Do you expect guests to help with the washing up?

[SabineUndine]

My kitchen is tiny so no dishwasher. While I never let friends who come round for lunch or dinner help with the washing up, I've just had someone to stay for a few nights and she didn't help once. I cooked for us both a couple of times. AIBU to think she should at least have offered?

SleepyBoBo but now you're contradicting yourself, and also introducing other household tasks, which I didn't mention.

I think it depends on the relationship to the person staying. Family - yes I expect them to help, Friends - I expect them to offer but would decline.

My kitchen is long and narrow and I am a pia over things being put away correctly.

Yanbu

Sabine I know you didn't mention them, I was asking if you would expect your guests to offer to do these other household tasks. You seem to be taking offence that I'm one of few people to say I think you're unreasonable. How am I contradicting myself - you seem to have taken my first post a bit too literally when I said 'an extra plate', I only clarified what I meant. Either you accept having a guest means a few extra chores for a few days or not have guests stay over. Yes it's a bit rude not to offer, but I personally don't think someone who's staying as a guest is obliged to do so.

I'm slightly on the fence. I think it's polite for guests to offer (though I always refuse). I would hate to think I'd made visitors feel an obligation though. At my in laws' there's such an expectation of busy helpfulness that you can't move for people lurking with tea towels, all ready to swoop in ninja like on each freshly washed glass.
On the whole YANBU though OP.

I wouldn't expect them to offer and would decline if they did.

No, I wouldn't expect guests to offer.