to think this isn't very funny

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Minor but aibu?

At cinema the other day. There's this huge cut out style poster for the BFG. The little girl in the film is a cut out too with her skirts rising up behind her.

Ds2 aged 6 thought it funny to put his hand 'up' her skirt. H thought this hilarious and took photos.

I thought it seriously unfunny and said so and well, what a pc bore I am. Small spat ensued. Nice.

Not funny. Wouldn't have been impressed. My sons nor my husband would have done it or laughed or taken a photo ffs but if they did a big spat would ensue.

I agree, not funny at all.

*Would he take a photo of his son pretending to stick his hands down a boys trousers? No?

Then why is it acceptable purely because it's a female?*

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At 6 kids think bums are hilarious he was being silly however not so much I would have been annoyed too yanbu

How funny will he find it when he's hauled into school if your ds does this to a little girl?

How funny would he find this if you had a dd and a boy did it to her?

He's a twat.

What was your husband's thinking in taking a photo, for goodness sake? Does he plan to show it around amongst relatives and friends? Is it something for the family to keep? Either way it does rather look as if he is expecting that other people looking at the photo will agree with him that putting your hand up a girl's skirt is ever so funny. I would hope that he'd be proved wrong about that, though I fear some of his mates will laugh along with him.

Unfunny and inappropriate. What does that teach ds? And lol at Lumpy

Get them to take a photo of you grabbing a cut out's crotch or kneeling beside it with your mouth open. That's funny too isn't it? Fun for ALL the family

Your DH was an idiot to laugh and encourage.

I'm a pc bore too - it's not funny.

YANBU. This is not funny behaviour in real life, in fact, it's quite seriously not on, so why play-encourage it with a child?

I would be really cross with my husband if he did something like this, as I don't subscribe to the boys-will-be-boys school of thought.

I'm more interested in WHY this movie has a picture of a child with her skirt being blown up by the wind? Why?

Also those who think this is acceptable, would you be amused by a little girl miming her hands down a cut out male's trousers? Would you photograph it too?

It's something you expect a child to do because it's well rude and not allowed, but you don't, as an adult, encourage it. Let alone take pictures

I have to agree it's not funny. The 6 year old I can understand and would have explained to him why it isn't ok. Your husband's behaviour was pretty vile though in my opinion.
DH really needs to think about what kind of message he is giving to his son as no doubt he is one of his primary role models. What is his attitude towards women like in general? Is this a good representation of it?

I think your dh has seen it as, ooh look my boy is being such a bloke. That is worrying to me. Is that what he wants his son to grow up into?

The comparisons with it being a girl sticking their hand down a boys trousers aren't the same. That would never be celebrated, the girl would be labelled a whore. A boy, however, well that's just great, he's such a lad!

Having had a random male put his hand up my skirt on a night out once, I wish someone had taught him to respect women. How men view women starts from a young age, I would be furious if dh had encouraged this behaviour.
The six year old I wouldn't be cross with, I'd have just explained why it wasn't a nice thing to do.

MattDillon, it's this image. In the cinema, it's a big standalone cutout.

Your DH wouldn't find it funny if :

a) You are called in to school because he's done it a girl in his class "because Daddy thinks its funny."

or

b) He does it to your DD because it's funny, or someone did it to your DD

PC maybe, but we live in more enlightened times now not 1962, were pinching the barmaids arse and asking to see her knickers was fair game.

YANBU

In Year 6 - so, age 11 - a girl told her friends that a boy, let's call him Dill, put his hand up her skirt. She said it in very hushed, giggly tones, certainly not a 'knowing' child. The dirtiest film she'd probably watched was Grease. We didn't think of it as a sexual thing, more of a ... joke thing? Not a good one. But still. It was the 1980s and we weren't even doing girl/boyfriends or 'fancying' yet.

Anyway, the rumour reached the teachers and there was HELL to pay. First they questioned Dill. Poor Dill. Sweet lad hadn't done a thing. The girl was a bit of a fibber, and why she'd made it up I don't know - to convey he liked her? To be the first to be liked? - but she hadn't grasped how so much more serious 'a hand up the skirt' was than any other silly fib. All of us who'd gossiped were also questioned. The girl was mortified. Apologised immediately. The teachers were clear. Do not joke about that. Do not do it, and certainly do not joke about it.

And now 2010s. Where you really, REALLY don't want to joke about it, as it'd probably be on file with the police rather than a stern talking to.

So yeah. YANBU and your husband was being sexist and stupid. Now your son thinks this is just a funny jolly jape, and doesn't understand its an act that could have serious ramifications. Kids are silly, but this would have been the perfect opportunity to give him the 'don't do that, ever' talk. Taking photos and congratulating him on his excellent wit was the absolute wrong thing to do.

Nope not funny.

Definitely not funny.

So your son put his hand up the skirt and your husband took photos? flipping heck

And btw if your son put his hand up a girl's skirt at school they treat it as a safeguarding issue, so I'd make sure he's aware how inappropriate this is (I know he's only 6 :))