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AIBU?

To be a bit miffed at out of school club.

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DeepfriedPizza · 13/04/2016 20:46

Dd goes to out of school club 2 days a week whilst I work, before and after school, it's located in the school during term time and another location during holidays.

We are still on Easter break, we were away as a family last week so this week is the first holiday we have had to use it (we have used annual leave for other school holidays) we pay £23 per day for this.

First day this week Dh dropped her off and the out of school club leader said they were going on a trip to the beach could DH give Dd money for ice cream, fine, no problem. She had a great time.

Second day, DH dropped her off and leader said that they were going to soft play and could she have £4 for entry.

If DH had no cash on him, I don't know what would have happened. I'm a bit annoyed that we are told on the day of the trip of the cost. There would have been no option for DD to stay behind as all staff and children went.

I'm worried about summer holidays as we will have to use them, there are no other clubs.

AIBU to be annoyed at DH being put on the spot?

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FeelingSmurfy · 13/04/2016 22:31

A lot of people may not have had any money on them, just dropping kids off so didn't think needed any/only had credit card etc etc I'm sure if one person didn't have it on them they could pay the next day but what if a lot of them didn't have any money on them? That is assuming everyone can pay, I'm sure at least a few have struggled to find £23 a day in the first place

Really needs to be arranged ahead of time, even if they send a note saying we will be going to the beach one day this week, when the weather is suitable, can you please bring £x

Mummyme1987 · 13/04/2016 22:31

I would expect a trip at the end of the holidays, or even one a fortnight if it was made clear with costs before I booked.

Dutchess61 · 13/04/2016 22:32

Thank god Im not working there.

drivingmisspotty · 13/04/2016 22:35

I don't get that people don't know they go on day trips a lot and not just stay on the complex during the "holidays".

I didn't know that, Duchess, I don't think that means I'm thick, just that it's my first time using a holiday club and I'm not psychic. Anyway, it is obviously not like that everywhere as PPs have said they got timetables in advance from their clubs meaning they could plan.

I am sure you are right that OP's club would cheerfully have let her pay the next day. But I think it is okay to be 'a bit miffed' (it is so mild!) At an unexpected expense that you can get out of only by losing your childcare and missing a day's work.

Dutchess61 · 13/04/2016 22:39

In never said you were thick driving.
I also know that having children has many hidden expenses, so no, I'm not miffed.

Mummyme1987 · 13/04/2016 22:51

None of the holiday clubs I have ever used have had trips at anytime other than the last day. It wouldn't occur to me that there might be extra costs not pointed out to me before I booked.

Dutchess61 · 13/04/2016 22:52

Mine always did so I either owed or had it on me at the time.

Dutchess61 · 13/04/2016 22:53

I was so happy that my kids went out for days etc. for a few extra pounds knowing I had to work and couldn't take them.

Mummyme1987 · 13/04/2016 22:56

I wanted to take them on the trips on my days off not pay for someone else to do it.

drivingmisspotty · 13/04/2016 22:57

What did you mean, then? You say you 'don't get' that people don't know that bit of information. You can't understand how anybody could possibly not know it. This implies to me that you think anyone who doesn't know it therefore must be a bit stupid/odd/there is something wrong with them.

I was just pointing out that not everyone has the same knowledge/experience base as you.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 13/04/2016 22:57

I've never known a holiday club to ask for payment on the day for outings. They've always been organised, as they should be. It's unfair to demand extra money on the day.

Mummyme1987 · 13/04/2016 22:58

Mine where always happy with the things on in the holiday club, don't think they had time to be bored. Trips aren't necessary in my view.

AHintOfStyle · 13/04/2016 22:59

All, don't be confused by user names: she's not "a dutchess" because it's spelt "duchess" so her user name means something else obviously.

Mummyme1987 · 13/04/2016 23:00

And not all trips like to the beach would be fully accessible to my dd.

Dutchess61 · 13/04/2016 23:01

Ive known it TheDog and am willing to pay the extra, dare i say £5 every now and again They didn't ask for it after the event did they. The OP or her partner was within their rights to refuse, not be "miffed". These things happen in a normal world where things aren't that "organised"

Mummyme1987 · 13/04/2016 23:03

If they had dropped a beach trip on me there's no way I would have been able to leave my dd. These things need to be organised. In fact I'm pretty sure ousted requires these things to be organised. Risk assessed etc.

Mummyme1987 · 13/04/2016 23:05

Ousted? Ofsted stupid autocorrect

DixieNormas · 13/04/2016 23:07

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PaulAnkaTheDog · 13/04/2016 23:08

True Style but whether a spelling error, or a play on the word, it's grating. Even her latest post with a big fat grin shows a massive lack of understanding of how these extra costs can be difficult for people.

Dutchess that last post has just reinforced what an inconsiderate person you are, well done. Grin away, it just makes you look more out of touch with other people or simply unwilling to grasp how that £5 makes a difference.

Dutchess61 · 13/04/2016 23:08

Im sure there was an itinerary etc. for trips and they weren't just thought up on the day.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 13/04/2016 23:13

Ah, so are you suggesting the op lied then?

zeeka · 13/04/2016 23:21

If they weren't thought up on the day, they should have been factored into the price.

It's strange how some people have no idea how tight budgets are for others. Then again, look at our government. Must be the zeitgeist of 2016...

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Dutchess61 · 13/04/2016 23:21

Some of you would fight your own reflections

PaulAnkaTheDog · 13/04/2016 23:25

Nope, just those posting ridiculously annoying comments

dentydown · 13/04/2016 23:55

My kids club has trips but they are noted down on the booking form and the extra is added onto the cost e.g. 6 pounds extra for the day and you have about a month to budget.
I would be miffed as I don't have change on me all the time.
Any trips have to be risk assessed because there are children with special needs, so they like to know in advance who is going so they can get staff numbers and one-to-one/two -to-one support.

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