Firstly I'll start off with a disclaimer - I am a very emotional person who can be very upset very quickly if something hurts me. I am generally quite sensitive at the moment specifically about how I look (weight gain).
So I work with my OH and there is always this other woman (ow) sniffing around him. OW has just come out of a relationship with a married man (this is relevant). Now OW and OH sort of share a hobby which is fine by me but she always brings it up to me in a fairly antagonising way, think "oh I saw OH with his top off the other day" type comments. Which wind me up to no end because I think I would never say that to someone's girlfriend.
Anyway last week I was looking for a downloaded film and saw a porn folder on his laptop. Being a bit cheeky I thought I'd peek and see what he had been watching - I have no problem with him watching porn. To my horror I found a folder full of photos taken off Facebook of my friends (some he had never met) my best friend and this ow from work all showing significant amounts of cleavage or in tight dresses.
We spoke about it calmly and I said I would forget I saw it but for my own sanity please keep a distance from OW as she is pushing me to end of my tether. Told him I trusted him but I didn't appreciate being goaded into a reaction by her and this would make it worse.
This is getting really long - sorry. Today whilst out for dinner I noticed he was Facebook messaging her.. I lost my shit and said can you please stop messaging that slut who's tits you have saved on your laptop whilst out for dinner with me...
Now we have fallen out and apparently it's all my fault for being controlling... I don't think I am being emotionally abuse or controlling but now I'm doubting myself - please help!