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Original poster

To be on here without yet being a Mum?

61 replies

Nerdygalwithabook · 11/04/2016 23:14

Long time silent fan of Mumsnet. I find it interesting and full of useful advice!
However I don't feel that I should have signed up just now to post this.
Or that I should ever post for advice or comment. (First post here)

I have no children yet. I am 19. I plan to one day though. I just really enjoy this site and look through it multiple times a day. AIBU or is this ok if I stay silent or what. Sorryyyy and thank you!

Grin
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PurpleDaisies · 11/04/2016 23:32

Grin worra

Maryz · 11/04/2016 23:33

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MaybeLater4 · 11/04/2016 23:34

I think you are literally me, also 19 and on here just because it's interesting to read sometimes. I do other normal stuff like for my age like go to uni, go out clubbing, see friends, shop in topshop etc but I find it interesting to see and it's helped me consider what I want out of my future Smile

WorraLiberty · 11/04/2016 23:35

Yeah, the last one got banned about 15 or 20 minutes ago...

Original poster
Nerdygalwithabook · 11/04/2016 23:38

MaybeLater4

Ah.
I'm kind of a social outcast. I can't find any friends :( I think that's one of the reasons I like it. Cause it makes me forget I live in Lindon yet still don't have friends lol. I'm job hunting though

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Original poster
Nerdygalwithabook · 11/04/2016 23:39

Why did they get banned?
Also London not Lindon

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Sunnybitch · 12/04/2016 07:40

Where did I say I was great space Hmm And just so you know... I really couldn't give a flying shitwit about grammar!

nerdy

They got banned coz they trolled about the death of a baby who died from terrible abuse and neglect

RattieOfCatan · 12/04/2016 07:47

I joined when I was 19, I'm 26 now and am actually joining the ranks of motherhood this year! There are a lot of non-parents on MN, it's not just a site dedicated to parenting as I'm sure you know. It's kept me somewhat sane over the years really and there are points in my life where I really wish I'd listened to MNetters, especially WRT my ex and some of his childish behaviour!

NotQuiteJustYet · 12/04/2016 15:35

YANBU at all Smile

26 year old non-parent here, long long time lurker, joined the ranks properly recently.

Where else I am meant to actively avoid uni work as well as I can in AIBU?

MrsTerryPratchett · 12/04/2016 15:43

I can't find any friends It takes a long time to make old friends.

Now I feel like Yoda, dispensing advice to youngsters.

coffeeisnectar · 12/04/2016 15:47

As the mum of a nearly 18 year old it's quite nice to have younger posters who can give the perspective from that age range. I sometimes feel like I'm swimming in glue trying to parent a young adult and if someone like you can come along and say 'look at it from this point of view' then that's useful.

At the same time you may feel your parents are being wholly unreasonable for some reason whereas we will say 'actually, as a parent I totally understand why they think like that'.

I love this site. I love that there is a vast age range with a whole wealth of experience and knowledge.

curren · 12/04/2016 16:02

I mean this is a nice way.

No one cares. It's full of all sorts here Grin. That's why I like it

Original poster
Nerdygalwithabook · 12/04/2016 21:59

Awwwwwwwww thanks guys

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toffee1000 · 13/04/2016 10:14

Yeah, I'm only 20 and joined recently. My mum is on here too though, she likes to tell me about threads I'd be interested in, and I can definitely imagine posting here when I have my own kids. Although that's far off in the future as I'm not in a relationship right now and, similar to you OP, I don't have a huge number of friends. Sometimes I can get really sucked into a thread. And yeah there are plenty of threads where being a mum isn't necessary, there's threads for all sorts of hobbies for example. Click on "full talk topics list" and find whatever you want.
Hi to a fellow newbie!

Original poster
Nerdygalwithabook · 16/04/2016 22:11

toffee your now my friend Grin

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x2boys · 16/04/2016 22:26

Mumsnets great anyone posts I am a parent and use some topics specifically for children ie special needs I have a disabled child but loads of threads in aibu and chat being a parent is meaningless there are loads of non parents .

Seeyounearertime · 16/04/2016 22:28

I'm here but I'm not a Mum yet either, I doubt I ever will be tbh, what with having a pesky little penis. Sad

Welcome OP, as current said, there's all sorts here. And Smarties, mnms, revels (even the chocolate ones,)

FluffyBunny123 · 16/04/2016 22:35

Nah don't worry about it.
Wish I'd had all this no nonsense straight talking advice when I was 19!

Original poster
Nerdygalwithabook · 16/04/2016 23:07

It is very good advice!!

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Destinysdaughter · 16/04/2016 23:23

I'm not a mum but I love it here!

And I really really wish MN had been around when I was 19, think it would have saved me from all kinds of trouble...

ephemeralfairy · 17/04/2016 02:55

I freakin' love it! I've been here for three years now, no kids, never going to have any. I've had some really good advice about all sorts of stuff. And it's funny. And I am genuinely fascinated by the minutiae of other people's lives.

Seren85 · 17/04/2016 03:06

I'm a 31 year old non parent. I joined when I got married and we were thinking of ttc and I thought it'd be a good source of advice. We aren't currently due to various things but what I have learned is an awful lot about how a previous relationship was abusive (was aware but helped to be validated) and how important it is to have a safe place to vent and laugh.

Stratter5 · 17/04/2016 03:18

My 18yo DD posts on here, with the magnificently original NN of StrattersDD Grin

She thinks you're all hilarious, although she's slightly brainwashed, the whole family's go to for advice is 'Mum can you ask on MN'

ACoraBorealis · 17/04/2016 03:47

I'm another one. I'm 27 with no children, (and don't want any) but I love reading the threads here. Maybe I'm just nosey. Grin

bbpp · 17/04/2016 04:28

I'm 19 with no kids, too. MN is the funniest and most Shock site there is, I reckon. It's like looking into another world sometimes. I love it.