to start a blatent ultimate MIL thread

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Well, more of a 'crazy things your IL's have done' but in my case its all about MIL. Alot of mil/ill threads lately I thought it might be good to have most if them in one place.

Ive spoken about some things on here but I'm not sure I ever mentioned my wedding dress so here goes: I showed mil my wedding dress, I was trying to include her in the planning of the day as she only has sons and I didn't want her to feel left out. It was a second hand cream lace full length dress and I loved it.

The following weekend we were at ILs and mil brings out the dress she has bought to wear for the wedding... Its cream lace. I didn't know what to say at the time but thankfully dh said that she would look a bit strange standing next to me in that dress. She had paid a lot of money for it, it cost more than my wedding dress and she was determined to wear it.
After many weeks of arguments and strops leading up to the day, she finally agreed to wear a different dress.
She turned up in the exact same dress, but in black lace, not cream. It was July, the hottest day of the year, and she sat and sulked all day long in a very heavy, tight black lace dress...

My MIL is the type who pretends she just wants to help but is controlling and interfering. She turns up to visit with cleaning products because she didn't think I'd have any in. Despite my house being spotless and me telling her every time that I have these things.

She calls herself "Mummy" when she is alone with DS. I overheard her when she was bathing him and let it go thinking it was just a slip up. She then did it again later in changing him. My friend spotted her and DS out shopping and she was saying things to him like "Shall mummy do this for you?" "Give it to mummy" and "Give mummy a Kiss."

She treats DH like a child and always puts him down but then complains that he isn't as confident as SIL I asked him to read over some work I'd done e other week and she shouted "Him? What does he know about that? Good luck handing that in, I wouldn't trust his thoughts on that." The work was about the sector that he works in so knows quite a bit about it. She then went on to say "I wish you'd sell yourself and give yourself more credit in work but you don't seem to have the confidence your sister does." Followed by the prepared monologue of how amazing SIL is.

She threw away a scan of a baby that I'd miscarried because it was never a real baby. We had it in a frame in our bedroom and she thought that seeing as how I was pregnant again it didn't matter. I then went on to lose that baby and she said 'You're not going to put that scan picture up are you? It's really morbid and I think you're probably going to have more miscarriages and you'll run out of space."

My MIL is ace. She can be hard work at times and doesn't listen/wilfully misunderstands, but she is fab with the kids and is a very easy house guest. She also always insists on shoving me and DH out for a meal together when she visits and paying for it.

She has a strained relationship with her daughter and tries hard to over-compensate with her - I can sort of understand but do feel sorry for MIL as she just wants everyone to be happy.

My MIL refused to come to our wedding and would not "let" FIL attend. DH took it in his stride but completely lost it when DS1 was born as she said he was a bastard as DH and I were not properly married as we had married in a registry office. She used to wait until DH was out of the room and be unbelievably rude to me. I would either laugh or ignore it and eventually she gave up. She liked the children but never offered to look after them for me. After her death we became very close to FiL who SIL told me was very fond of me and that DH was a lucky man!

I have 4 sons 2 DILs who are fabulous women, I love them dearly and any women who is prepared to take any of my sons on gets my full love and support.

My MIL is lovely, my DH's MIL however, can be a bit random...

What is with all these MILs who encourage their grandchildren to call them Mummy?? NEVER heard of this before Mumsnet!

I am nc with mil. The best place for her would be under my patio.

She is a nasty psychopath... The last time I saw her she said she could never get over nor forgive me not having an abortion with ds1... Who was 11 at the time... And how could I possibly look at dh without feeling sick with guilt for stealing his uni years from him and denying him his youth...

I have to try and feel sorry for as she is a deeply unpleasant and unhappy woman