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AIBU?

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To be a bit miffed at out of school club.

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DeepfriedPizza · 13/04/2016 20:46

Dd goes to out of school club 2 days a week whilst I work, before and after school, it's located in the school during term time and another location during holidays.

We are still on Easter break, we were away as a family last week so this week is the first holiday we have had to use it (we have used annual leave for other school holidays) we pay £23 per day for this.

First day this week Dh dropped her off and the out of school club leader said they were going on a trip to the beach could DH give Dd money for ice cream, fine, no problem. She had a great time.

Second day, DH dropped her off and leader said that they were going to soft play and could she have £4 for entry.

If DH had no cash on him, I don't know what would have happened. I'm a bit annoyed that we are told on the day of the trip of the cost. There would have been no option for DD to stay behind as all staff and children went.

I'm worried about summer holidays as we will have to use them, there are no other clubs.

AIBU to be annoyed at DH being put on the spot?

OP posts:

Dutchess61 · 13/04/2016 21:57

Why are you talking about my user name at least it's normal sounding

Dutchess61 · 13/04/2016 21:57

Its the price of a couple of ice creams during the holidays so get off your high horse there.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 13/04/2016 22:00

*Get off your high horse.
Jeesu Christi in a bucket, says you.

stealthsquiggle · 13/04/2016 22:02

The holiday club I used to use for my DC did a trip once a week, advertised, including any extra cost, in advance (they published a complete timetable at booking time). Most were pretty low cost, there tended to be one more adventurous one at the end of the holidays, but since you knew costs in advance you could plan around it if it was going to be a problem.

Even if it's a general "if it's nice we might go to the beach/elsewhere, no more than £x needed" type warning on the booking form, they should tell you.

Littlecaf · 13/04/2016 22:02

It really should be covered upfront in the cost of the club/play scheme, not as an after thought. It sounds poorly organised if not.

LadyWithLapdog · 13/04/2016 22:03

Damned if they do, damned if they don't.

Dutchess61 · 13/04/2016 22:03

In the holidays I expect to pay a bit more for my children when they go to a centre due to trips out.

My user name as nothing to do with anything.

To mention the word "narcissist" in a thread about paying an extra couple of quid here and there for cheap wonderful childcare is just plain loop the loop.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 13/04/2016 22:09

Because your username is Dutchess?! Someone who would have no clue about how normal people live. Yet you are making blasé comments about additional costs on top of childcare?

Incidentally: You'd probably find a lot more members receptive to my name than yours. It is a character from a popular tv show. You just gave yourself an undeserving title.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 13/04/2016 22:10

Not everyone has that extra £4. Yes it may not be a lot, but it's not a little either, to some. Of course people are going to react. When you come bouncing onto a thread with the name "Dutchess" saying.things like. You should always carry extra money. If only life were that simple. We don't all have money trees in abundance.

Dutchess61 · 13/04/2016 22:11

Eh hmm, TheDog I certainly know how working class live, being one myself and a single parent to boot. Are you just out for an argument?

ladymalfoy · 13/04/2016 22:11

Has anyone ever been caught out by commenting on a thread using two different UN?
Just wondering.

LadyWithLapdog · 13/04/2016 22:12

Come on, people. Usernames are not real. I'm not a Lady, for example. Nor do I have a lapdog or time to do nothing but sit with it in my lap. Let the Dutchess be.

Dutchess61 · 13/04/2016 22:12

I don't get it and never will when people come on here saying they are cross with childcare providers that ask for a few extra quid here and there for an ice-cream or entrance to something that isn't in their budget.

Youarentkiddingme · 13/04/2016 22:15

Of course yanbu.

That money per child is ro cover wages, over heads, insurance, food and fund equipment for activities. So if they chose not to purchase equipment and snacks and attend beach and soft play then the money paid towards it should cover it.

You pay for care at the centre - if you can't provide extra funds they have to provide what you pay for.

I'd have been fine with a trip somewhere and funding something ep towards it with prior warning and a chance to opt out. Plus I'd expect it to be a treat not a daily thing.

Johnny5isAlive · 13/04/2016 22:18

What dont you get dutchess? The scheme is advertised as £23 per child per day. If you had, for example, 2 kids there it could be up to £10 extra per day. Everyday of school holidays.
Again, why is that difficult to get??

PaulAnkaTheDog · 13/04/2016 22:20

I understand what you mean lapdog but it was generally embarrassing to see someone who gave themself the username Dutchess come on here and say some people would complain about anything and just bring a couple of extra quid next time. It's not that simple for some and it's a ridiculously dismissive attitude to have. I'm thankfully in a decent position where I don't always have to worry about these things but some do. And for the OP to post about it and worry over additional costs, I'd say Dutchess's remarks were just wrong.

Dutchess61 · 13/04/2016 22:22

I don't get that people don't know they go on day trips a lot and not just stay on the complex during the "holidays".

Dutchess61 · 13/04/2016 22:23

Stop over investing in trying to point me out thedog. Its annoying and rather ridiculous.

SoupDragon · 13/04/2016 22:23

Isn't the OP complaining about the lack of any notice rather than the cost?

Dutchess61 · 13/04/2016 22:26

If its coming from a place of embarrassment rather than grumbling about the extra then I'm sure if the OP or her partner said that they didn't have anything on them at the time of dropping off the club would have been very understanding and they could have paid the next time.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 13/04/2016 22:27

Given she says she's worried about the summer holidays I'd say cost is a worry Dragon.

MattDillonsPants · 13/04/2016 22:28

Lady You're telling people to let "Duchess" be?? She needs to be the one doing that!

Of course OP is NBU!

Things like this need to be planned in advance. And yes, REALLY Duchess....some people's daily meals for a family cost less than four pounds!

Dutchess61 · 13/04/2016 22:29

OP, maybe in future be prepared for there being a few extra costs due to the kids being taken out rather than made to stay in the establishment during the holidays.

Mummyme1987 · 13/04/2016 22:29

How many trips a week? That's mad. That's a lot of money to people, especially if you have three or more kids. £5 a day, three times a week for three kids is a lot over seven weeks holiday, over £300. To me and a lot of parents that's a lot.

MattDillonsPants · 13/04/2016 22:30

Duchess the OP has said the money in itself is not so much of an issue for her...she is thinking of OTHER people for whom it WILL be an issue and she should tell the centre that in future she would like notice....as everyone would appreciate that.

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