To feel like I can't cope without an en-suite bathroom

[InlandTiger]

This is a problem. We are moving house soon and I only want to consider houses with en-suites.

It's the same on holiday, if we get a house/villa with friends I won't consider going unless we have an en-suite.

It's a privacy thing mainly. I have colitis. I also get up to wee 5-6x a night

We have guests a lot and PILs stay for a month at a time. I feel sick with horror at the thought of us all sharing one bathroom! Urgh.
I don't mind sharing with DH/DS but not with friends/extended family!
And a separate loo/extra loo downstairs doesn't give the same level of privacy.

DH thinks I'm being VU. Am I?

YANBU. I can't imagine living without an ensuite. Your DH is being unreasonable.

The thing I can't stand in the UK is that ensuite's are smaller. For me the master bedroom should have the biggest and most luxurious bathroom. What is the point of being the 'master' bedroom, with a tiny ensuite. I am sure the UK has it back to front. I lived in Canada before and the master bathroom was the biggest in the house. It was bigger than my bedroom now (sigh).

I rarely use ours, just think it's a waste of space as we have a lovely family bathroom and another downstairs. I'd take it out if it didn't effect the price of my house.

I realise I'm in the minority and most people like them, so I'm saying YANBU.

So glad I'm not BU! Expected to be told I was.

DH just doesn't get it, he thinks I should 'get over' my 'bathroom issues' and that there's nothing to be embarrassed about!

He doesn't have colitis so has no idea how stressful it is when you have to wait for the loo to become free, or someone's waiting to use it, or you need to use it several times in night and risk waking everyone!

I'm not embarrassed around him and DS but I want some privacy when we have guests. He says it's unwelcoming and unfriendly not to put his parents up in our home and that close family and friends should always be welcome to stay.

....and to make those visits bearable enjoyable for you, you need an ensuite. Discussion can now move on..

This may not work for you but if my DH thinks I'm being overly dramatic about an illness he hasn't had (so say period pains) I tend to describe in great detail why I'm in pain, why I need an available loo to hand etc etc.

Yes, it might be gross, but if he isn't able to use a small bit of understanding and imagination to realise why you need another loo, then maybe he needs to hear why in more detail. He is BVU.

As it happens DH is the one with IBS and we are currently buying a house and one of our criteria was 2 loos. I have fullest sympathies with him and he is not to blame, but my god I need somewhere else for him to go to the loo each morning!!!