I have 3 friends have known since school, all same age one has two older children. We have always met up drinks meals etc past couple of years I seem to been excluded and we have drifted. Kept in touch birthday cards and text messages phone calls always me initiating but no response With regards to meeting up. I decided that I wasn't going to stress anymore and not waste my energy getting stressed about it. Still odd text asking how they are etc. They still see each other but not that often. I recently had a baby 5 weeks premature in scbu for 3 weeks. Came home 2 weeks ago. Not one of these 3 friends sent me a congratulations message or how you doing etc. No card - not obligated I know. Very disappointed but had other things going on obviously. My dd birthday falls day before one of the friends bday, due to everything going on my DDs bday was very low key and I also forgot to send the friend a card( first time in 20 years) morning of her bday I get a message saying disappointed she hasn't had a happy birthday message and she has something for DS can we meet. I said sorry forgot your card happy birthday yes can do after this week, she replied saying anytime after 11 April. Not heard since. I am pissed off she chased for a happy birthday and it's the first message I have had from her for well over 6 months. I really don't want to meet her as I feel to much water under bridge and would like to send a message to this effect . however husband said to make the effort. It's likely I will bump into them at a wedding in the summer too. But I feel hurt re DS and also fed up its me who contacts! What would you do??