To tell a friend to sit somewhere else

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We've had a family season ticket for our football club for the last few years. We've taken DC's friend for the odd birthday treat & their family has tended to come along as well and go to a few other matches. Now it's season ticket renewal time & the other family are muttering about getting one for themselves.

AIBU to ask them not to get the free seats immediately next to us if they decide to go ahead? Although I'm friends with the mum & our DC are friends, we don't socialise together as families. We tend to take other family & friends with us regularly, which having them next to us would hinder. Most importantly, we love going to matches as a family, spending time with each other and chatting about stuff, and having them alongside us would cramp that. If I'm NBU, how can I say to go ahead and get a season ticket if you want to, just not next to us?

They would be getting seats for the first time, we've had ours for years. I dread to think how much it would cost to swap if we could (& wouldn't that be just as rude?) I'm a nice person, promise, I just don't want to spend every weekend with them.

I cringe at thinking how you might have this conversation

"Oh you're getting a season ticket too? That's great. But don't get them next to us will you?"

I'm actually amazed you might consider it although kind of want you to and then come back on here and tell us what they said

juxt me too! This thread is my weekend winner!

Are you joking ? YABU ... You have no right to tell them where they can or cannot sit. I wonder if these people know how rude and entitled you are. Maybe if you let them see the 'real' you they may bypass the whole idea anyway, problem solved !

You can't possible imagine this is in any way reasonable?

Someone above said Mean Girls and I can totally hear the bit were Gretchen Wieners screams YOU CAN'T SIT WITH US!!!!!!!!! at Regina George

Your seats are in price brackets though? So just move seats to another section in the same price bracket? If you really don't want to sit next to them then you will have to move. Just tell them you fancied a change, nothing wrong with that.

Ha ha ha ha some people have the cheek of ten arses 😂😂😂😂😂

^This with bells on

They're also the sort of people who would be picky if we booked extra seats at any time for other family members and would refuse to shuffle round, because they were in "their" seats, leaving an odd person on the end.

But you would be in their seats! Good grief.

You definitely will be able to swap. A colleague and her husband had season tickets next to each other, and she phoned up and swapped hers when they divorced. They'll put you somewhere else in the same price bracket.

Could you ask them to get the seats in front or behind? So that you can interact better? that works well. I don't think most people would be put out if you explain that ds likes to take friends sometimes?

It would give them the same flexibility too

Do you think they'd go every weekend?

I bet you can move seats, call the ticket services people and see.

There is literally no way you can do this without being rude.

Okay. I admit defeat & can see that there's no reasonable way of doing it. IABU. Thought that might be the response.

Well, you can only hope that they don't get the seats.

Anything else is very unreasonable.

Don't, you'll come across as a bit of a knobber.

Allow me to say. "Well done to you". It takes guts to admit when you're wrong.
I can't wontadmit when I'm wrong. Well there was this one time. When I thought I was wrong, but I was mistaken.

Depends what club this is, at a well supported team like Pompey you would struggle to find alternative seats, along the coast at scumhampton they are practically begging people to attend.

It's a challenging friendship, but as nobody can wave a magic wand, I'll have to put on my big girl's pants & take a fire extinguisher for when sparks start to fly!

My dh and kids had a season ticket and found some of the other season ticket holders in close proximity a right pain in the arse every other week.

You'll have to just ignore them if they are seated next to you , it's as simple as that.

I know you're backing down from your outrageous idea, but what made you think they'd want the seats next to you?

You do realise it's a public stadium right?!

The best yiu can do is say should great and get tickets elsewhere for yourselves!

Because (as someone said earlier) they probably want to sit somewhere else too, but would think it would be rude & don't want to say anything either in case they cause offence!

Can you imagine if they are at home saying to each other " oh I really want to get some seats but I don't want to sit next to stick every weekend. She is sooooo anal about the seats. What should we say?"

I can't believe I am reading this. How childish!