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to think disabled parking spaces are there for a reason, not for the lazy

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stopandstandup123 · 30/03/2016 23:08

We have a Tesco express at the end of our road. It has one disabled parking space by the front door of the store. The non-disabled parking is at the back of the store, so a bit of a walk to the shop, but not excessive.

It really rankles me to see white van man, young, fit, clearly not disabled drivers, young mums sending child into store, etc using this only space as it is so close to the door of the store. Not a disabled badge in sight. Meanwhile, elderly and frail drivers make the long walk from the car park at the rear. I have seen a driver pull into the disabled space, stay in the car with engine running, while the passenger pops in for supplies. Unbelievable!

This disabled parking space is rarely empty, and there cannot be that many disabled drivers in our town.

AIBU to think we need to leave disabled spaces for those who need them.

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Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 30/03/2016 23:17

YNBU. It's the epitome of bad manners, and selfishness. These people could become disabled themselves one day. I bet they'd be the first to piss and moan, if. They couldn't get a space.

MumOnTheRunCatchingUp · 30/03/2016 23:19

Disabled spaces are for those registered disabled..... Not even the 'elderley and frail' if without a blue badge

Samcro · 30/03/2016 23:19

elderly and frail people are not always disabled. the only people who can park in that bay
so yanbu but the shit heads won't care and will keep parking there

stopandstandup123 · 31/03/2016 09:02

This really is the epitome of bad manners to me also Ilive. It really rankles with me and is on a par with the fit but busy (or on their mobile phone) barging ahead of the frail elderly through the doors of shops or into lifts, nearly knocking them flying.

I used to be proud of our country's good manners. I need to take the dog to the park to recover. Most dog walkers say hello, nod or smile as you pass, most pick up the dog poo, and it re-affirms the nicer side of the human race to me!

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sashh · 31/03/2016 09:09

I wish shops would refuse to serve people who park in them without a blue badge.

I have found completely blocking them in to quite effective.

catsinthecraddle · 31/03/2016 09:14

Of course YANBU

This should be a subject at school, as common sense doesn't seem to exist anymore. Too many people think it's completely ok to park in a disabled space if the driver stays in the car. I don't know why, but here you go.

Learning how to behave like a civilised human should be a mandatory GCSE subject. You won't change the attitude of morons who are willingly unpleasant, but you would at least educate the ones who don't mean to be rude but don't have a clue.

PPie10 · 31/03/2016 09:16

Yanbu I really wonder how people just go this and carry on as normal, shame on them. Wonder if they even think of the purpose of the spaces and not feel bad about still using them.

Shineyshoes10 · 31/03/2016 09:18

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VertigoNun · 31/03/2016 09:20

You don't know who has what condition. Fair enough if you make the effort to look for a blue badge. You would be surprised who doesn't look for one and assumes no wheelchair or old person = no problem.

kiwimumof2boys · 31/03/2016 09:20

Yes! My dear friend is disabled and i know it really annoys her - given that she has to pay for a disability permit.

lavenderdoilly · 31/03/2016 09:20

We have a couple of disabled bays in school car park which are used by able bodied parents when there are at least two parents who are disabled and struggle to park. I know all about non obvious conditions because I have MS but I am not a blue badge owner and so would NEVER use a disabled bay without one even on a bad day.

BeyondTellsEveryoneRealFacts · 31/03/2016 09:22

This is another of the reasons we are lucky i cant drive Grin dh is a lot less confrontational, i'd be blocking people in every day!

JustWantAnswers · 31/03/2016 09:23

YANBU to think non-blue badge holders should not be using a disabled space.

YABvU to assume that disabled means frail and elderly. Firstly because not all frail and elderly are disabled, secondly because you can be disabled at any age. I know a youngish someone (20's) who has too little feeling in his legs (along with spinal damage and damage to heart and lungs) to drive a car with the pedals, so he has hand controls. He can't walk far and only on flat surfaces. Yet to see him walk on a flat surface most people don't realise just how bad he is.

blankmind · 31/03/2016 09:41

YABvU to assume that disabled means frail and elderly
Absolutely!

to think disabled parking spaces are there for a reason, not for the lazy
nokidshere · 31/03/2016 09:42

I sometimes park in a disabled space if there are no other spaces free near the store even though I don't have a bb.

I can't walk more than a few yards, and am in constant pain, but the powers that be have decided that I don't need a bb.

I don't look disabled so am in no position to judge others but I do agree that if the driver isn't getting out of the car then they should park elsewhere

MumOnTheRunCatchingUp · 31/03/2016 09:46

But you have no blue badge!

toohardtothinkofaname · 31/03/2016 09:46

catsinthecraddle it's up to the parents surely? Too many people expecting schools to raise their kids whilst paying them peanuts & treating them poorly.

Ludwsys · 31/03/2016 09:47

YANBU to think Bob holders should be the only ones using the space

But as others have said YABU to assume disabilities are visible. My mum is definitely one you'd be moaning about.

toohardtothinkofaname · 31/03/2016 09:51

nokidshere no BB, no parking.

honkinghaddock · 31/03/2016 09:57

What matters is whether or not there is bb. I don't think people should be parking in a disabled space without one. I didn't park in them with ds until he got his badge - which meant that some places were inaccessible for us.

hownottofuckup · 31/03/2016 09:59

If you don't have a BB, you shouldn't use the disabled bays.

mamamea · 31/03/2016 09:59

"Disabled spaces are for those registered disabled..... Not even the 'elderley and frail' if without a blue badge"

The blue badge system does not apply in private car parks.

If you are elderly and frail then you might very well not have got around to organising a blue badge, it can take a while, and there is no reason why you should not use a privately owned disabled car park space, if you feel it necessary.

ArmchairTraveller · 31/03/2016 10:05

'Learning how to behave like a civilised human should be a mandatory GCSE subject.'

But the theory is no good, it needs to be one of those lost skills resurrected in the real world. If they are old enough to drive, they are surely old enough to attend evening civilisation classes.

BeyondTellsEveryoneRealFacts · 31/03/2016 10:12

Actually, even though i have a bb i have no problem with people like nokids using it. The powers that be can be arseholes and it is pure luck that i have one and she doesnt 😠

But it would obviously be impossible to police that. Not that anyone actually polices bb spaces anyway, just leave them being abused constantly and fuck the disabled people who cant park because of a selfish white van man.

LurkingHusband · 31/03/2016 10:17

The blue badge system does not apply in private car parks.

It does if the operators of the car parks (Sainsburys, certainly) make it a part of their T&Cs. Which they have. No BB - expect a parking charge notice.

And unlike some freeloaders, I was glad the Supreme Court allowed PCNs to be chased through court. It means people who abuse BB space can - and should - be made to pay.

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