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Original poster

To think Dh really should have discussed this with me first

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piebaldponies · 10/04/2016 17:08

Dh had been applying in a fairly competitive field for a while, and getting brilliant feedback but lack of specific experience was holding him back. In other words it was a catch 22 of - great application but we gave it to someone with experience.

He applied for a job in a less competitive area of the country which just happened to me 300 miles away from our home Hmm and got it.

I had to leave MY job ( was planning to anyway this was what he kept saying) and move with our little boy who was 18 months.

OP posts:
curren · 11/04/2016 06:44

He travelled 600 miles in one day for an interview, never mentioned it and you didn't notice he was gone all day?

You aren't saying what you said after he mentioned it or saying wether you knew he was applying so far away.

In my head I am imagining you did know he was applying that far away. It didn't come out of the blue, you agreed to go (as you were leaving your job anyway). Now, though, you aren't happy where you are and feeling resentful.

If this is the case, that's not really his fault. You did make the decision to go. If you aren't happy, talk to him about moving back to the area you used to live in when he has the experience and can get a job there.

Original poster
piebaldponies · 11/04/2016 20:10

I honestly didn't notice he was gone 7-8 just like normal. I thought he should have told me.

OP posts:
curren · 12/04/2016 05:20

I don't know what say OP you are being very evasive.

He was only gone 7-8 hours but travelled 600 miles? And had an interview?

You won't answer wether you knew he was applying in that area. You won't answer what you said after he told you where to the job was.

So I can only guess And say, Yabu. You knew he was applying, agreed to the move, didn't put forward and objections. And our now making out he did this against your will because you aren't happy.

Skittlesss · 12/04/2016 07:29

7am til 8pm is plenty of time to travel 300 miles, interview and then 300 miles back.

OP, are you ok? This sounds like more than just that he didn't tell you/discuss with you. Does he control other aspects of life as well? You know we are all here for you xx

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