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To wonder why some celebs (not mentioning any names --Natasha Hamilton-- seem to swap partners more often than I swap handbags?

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LaConnerie · 19/04/2016 10:29

And I love my handbags.

Why is it though? Somebody like Natasha Hamilton appears to have a good life and her head screwed on. She's had a reasonably successful career, must have money of her own, is still young, pretty and in good shape. But apparently she has split with Richie Neville - who she decided to have a baby with after knowing him for nano-seconds.

Yes it's NOMB - but she kind of makes it my/our business by giving interviews every five seconds about the latest development - and in bored moments I can't help wondering how and why anybody can live in a real life soap opera 24 hours a day.

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bibbitybobbityyhat · 20/04/2016 09:30

I feel sorry for women who feel that life is incomplete without a partner, who aren't strong and secure enough to stay single for a while.

NickiFury · 20/04/2016 09:33

Maybe they just get lots more opportunity than most and want a big family.

bibbitybobbityyhat · 20/04/2016 09:39

Maybe

derxa · 20/04/2016 09:41

She is very annoying though. I like Katie Price and Kerry Katona - they don't seem to take life too seriously. I like the way they cope with what life throws them.
Natasha gives me the creeps tbh and I can't even explain why.
It's how these people make a living. A man on the radio today said he made a living out of photographing his breakfasts. What's the world coming to blah blah blah

Standalittletaller · 20/04/2016 09:46

I have wondered about her. I don't understand her motives. Not so much the selling her story and pictures but why she would shack up with so many men and have children with four of them. It's difficult enough with one ex let alone four to juggle with contact, holidays, maintenance etc. and don't tell me that's not confusing for the children because I am a lone parent to two dc and the split was hard for them and me and continues to be as there is a lot of change and conflict when a relationship ends.

It's a good point that she is the one actually looking after them. I don't know how she does it.

Standalittletaller · 20/04/2016 09:48

And I don't know anyone in real life in the same situation.

LunaLoveg00d · 20/04/2016 09:57

4 children all by different fathers - I am judging!!

A psychologist would have a field day with her - as they would with Katie Price. Lurching from relationship to relationship and having a child with every man who agrees to is crazy - and as per usual the ones who suffer are the poor kids who don't know whether they're coming or going, and when the next "dad" will be along.

TinklyLittleLaugh · 20/04/2016 10:10

"Hot men" lol. As if a man's hotness is the determining factor when planning to have a child and bring them up in a stable relationship.

Sparklingbrook · 20/04/2016 10:19

Where are these hot men that z list slebs pull? I need pics to check.

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LaConnerie · 20/04/2016 10:22

Personally I think bringing the "so much for feminism"' argument into it is a bit of a joke. I could throw that argument right back at women who seem incapable of being single, and equally of being involved with a man without having his baby.

And no I don't judge the likes of Rod Stewart, Jude Law, etc quite as harshly because at least they don't seem to want to gleefully sell their private lives to the media constantly - maybe that's because they actually have a 'real' career to make money out of...

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LaConnerie · 20/04/2016 10:25

And yes the 'hot men' thing made me lol too - Richie from Five? Peter Andre?

Need I say more?

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dimots · 20/04/2016 10:27

I think many celebs behave this way purely because they have the opportunity. They are good looking and move in circles where there are plenty of good looking available people who would make potential partners. If they want children they don't have to worry about whether they can afford them or if their house is big enough.

Whereas most of us know if we ditch our partner, there may not be a glamorous substitute just waiting in the wings. So if our relationship hits difficulties we are more likely to work at it. We know that if we have multiple children our finances will become stretched. So we limit our families to what we can afford. We know if we have children our time will also be limited. A celeb can just buy in more help.

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LaConnerie · 20/04/2016 10:29

That is probably true, dimots, but also really sad.

They may not have money worries but that isn't going to stop their DC being screwed up by it all

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BillSykesDog · 20/04/2016 10:30

Hugh Grant's career is not going so well since he set up his little harem either has it? Not in the new Bridget Jones.

Sunshine87 · 20/04/2016 10:31

I have three children. My eldest was to my ex ( I got pregnant by surprise at 21, he had cancer in his teen years and was told it may affect his ability to have a child naturally. He banked his sperm prior to his treatment) after supporting him giving up my nursing degree he walked out and left men for someone else.

I met my DH we been together 6 years married for 2 and have 2 DC together. We are very happy together. I would like to think I wouldn't be judged for having a child who isn't my DH but unfortunately the situation is what it is. He has a very loving relationship with both my DH and his own DF. It wasn't my choice to have children to two different men but I wouldn't change my DS. It does seem to be double standards that women are judged more harshly then men are for having children to different partners.

I have a friend who eldest isn't her DH. She pretends that he is his and has no intention of telling him otherwise. I much rather be in the situation where my DS has an established relationship with his DF than lie to him about who is his DF.

MangoMoon · 20/04/2016 10:52

It's the rush of having to be in a new relationship, moving every new partner in within a matter of weeks of hooking up and then the having a baby asap to 'cement the relationship' and 'prove their love' that I judge.

I couldn't give a toss how many sexual partners or relationships people have, but why the incessant need to have a baby with every new boyfriend?

I feel sorry for all those women actually (celebs & non-celebs), it's like they feel that presenting the latest partner with a baby is going to guarantee them love and it doesn't - having a new baby on the scene is fucking hard for even the most concrete & long standing relationships, let alone a relationship still in its infancy.

I wonder if the blokes put the pressure on for a 'baby of their own'?
Not considering or even caring how a baby will change the dynamics of the relationship, and then end up leaving the poor woman with yet another child.

BillSykesDog · 20/04/2016 11:27

I don't think many, if any people would judge that sunshine. Relationships do break down, people blend their families. Stuff happens and it's certainly better than going back to the 40s where people were stuck in miserable relationships for the rest of their lives.

But it's the rushing straight in, meeting someone and moving them in with the kids and getting pregnant within a year and gushing about how you've 'finally found happiness' then breaking up within a few years months again and again. It's the rushing into it without really knowing the person or if you're compatible when you have kids. Because it's not just you building up a relationship with this person, it's your children too. And then it gets snatched away. I think mothers and fathers owe it to their children to exercise a bit of caution and take things a bit slower so they're not constantly exposing their children to new partners who appear, build up a relationship, then disappear apart from brief glances when they come to pick up your half sibling. It would be so confusing and unsettling for a child to keep going through that cycle.

FWIW, I think this is one reason why Ulrika Jonsson was a bit harshly and unfairly judged with her 4x4 label. Her first son was born into a long term relationship and a few years into her marriage which split up shortly afterwards. Her first daughter was born to a man who was an absolute shit to her and her child and walked out when the child was desperately ill. Her second daughter was born when she was married and they'd been together a decent stretch, and she's been married to the father of her second son for 8 years.

I think it's harsh to judge UJ for her circumstances, NH, much less so.

TooOldForGlitter · 20/04/2016 12:01

I'm far more surprised that Richie from 5ive isn't gay. I really thought he was.

EverySongbirdSays · 20/04/2016 12:34

I think Hugh's lack of appearance i the new Bridget is by choice Sykes do think it's a bit shit of him, it isn't as if he gets much work these days and now they've had to shoe in another bloke to be in the love triangle.

Maybe he didn't want to have another slap fight with Colin or give Renee anymore reasons to send him 48 page emails

(He said she does on Graham Norton )

BillSykesDog · 20/04/2016 12:40

He claims it was by choice, but I think people are a bit about that. He hasn't had a hit since 2007 and isn't getting much work at all.

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