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To think the anti-pink brigade can be a bit OTT

206 replies

NeedACleverNN · 05/04/2016 18:02

I have noticed on here there are some people who refuse to allow their girls wear anything pink/sparkly/overly feminine. A lot of the reasoning seems to be because it sets women back 100 years etc etc and gender neutral stuff.

However the same people are eager to point out they don't care if their son wears it and in fact actively encourage them to do so.

AIBU to think pink is just a colour and if girls want to enjoy pink and princesses and babies and pushchairs they should be able to just as much as a boy can?

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guerre · 05/04/2016 20:55

But what is wrong with pink and sparkly aswell. Some girls prefer it to be as girly as possible
NeedaCleverNN- but why is sparkly 'girly'?

Who has made it that things are 'girly' (or 'boy-y')?

We have lego- it's just coloured bricks (of a greater range than previously, when I was a child it was primary colours only)
We have playmobil- again, primary coloured plastic in a variety of shapes- police, fire dept, castle (grey, not pink- there surely aren't any rl pink castles?), boats, Egyptian pyramid etc etc
We have toy cars- all different colours
tea set- primary colours
till and play food- till is red and yellow, food is the colour of normal foods
moshi monsters- every colour under the sun
If we had room for a play kitchen, we'd have had the ducting from ikea, because I love the hob and the shelf above, but it's neutral, wooden colour.

I don't see where sparkly needs to be... maybe I'm a hippy or a boring old fart, but there aren't sparkly things in rl/nature other than sunlight shining through running water, or perhaps jewels (not that they're in plentiful supply around here!) why do toys need to be sparkly? Confused And why is sparkly a 'girly' thing?

nocutsnobuttsnococonuts · 05/04/2016 20:56

i dont see any issue with the pink supergirl outfit if thats what the girl wanted to wear. tbh lots of costumes arent entirely accurate. i bought my dd a captain america dress costume at christmas that was completely glittery and had a glitter shield... she loved it she doesnt care that cap doesnt wear a dress nor does he have a glitter shield! :)

there was a poster a bit further back that mentioned paw patrol, asda had a few bits on their website. i bought an age 3-4 boys hoodie with chase and marshall on for my petite almost 4 year old and it fits really well. :)

guerre · 05/04/2016 20:56

*duktig!

AuntieStella · 05/04/2016 21:01

That Superwoman costume is weird.

If shouldn't be pink any more than a batman outfit should be grey.

LineyReborn · 05/04/2016 21:04

lots of costumes aren't entirely accurate

Yeah, because superheroes actually exist, obvs.

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHorrid · 05/04/2016 21:05

I don't like Pink Stinks etc as I think it gives the message that to be acceptable, girls should be like boys

Really agree with this statement. I also love the pink tool kits.

It would be nice if there were more options other than pink but I do feel a little bit of sympathy for the marketers. My daughter picks a lot of her clothes and toys. She's five and always goes for something pink with glitter, flowers etc.

Thankfully liking pink and glitter as a young child doesn't condemn her to a life as a princess obsessed adult. So I don't let it worry me.

Itinerary · 05/04/2016 21:16

Tool kits usually seem to be black or grey, occasionally with an orange or yellow stripe thrown in. Yes, it would make a change for them to come in different colours. But why just pink again? I'd like a green one with purple zigzags.

cornishglos · 05/04/2016 21:25

I agree with MrsDeVere and thought Ifnotnowthenwhenever put it very well.

Waltermittythesequel · 05/04/2016 21:26

Mrs you quoted that like to make your point, which is why I went with it Confused

TheFairyCaravan · 05/04/2016 21:26

I like pink and I am bloody glad they make pink phones, pink kindle covers, pink laptops, pink pens, pink iPad covers etc. It means that I will always be able to find mine, living in a house full of males, and they won't steal the bloody things!

I always Hmm on these threads when people say there's only pink clothes etc for girls. It's such bollocks. I've got nieces and great nieces ranging in age from 35 to 8 months. I have never had a problem buying anything not pink for any of them. Shops hair aisles and aisles of girls clothes and the boys racks are just hid in the corner somewhere.

paxillin · 05/04/2016 21:33

Pink is good in shared housing with males, agreed. Even in the most disorganised student hovel, men won't take a pink towel, ibuprofen pack or cup for fear of catching girl. Which shows exactly what message the pink deluge gives out.

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 05/04/2016 21:43

It's like there are people who feel they have to be be offended about something

If there are some who get upset about a colour we really are on the road to hell.

Itinerary · 05/04/2016 21:44

there are people who feel they have to be be offended about something

Unsurprisingly, here's the "professionally offended" argument.

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 05/04/2016 21:54

Itinerary

What?

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 05/04/2016 21:58

"Pink is good in shared housing with males, agreed. Even in the most disorganised student hovel, men won't take a pink towel, ibuprofen pack or cup for fear of catching girl. Which shows exactly what message the pink deluge gives out."

It didn't stop the dses nicking my pens (I bought pink ones in the hopes of being able to keep a pen of my own - so unreasonable, I know).

I guess, in one way, it's a good thing, because they are happy to use pink things, without fear of catching girl. But I never have a pen when I need one, dammit!

gandalf456 · 05/04/2016 22:02

I don't care much either way about pink. My daughter grew out of it by 7. It seems pointless battling with them until then. An under 7 would not really get the entire point anyway. They just want to have what their friends have.

paxillin · 05/04/2016 22:06

Oh dear, SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius, you are doomed! Have you tried pens advertising always ultra or vagisil?

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 05/04/2016 22:22
Grin
BayLeaves · 05/04/2016 22:33

YABU. Think about it this way: If you looked through your child's wardrobe, would every colour of the rainbow be represented? Does it matter if one colour is missing? Pink, orange, blue, brown? Why would it matter?

Is there something about pink that should compell all parents to ensure their girl has at least one item of pink clothing? Is there something about girls that requires them all to have at least one item of pink clothing?

No? Then I think you'll find these parents are being perfectly reasonable in dressing their girls in a whole range of colours other than pink. There's nothing wrong, pretentious, or negative about going against the grain.

Itinerary · 05/04/2016 22:34

Thank goodness MN is blue and not pink! It would be very tiring to look at.

gandalf456 · 05/04/2016 22:37

I get why people balk at being swamped with pink. But to actively avoid pink? We need to get to the stage where I really is just another colour otherwise it's perpetuating the issue with it from reverse

gandalf456 · 05/04/2016 22:40

I was a member of a pink board once

TheFairyCaravan · 05/04/2016 22:44

Thank goodness MN is blue and not pink! It would be very tiring to look at.

I've customised mine so all my posts are pink!

gandalf456 · 05/04/2016 22:52

Mine are purple

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