To find this supermum list boring sexist twaddle

[Justmeagain78]

Apparently there are 40 signs of a supermum www.mirror.co.uk/lifestyle/family/secrets-super-mums-revealed-how-7693441

Aibu to wonder whether there are 40 signs of a super dad or as usual it's only mums who have to read this crap?!! Maybe I'm just peeved because I could tick off about ten!

41. Cooks own pancakes

revolting.

Excuse me, I need to vomit. And no, for a change it is not because I'm pregnant.

Most of the things listed are the basic things that every parent does. You don't have to be super or female to make sure your children do their homework, have school uniform, are read to every night, have friends round, are hugged etc.

Looking glam on school runs or boasting on Facebook are a bit random though!

Can I add "You don't lose your shit in front of the children when the cat drags a pigeon through the cat flap".

Isn't the article basically about the caricature of a mum that basically pisses everyone else off by being so wonderful?

My answer to no fewer than 11 of these questions is 'My kids aren't in school yet' Maybe I don't count as a mum yet?

Also, wtf is a 'parental achievement'? Something you have achieved parentally. A parenting thing which you have achieved. So, giving birth? Feeding your child? Changing a nappy? How do you post about these things, sorry, achievements, on Facebook? 'I changed his nappy! Go e ' Fair enough, birth announcements - but they tend to be more in the style of 'Welcome to the world little Name' not 'C'mere, look what I just did!'

Well. It is The Mirror. I can't take it too seriously

Another whip to flog women with

I do all of these that involve the DC. As a result I am so bloody knackered and worn out from anticipating their every need that there is not a chance in hell I could look glam on the school run. Not on FB as it makes me feel utterly inadequate. To be doing all of this you need to be superhuman, never mind supermum ... and where on this list does it mention anything about being happy/fulfilled/enjoying DC's company?

What about the perfect dad? I'm guessing the basics like changing a nappy, reading a book and turning up.

WTAF?

Who writes this shit?

I am super mum because I laugh at farts with my DS .

Fuck looking glamorous.

Jesus Christ.

Kiss my fucking arse.

Its a stupid list but did anyone actually read the article? It basically says that everyone knows women who want to appear to be the perfect mother and the list is the things that those women boast about on social media in order to make others think they are perfect at it.
It also says that most women found this behaviour to be smug and irritating. It's confused article to be sure but this seems to be the actual point, about the pressure women can feel to do all these things, when they aren't really what matters.

It's hilarious when you contrast this with Internet lists of amazing super dads who are "winning at fatherhood"... It's all pictures of men letting their kid paint his nails, taking their kids out for lunch, plaiting their daughters hair, dressing up in fancy dress etc. Basically all the fairly ordinary stuff mums do on a daily basis.

"Sets out breakfast stuff"

We eat in the bedroom, on a stool and DS is naked because he plasters himself with yogurt. I am too classy for this list.

34, drinks cocktails whilst making tea often. Winning at parenting/mumming/life in general.

It's all such bollocks, all this competitive motherhood nonsense. So long as they're loved, fed and educated (none of which needs to be in comparison to anyone else's ideals) what difference is there? We muddle along and crack on with stuff and sometimes forget their PE kits and nobody dies from wearing school shorts.

My SIL was a bit like this when hers were younger. And she was miserable as fuck. Not saying the two go hand-in-hand but I'm a lazy arse and happy as larry, so the common denominator is that spending your life being super mum comes at the expense of your joy and will to live. Pack it in and drink a glass of wine at 6pm like a normal human being.