Have N/C Firstly this is long, some of it will seem petty, some of it less so. I want to state everything as I want a genuine opinion on all facts.
I have a dd in secondary school and we have been having some issues. I have posted about some of these before so please bear with me.
Firstly she has learning difficulties, she is also very quiet.
Recently she was a victim of a serious incident which involved being threatened with a weapon, schools communication of this incident was awful, I made a formal complaint and have now been told that the year head will not discuss issues about dd with me anymore. I want to add that I have sent three emails in the last year to the year head (as is the proper channel even for minor issues or things or messages for the form teacher) so I am not a parent who is always pestering them.
Other issues. They identified her for mentoring as she was not meeting her potential. I became aware that all the other children who were doing mentoring had already started. DD wasn't. I chased it up, they said they had been busy and had not had chance to do it and would. I then received a letter stating dd had done so well on the mentoring course that she had been taken off it. However they had never started it.
I am consistently being told issues which relate to her sen at parents evenings only to find out the teacher does not know she has sen. This has happened on several occasions now despite reassurances it won't.
When dd was going abroad on a school trip they had promised her (as an sen student) that they organised sessions every year for children who needed more support to get to know others, especially those who were going alone without friends. (all dds friends dropped out after Charlie Hebdo attack) but dd at that time still wanted to go. They also promised they would make sure that she had at least one person she at least knew in her hotel room. They didn't.
While away she contacted me in a state, one of the boys who is a child regularly in trouble in school had started to target her, he got a whole bunch of his friends to target dd, They totally ruined her trip. DD is admittedly oversensitive anyway but he accused dd of biting him because she had stick out teeth and got lots of his cronies to taunt her. DD had reported this to the teachers in charge and they had done nothing initially. This happened three more times. Eventually I text them and they said dd was lying as she had said it had happened again on the coach and they said it had not and had been sorted already. (I later found out off another child this was not true) they eventually moved dd away from the only people she knew away from the boy but then let him sit behind her and taunt her again when they next stopped. The name calling continued for around 8 weeks in school although her form teacher did then deal with it.
When dd started back at school at the start of a new year she was lambasted in front of her class. She had moved up a set in English. The rules in her previous set had been you must always find out your reading levels from the library staff and pick a book within those levels to read. So if your level is 4.2 - 6.4 you must pick a book between that.The second rule was you must ALWAYS have a library book in class. DD had done this and had actually picked the lower end of the levels but not realising the new set teacher insisted they start off at the bottom of the level 4.2. Instead of explaining to dd she shouted at her in front of the whole class 'I don't know why YOU have picked that book for, when you are getting 100 percent on tests then you can choose (dd incidentally did get 100% on the next test) DD was heartbroken.
Sorry I said it was long! DD does not want to go back and I am reluctant to move her as the other options are not fantastic but feel entirely frustrated with them.