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Original poster

To think my P is fucking weird

47 replies

Fugghetaboutit · 03/04/2016 19:48

Went out shopping today as a family with kids, had lunch then mooched around shops - I took kids around toy section in shop while P could look in clothes shops mostly.

He was taking a while so I called him and said I'll meet you in car (in car park) when he's done he said ok.

Waited in car for 45 MINUTES total and went to call him to say hurry up as kid getting fractious but he called me at that moment asking where I was. Turns out he had got the bus home! Who does that? Sad Angry
Apparently he said he'll meet me at home twice he didn't

I was actually really upset and pissed off still am

Aibu to think if you go out as a family you come home together? And I'm annoyed I didn't get to buy one thing for myself that I needed due to having both kids. I think he's really quite odd.

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Sirzy · 03/04/2016 19:51

Sounds like a case of crossed wires.

molyholy · 03/04/2016 19:52

That is strange. Does he do other weird shit?

sooperdooper · 03/04/2016 19:54

That's bloody weird Confused

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 03/04/2016 19:55

I'm firmly on the fence here... I'd usually agree that if you go together you come back together, but you weren't actually together and that's unusual too... You essentially went together to do different things and as you finished at different times, it made sense for him to come home.

Communication might be an issue - he should have been clear about where he was meeting you, and you should have asked him to take one or both children if you needed to shop and wanted to do it without them, but that's separate to the offence of leaving. I don't think it's that bad on the face of it. Keeping you all waiting for him intentionally would have been rude.

Spandexpants007 · 03/04/2016 19:57

Does he usually do that sort of thing?

A one off misunderstanding is ok but I must admit its a bloody odd thing to do

HeartShapedBox · 03/04/2016 19:57

I'd be really pissed off in your shoes.

99percentchocolate · 03/04/2016 19:59

Yeah, that's a bit odd.

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Fugghetaboutit · 03/04/2016 20:01

I do agree with you Anchor and next time I'll give him the older child. I was actually waiting outside the shop for him to come and get ds but he was taking so long and the baby was crying I called and said I'll meet you in the car, he said ok.

It must've been crossed wires but why go home alone anyway.

He does act like a single bloke sometimes and it pisses me off. Swanning around getting his shit done while I'm left with the kids. Next time he can go and take one with him.

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Fugghetaboutit · 03/04/2016 20:02

I did burst into tears when he said he had got the bus home, not sure why probably baby hormones

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Houseworkavoider · 03/04/2016 20:05

I would be really quite pissed off.
Do you genuinely think it was crossed wires though. If it was a muddle up, I would find it funny and be taking the piss forever more!
You know him.

UsernameIncorrect · 03/04/2016 20:05

He didn't want to be with you.

Houseworkavoider · 03/04/2016 20:08

Ask him why he's been so selfish.
I don't blame you for crying Sad

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Fugghetaboutit · 03/04/2016 20:10

I never really think he does, User, but cheers !

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Inertia · 03/04/2016 20:14

I don't think it was crossed wires- I reckon he didn't fancy having the children to look after while you did your shopping. Next time, leave him with both and do your shopping first.

BirthdayBetty · 03/04/2016 20:16

Yanbu, that is fucking weird.

PPie10 · 03/04/2016 20:17

Yanbu, Did he not think you would need help with the kids or anything? How odd. Don't blame you for being upset.

Original poster
Fugghetaboutit · 03/04/2016 20:17

I'm certain if he said he'll meet me at home twice I would have heard.

Just find it really odd.

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Original poster
Fugghetaboutit · 03/04/2016 20:18

Yes, some help would've been nice. 3 year old and 3 month old. Lots of bags and heavy buggy.

I was very tempted not to pay for parking and give him the fine but didn't.

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VagueIdeas · 03/04/2016 20:21

So you arrived together, in the car, and we took it upon himself to get the bus alone?

Sounds like he wanted some me time. I would have been raging too.

VulcanWoman · 03/04/2016 20:23

Lying and doing something else.

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Fugghetaboutit · 03/04/2016 20:24

Like what? He was waiting outside the house when I got back as he didn't have keys.

Yes, Vague he's very me me me

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junebirthdaygirl · 03/04/2016 21:07

Does he get mixed up about where is is supposed to be much? That sort of mixing up can be part of dyspraxia. Otherwise it is weird

CaffeineBomb · 03/04/2016 21:13

Nice UserHmm op it sounds like a case of crossed wires but YANBU to be upset he should have taken one of the DC and made sure you had time to get what you needed

VulcanWoman · 03/04/2016 21:20

How much time from when you left him to when you got back to the house.

RubbleBubble00 · 03/04/2016 21:33

that's just weird. Why on earth would he get the bus when you went to town in the car. I would be very cross.

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