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Aibu to feel upset and a bit angry

53 replies

Mumstudentbum · 18/04/2016 15:49

I was in a shopping centre today looking through a shop window when a toddler ran past me and tripped over my foot. I felt awful (even though I didn't move or trip her on purpose) and instantly apologised to the child. The child was screaming (really didn't fall that hard but Obv upset her) I said to mum I was so sorry and asked if she was ok? Mum picked up the child, turned her back to me and whispered 'stupid bi*ch' I said (loudly) 'i said I was sorry I didn't do it on purpose!' She continued to ignore me as she walked off.

10 mins later in another shop I saw the mother with her toddler again. Her friend looked at me and said people like her make me sick! I just walked off gob smacked.

Aibu to think she was out of order? She plainly saw what happened and that it was an accident. DP said not to get so worked up but I can't help feeling a bit upset and angry lol

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MrsEricBana · 18/04/2016 16:59

I would be upset and feel very wronged too but it is 100% definitely her problem. Something along these lines happened to me too but I knew the woman - several years later I now know that she makes issues where there are none with all manner of people and is to be avoided at all costs. Don't worry!

MrsDeVere · 18/04/2016 17:04

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liz70 · 18/04/2016 17:12

A fellow student on my course - this was about 24 years ago - told of how she went to a nightclub in town at the weekend, when it was (obviously) very busy, and accidentally jostled a hard-faced bitch woman on the way back from the bar. Despite profuse apologies, HFB gave her a filfthy look and warned that she'd be waiting for student outside at the end of the night, with several other similarly delightful young ladies. FS had to be escorted out to a taxi by club security. You really would not fricking believe how completely unnecessarily arsey and angry some tossers people are. The midwife must have slapped them really hard at birth, for them to go through life in such a state of permanent fury.

YoungGirlGrowingOld · 18/04/2016 17:26

MrsdeVere speaks a lot of sense.

I cried for hours after some crazy woman at the cash point accused me of trying to see her PIN and called me a robbing cunt Confused I was actually staring into space wondering what to have for tea. Ignoring the fact that she was obviously deranged and stank of booze, I decided that I looked like a dodgy scum bag tea leaf and cried all the way home. I worried about it for days.

She will have forgotten it and so should you Flowers

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Mumstudentbum · 18/04/2016 17:26

I know if didn't do anything wrong and that I was a bit sensitive maybe, just angered and upset me that I tried to apologise yet she still blamed me. If that was one of my three I would be apologising to her for my toddler running wild!

Thanks to mumsnet I feel a little better now thanks x

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Mumstudentbum · 18/04/2016 17:27

Gosh some terrible stories here, aren't some people horrible? Lok

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KERALA1 · 18/04/2016 17:30

I was called a stupid cuntby driver behind me for allowing pedestrians to walk across a zebra crossing. Guess I could have mown them down.

Ludways · 18/04/2016 17:32

I once had a woman ram her pushchair into mine as she was looking the other way and I was stood still, she had a right go at me, I told her she had a vile mouth. 3 weeks later I sat opposite her making small talk at my mates hen night, the vile mouthed woman was to become her sister in law. That was fun!

KERALA1 · 18/04/2016 17:33

Dh was waiting at a bus stop when a middle aged lady leaned over and hissed "people like you should be ashamed". He was quite shaken up. Dh is a very polite careful normal blameless man. There are nutters around sadly.

hesterton · 18/04/2016 17:34

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ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 18/04/2016 17:35

Let's look out for an AIBU thread entitled "A woman tripped up my child, aibu to be angry?" then we can all put her in her place Grin

liz70 · 18/04/2016 17:35

It's a pity we can't put all the angry people into spaceships and send them all to Planet Angry, where they can all be angry together, and rage and curse to their hearts' discontent.

PassiveAgressiveQueen · 18/04/2016 17:39

Some people will start a fight with themselves

love this, i also had heard the empty room one

PassiveAgressiveQueen · 18/04/2016 17:40

t's a pity we can't put all the angry people into spaceships and send them all to Planet Angry, where they can all be angry together, and rage and curse to their hearts' discontent.
will it include all the telephone sanitizers, and middle managers?*

*if this makes no sense please just ignore

Pooseyfrumpture · 18/04/2016 17:43

I still remember getting bawled out by the mother of the toddler who was standing on the wrong side of the automatic doors out of the supermarket - I was nowhere near the kid, on the other side of the doors in fact, when they were triggered to open outwards and knock the kid over. Apparently I should have predicted her kid would be standing there when I walked past the sensor Hmm

Some people are just daft.

ParadiseCity · 18/04/2016 17:43

Were you wearing an I HATE TODDLERS t shirt? If so maybe YWBU.

If not, YANBU!

Aeroflotgirl · 18/04/2016 17:46

She is one of life's arses, ignore and don't worry about it.

MovingOnUpMovingOnOut · 18/04/2016 17:46

Yy what MrsDV said. Life is so much easier when you stop worrying what other people think in general but for a start refusing to be made to feel bad by some utter fuck wits fuckwittery is pretty good.

It's liberating.

Pinkheart5915 · 18/04/2016 17:59

She was unreasonable, your dp is right don't worry about it.
You said sorry and accidents like this happen often with children.

Binders1 · 18/04/2016 18:08

I tend to sigh a lot (always got a lot on my mind) and was walking behind two young ladies with prams when suddenly I got a load of abuse ALL the way down the shopping centre with everyone around listening. All because they thought INCORRECTLY that I had sighed because I was stuck behind them. Tried to explain but they wouldn't have it - they were the really young and immature sort.

So... if someone behinds you sighs, don't be so precious to assume it's all about YOU - you don't know what's going on in their life.

Op she was bang out of order - YANBU.

DoopDoopBiscuit · 18/04/2016 18:32

A woman had a go at me the other day when I was getting out of a lift with the pushchair. She was waiting to get in and was very close to the lift so I manoeuvred around her looking at the wheels of my pushchair to make sure I didn't walk into her. At the last second when it was too late as I was already around her she made a half arsed effort to step out of the way a little.

As I went to walk off she started muttering under her breath and glaring at me. I asked her what she wanted to say, and after a lot of huffing apparently my face was "just blank" Confused I can only assume she was expecting me to thank her for being in my way?!

Catanddogmake6 · 18/04/2016 18:39

I remember sitting quietly on a train with DD keeping to ourselves whilst being cast horrendous evils and a loud pointed conversation about people who dress their children in Next clothes. How they thought they were superior to everyone else and were showing off etc.. Wouldn't have minded quite so much but she was wearing Boden.

ivykaty44 · 18/04/2016 20:03

It's her problem not yours, people get some strange ideas about accidents.

I was sat in a stationary car once when a man walked into the car! Two woman started shouting at me to look where I was going, I shouldn't be driving I was that bad at it...

The man apologised and sculked of out the way

MovingOnUpMovingOnOut · 18/04/2016 20:07

Sorry catanddog but I think you may have met my mother.

MustBeThursday · 18/04/2016 20:37

Passive presumably named Ark Fleet Ship B? (if you mean what I think you mean) Grin

YANBU OP. Unless you stuck your foot up deliberately as the toddler approached it's hardly your fault. Toddlers trip over things all the time, especially if they're running about. Perhaps she should have invested in some reins...