My situation : 2 children 1 disabled hubby. I'm his registered carer and we claim income support. Before I became dh carer and had kids I worked very hard often working more than one job, so not work shy (in fact looking for part time work as we speak) just the situation. We are very lucky to live in a lovely home with a large garden for the children. Children are fed and clothed and have plenty of toys / days out / activities (within budget anyway!)
Myself and dh don't go out at all, don't drink or smoke, very rarely buy clothes have relatively low maintenance lives but my dh loves football so has sky ( I would rather not have sky but that's another topic)
My sil who has a very well paid job and my brother is a self made millionaire. They live in a huge house and want for nothing. I'm pleased for them, they work hard and play hard.
A conversation came up which I was not involved in but in the room whereby they were discussing politics with my dad. All of a sudden I hear my name called and asked how much our sky bill was, I replied £X I think, and then sil said very loudly "yeah that's not right people on benefits should not have sky tv"
I felt like a sub human who didn't deserve any pleasure (Not that it's my pleasure but it's the principle)!
Aibu to think if you are entitled to benefits (such as disabled benefits or caring benefits) you should be able to have a small luxury here and there if you have budgeted and all bills are covered?
Essentially I could have the govt pay for carers and I go out to work full time but it would cost the govt far more than I get paid to provide that service. Then I would be entitled to a life of free choice?