Aibu to think the NHS should be more truthful about mc?

[orchidnap]

This pregnancy has been fully of uncertainty with slow rising hcg, and scans that took a long time to really slow anytbing, so it was always in the back of my mind that a mc was coming. Today it finally happened. I was 7 weeks.

The info leaflet I'd been given said that miscarriage in first trimester was "like a heavy period" and may experience some pain.

This was a vast understatement. Everyone I've spoken to said the same.

If this was the days before the internet and being able to Google things I'd have assumed something was very wrong and presented at a&e.

I just feel like it's an awful enough thing to have to go through without the panic and shock of what actually happens vs what they tell you.

I'm so sorry for your loss, OP.
I am a consultant in this and related areas of care, and quite agree that this kind of generalised written information is misleading, and potentially terrifying if your experience is different to that described.
In all clinical situations where women will be miscarrying in the first trimester, I am frank and honest in my advice: that there is a range of experiences of:
bleeding (light period to substantially heavier than a period with large clots) pain (minimal period-type pain to very painful labour-type contractions)
duration of symptoms (minutes to hours).
There is nothing complicated about explaining that all women have a different experience and will need appropriate support, but to be professional and caring too.
I think some staff want to reassure as much as possible, but go way over the top as they mistakenly think this is helping. I fear some staff do get desensitised and just don't care very much any longer.
It's incredibly paternalistic though, as women are invariably strong enough to cope if prepared for worst case scenario, with a relative/friend. Terrifying and dangerous, IMHO, to miscarry at home, possibly whilst in charge of children if symptoms are severe..
My information leaflets are more realistic, which is no help to you, I know.
Miscarriage care in the UK has a long way to go.

Please look after yourself OP - a supportive GP can be great at this time - take some sick leave if you work. The Miscarriage Association is wonderful.

I had contractions as painful as when I was starting labour and the bleeding was so bad I thought I was going to bleed to death I have very heavy periods and both MC were much heavier than them although my earliest loss didn't last for as long

So sorry for everyone's losses YANBU there isn't enough advice I didn't understand what was happening to me at all

I am so sorry, was looking at older threads and totally forgot and replied, didn't mean to resurrect a dead thread